Do you have a broken heart?

India
August 13, 2008 12:21pm CST
How long, do you think, it takes for men/women to get over their ex? How to get over the impacts of ex?
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Aug 08
Yep. Depends on many things I think. My ex found somebody right away (before we even broke up) and I'm sure that made it easier for him. When I have somebody else to think about, I think about him less. I think part of it is in your own mind too. If you idealize the good parts of the relationship and don't dwell on the bad, it may make it harder to get over it than if you are realistic about the problems that caused you to break up. Some people are better at doing this than others are.
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
i totally agree that some people are better than others when it comes to moving on. Missing the good ol' times and the routine that goes with the whole relationship makes it even harder. But time really heals all wounds, it make take longer but it does.Someday you will just look back and smile at the fond memories.
• India
13 Aug 08
Thanks dawnald. So your opinion is that once it is decided that someone will end the relationship, for future, it is better not to think about the goodness of that person. Rather to focus on his/her bad. Yes, then it'll be easier to forget. I do agree. Anyway, once broken, objective is to come out of the separation stress. So your idea is realistic.
• Germany
14 Aug 08
Well it depends in how close you were, the time you had together and how much you actually knew each other... but the most important factor is the person itself.. for some it can take years to get over someone, for others maybe just hours (which implies a very bad memory or just that they didn't really cared about it). In my experience, it took me months to get over my first ex, and to do so i had to really make her hate me (she wanted me to be her friend, but i disappeared, try it.. it works).. but for others it can take quite longer.. the thing is that some people get sort of comfortable feeling blue, and pretty much that makes it harder..
• India
14 Aug 08
Thanks the_second1 for your well thought reply. The main thing is that how you look at it. For some, it takes long to shake off the past may be due good memories or bad memories. In any case, to me it seems that initial few days/weeks are very much critical.