What to Give For Wedding Gifts?

@vera5d (3958)
United States
August 13, 2008 2:39pm CST
We have 3 weddings to go to in the next couple of months and I'm not sure what to get any of them. Normally I like to just give hard cold cash but with so many weddings I honestly just can't afford to spend a lot of money on all of them & I can't give less than $100 in cash without feeling like it's too little ($100 doesn't even buy you a tank of gas anymore!) I looked at their registries, and most of them are asking for things I know they will NEVER use (like a blender! or a waffle maker! Sure, some people might use those, but I know my friends wouldn't!) Any ideas? And wedding gifts you may have gotten that you loved? (My hubby and i didn't have a "wedding" per se, so we got no gifts for me to use as inspiration. Maybe I should give them cards that say "I'll give you your wedding present when you give us ours, lol...hmmm...probably not a good idea!) The cheaper the ideas the better! (cheap does not always mean meaningless!)
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@auntiedis (165)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Most of the weddings I have been invited to, I have given the couple a nice little basket of housewarming type things. Candles, a picture frame, some chocolate or little snacky foods, other such things. It's fun to gather things together based on the personalities of the couple and their likes/dislikes.
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
14 Aug 08
I think a little gift basket could be a good way to go - you can make them yourself for really cheap (especially if you hit up the dollar stores) but they seem expensive as some usually sell for $100 or more :) Good idea!
@4mymak (1796)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 08
i guess in each culture, the types of gifts might differ.. in my community here.. we normally give cash.. but if it is someone from the office.. we normally collect the cash and buy something 'bigger' or 'more'.. and most of the time we buy kitchen appliances or kitchenware... but once - i bought 'matching pyjamas' and 'matching towels' for the couple.. since i've known both of them from my schooling days..
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
14 Aug 08
That's not a bad idea!
@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
13 Aug 08
Hi! You made me think so much to be honest and I can't still worked it out what would be the nice gift that it wont cost too much... Probably a card or a photo frame or maybe small things that they can use it everyday like tea cups, flower vase. I'm sorry this all I can come up, my mind it not working well, lol....
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
14 Aug 08
That is okay, I can't think of anything either! Don't worry, I will figure out something eventually I'm sure!
@drannhh (15002)
• United States
13 Aug 08
This is always a hard situation. We didn't have a wedding either, we just got married and left everybody else out of it, so it always irks me a little when people we are not really close to invite us to weddings, thinking that we probably won't attend but might send a gift, and in truth, usually we don't. Same thing with babies. However, when a gift is necessary or desirable, we try to come up with one that grows, such as a savings bond or other asset that would increase in value. You might find the last paragraph of this article interesting: http://www.wowgiftideas.com/savings_bonds_as_gifts.html
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
14 Aug 08
that is a pretty good idea actually...then at least if it's only for $50 it will hopefully be worth more someday! Are you back from your trip? Did you guys have a good time?
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@drannhh (15002)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Yeppers, back, but not quite reacclimated---nor unpacked. We had a great trip! It is also great to be back.
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
16 Aug 08
I always think that too - the trip is great, but being home never seemed nicer!
@Barb42 (4225)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Kitchen utensils are a great gift, put in a nice ceramic vase that holds all of them. Also, a lined basket with an assortment of things such as towels, wash cloths, soap, bubble bath, etc., is also a nice gift. It doesn't have to be expensive - the thought counts! I have bowls that I got at my wedding shower many years ago. When I use them, I think about the giver and that was over 44 years ago.
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
16 Aug 08
Bowls are nice, it never seems like we have enough! That's not a bad idea at all. Now though I think I have too many good suggestions to choose one!
@Barb42 (4225)
• United States
16 Aug 08
You have lots of choices. And I am sure anything you buy will be appreciated by the recipients. We all seem to worry too much when it comes to these decisions. I know I will think I have my mind made up and get into the store only to change it again.
@fwidman (11519)
• United States
13 Aug 08
I wish I knew the answer to this question myself. My 40 year old son is finally getting married in November and I have no clue what to give as a gift. I'm sure he would be happy just by having me travel to Seattle to be at the wedding, but I don't think his new wife would feel the same way I have not met this woman yet so I have no idea what she is like, is she a cook or a gardener or what. So, I think I shall follow your discussion and see if I get any ideas from the rest of the responders
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Hopefully we will get some good ideas!! It is hard when you don't know the other person very well!
@fwidman (11519)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Yes, it is hard. I sent my ex-wife an email asking her for suggestions, maybe she will help me. If all else fails me, I will ask my son what he really wants
@chrislotz (8207)
• Canada
18 Aug 08
Do you sew or knit or do any crafts like paintings, anything that you can make yourself? I love to get home made gifts as to me they have more meaning since they are made from the heart. If not, how about a nice vase or crystal fruit bowl. I know I have seen some really nice ones at Sears for around $30 and that isn't so bad. Plus they are real crystal so they look more expensive than they are. Let's see what else. I know when I got married I got a 4 piece set of gold cutlery and I still have them and enjoy them. I only use them on special occasions, but they are one of the things I did keep from those days. I am divorced many years ago, but I loved them so much I kept them. Most of the stuff that reminded me of my marriage, I got rid of but not those. Or a silver cup with their names ingraved in it and the date of their wedding and your names ingraved on the bottom so they will always know where it came from. I am sure that you will get lots of ideas from the other members here, so I don't want to give you too many things to think about, so that's it for now, my friend.
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
21 Aug 08
I like to do crafts, but sadly just don't have the time. I joked with my one friend that i was going to knit them matching sweaters :)
@1grnthmb (2063)
• United States
16 Aug 08
I have set it so I always give clocks for wedding gifts. Everyone seems to need a clock and no one else gives them so it is a perfect gift to give and they come in all sorts of styles and price ranges. A real good choose is the anniversary clocks.
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
21 Aug 08
That's a good idea!
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
I want unique ideas so I would give 'a pair of rabbit' as a wedding gift. See as they go on honeymoon, the rabbit would also do the same. LOLS!
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
21 Aug 08
that's funny.
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
14 Aug 08
I think the best gift to give is a recipe with everything you need to fix that recipe. I got this as one of my gifts for my wedding and thought it was the best gift b/c they are giving me a gift that was passed on in their family. It wasn't just something they picked off my registry and it made it more special. My husband put a food processor on our list and someone bought it and I still laugh at him b/c I told him we would never use it. It sits in our cabinet for 8 years now. USE IT ALREADY lol.
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
16 Aug 08
I asked for a food processer for xmas last year...I will be honest I only use it about once every few months :) Had our garden not been eaten this summer by the wildlife I would probably be using it though, since it was all the veggies to chop that made me want it in the first place! Darn groundhogs! I like the recipe idea - there is also a site called tastebook.com where you can make your own recipe book, that would be pretty neat! Or I could get them a photobook maybe...(it just dawned on me that I have all these gift ideas I post up on my websites but never though to use as wedding presents!)
@dani27 (546)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Well cher913 kinda had my idea too. First off personally I think the most cash we got for our wedding was $50 and we were very pleased with that. But it is always very personal to get a gift. Some of the best gifts we got and now that we give others is kits. Buy a pizza pan, the mixture, a movie and treats to go with it. Something like a date night. That can be spagetti or pizza or buy the waffle maker with mix and an apron and the movie Breakfast at Tiffany's. Something like that. I always loved those creative gifts. Good luck.
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
16 Aug 08
Those do sound like they would be fun to make and get :)
• United States
14 Aug 08
This is a good question! I would buy them what they are requesting. The Blender and the Waffle Maker would be more reasonible then a 100.00 gift card. If you want to make the gift a little bigger then you can add a gift Card to the local grocery store so that they can get the Waffle batter mix and syurp! Hope you likethis idea!
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
14 Aug 08
I like the idea of adding waffle batter along with the waffle maker!
@Theresam (1181)
• United States
14 Aug 08
I always give cash for a gift for a wedding. $100 is what I give for my husband and myself. We give actual gifts for showers, but not for weddings. Weddings are so expesnive these days!
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
14 Aug 08
They sure are...I just can't afford so many all at once! Not to mention we will have travel expenses & have to find someone to take our kids.
• United States
14 Aug 08
Give them something useful, like blankets, dishes, towels, bedding, appliances, cookware, hardware, things for around the home. My family always gives people who are getting married something useful.
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Useful is always good!
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
errr, I am really not sure bout this, but how about, a picture frame, find something out of the ordinary.. or make something.. I make things for gifts.. I really dont like thinking a lot on what to give.. And it is cheaper when I make something.. and it is very unique..
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
14 Aug 08
I am thinking of making them my collage art, but they are not the type that would appreciate that unfortunately.
• China
14 Aug 08
in our china .this is also a big problem to all of us .because not all of us is rich.maybe a flower is a good choice?
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
14 Aug 08
flowers are nice, but they will all likely have a ton leftover from the wedding!
• United States
14 Aug 08
I think the best thing to get for a newlywed couple is something useful for their new home. Try a toaster or even a toaster oven. This will be very useful for the couple and they can enjoy their toast every morning. Or even a high end coffee maker. I work at Sanrio (the hello kitty store) and we have the cutest hello kitty toaster and coffee maker. The toaster actually imprints a picture of hello kitty on the toast. It is soo cute. And they only run for about 60 bucks. Not bad. And the couple will love it and use it.
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
14 Aug 08
That does sound like a cute toaster! I only spent $3 for my toaster though, so would be hard for me to spend more than that on one!
@vaishalik (237)
• India
14 Aug 08
Actually hard cash gift is best one, they can buy what they want, as per their needs. Or a nice photo frame is also a good gift.
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
14 Aug 08
cold hard cash is great if you have $500 of it to just give to your friends...but alas I do not, so they will have to settle with whatever else we give them!
@Polly1 (12650)
• United States
14 Aug 08
I love getting new sheets for the bed. Towels are nice too, kitchen and bath. Do you know what size bed they have, color of the bathroom or kitchen. His and her beach towels are nice too. Gift certificate for dinner a their favorite restaurant. These are a few ideas I thought of right away.
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Most of them already have everything they need for a house, so that makes it a little trickier :) Those are all good suggestions though :)
@magojordan (3256)
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
Well you could always settle for something that you think they could use right? If you are really close to the couple you could give them gifts that would spice up their relationship even more If not then you could always settle with the usual household appliances. If you still can't find one maybe a gift certificate would do good if you don't want cold cash.
@vera5d (3958)
• United States
14 Aug 08
Haha, I have a rule that a present needs to be able to be opened in front of grandma, lol.