Is it easier to help a friend or a relative?

Philippines
August 14, 2008 7:32pm CST
Everyone experiences many kinds of challenges. Because life is difficult there comes a time where we needed help or others comes to us to ask for help. As a person who seems to have a certain kind of personality that they call it strong, I am always grateful when someone ask me for my help be it a relative or a friend. But when situation ask for me to seek help from others,I find it easier to get help from my friends than my relatives. In your life, do you find it easier to help a friend or a relative?
5 responses
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
I am the type of person that people go to for help. I remember when I was in college, friends would often ask me for advice. I am also the generous type, so I always lend help, may it be financial or emotional to people who are close to me. Even with my family I am very open to helping them. My helping hand does not chose whether a relative is in need or a friend. But when it comes to asking for help, I'd rather solicit help from my friends than my relatives. I don't why but I find it hard to ask for them, not that they would not help, but I just can't ask for them. Maybe because my friends have known me since and we have been through a lot and have seen each other in the most gruesome moment of our lives.
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
Thank you so much for commenting. I do feel that I am not alone, that others also goes through life's real challenges. It is true that most of the times it is easier to ask help from friends. Friend's compassion are different.And sometimes,friends are more appreciative than family and relatives that you have helped.
@jillhill (37386)
• United States
15 Aug 08
My family is very close so I would have to say my family. Just recently my older sister had a rental unit that the tenants destroyed...literally. All of my family took turns going in and painting etc....so definately it's my family.
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
I admire your family. Surely,you and your family are friends. Not all family are like that.
@zeny_zion (1284)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
they are just the same. they both need help and if i can help them ill both help them. the only difference is that one is a friend and the other is my relative.
@dragon54u (31556)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I find it very difficult to ask for help, whether it's a friend or a relative. I have no problem helping others, though, and gladly do so. People know that when I ask for help things have gone so badly that there's no other option for me.
@celticeagle (116675)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Aug 08
Dipends on the situation at hand. With relatives sometimes family ties get in the way one way or another. Friends can turn on you when you least expect it. Either can be a problem. Thought here is important.