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Hello. I don't really bother much if someone fails to understand me. I take it as their loss. But what an important point is that how do I react when I find that i have misunderstood someone. In such a situation, i terribly feel bad. Generally I adopt every possible way to judge (if at all it is necessary) people correctly, still sometimes i make a mistake. An apology? I don't think that's a good way to accept my failure. So i meet the the person and tell him elaborately why did I make mistake in judging him. It helps me and him a lot. We can understand our faults - both in judging(for me) and exhibition(for him).

I know exactly what you mean. People often assume that I'm stuck-up, because I'm shy and have trouble reaching out to people I haven't known for very long. It's not that I think I'm better than everyone else -- I'm just a little nervous getting to know people. I also have a friend who happens to be a cute blonde, and people often patronize her because they assume that she is dumb and superficial, when in reality she is a deep-thinking, intelligent person. I think that often people find comfort in stereotypes -- it's easy to assume that you know everything about someone just by looking at a specific feature or part of their personality. In reality, everyone is multi-faceted, and you simply can't get the whole story in 5 minutes -- or even 5 years -- of knowing someone. In addition, people grow and change, so even if they are one way at one point in their lives, that could change over time. It's just ridiculous to hold someone to a rigid stereotype in your mind. I think it puts up walls against getting to know some truly great people.

hi there... it's easy sometimes to judge people through first impressions and how they act. sometimes, it's true, sometime it is not. it's very hard sometimes to establish trust, even as simple as friendship because we can't really tell if the person is sincere and true until we spend alot of time with them and see them in various situations life and how they react. sometimes, i am misunderstood by people as snobbish because i dont say hi to them but they don't know that i am near-sighted and i am not a visual person. my friends know me that i am an audio person so instead of smiling and waving to me, they just call me out and i would immediately respond. sometimes, i feel bad that they think bad of me but on the other hand, i am just telling myself that we can't please everyone and if we do so, it will just drive me crazy for trying. hehehe... how about you, how do you deal with it? happy mylotting!

I think that you are exactly right. People do jump to criticize others sometimes without knowing all of the facts first. Maybe people are just scared to get to know somebody sometimes. It seems that it is natural for people to just insult or criticize and they hurt others without realizing it. I felt that I have been ridiculed in my day and it can hurt me when I think about it but I have just had to grow up and move on with my life. Sometimes you just need to have good self esteem and feel good about yourself. Just try to treat people like you would want to be treated is a saying that I have always appreciated.