why do Teen agers now are hard to control?

@Bebs08 (10690)
United States
August 15, 2008 1:09pm CST
I don't feel good to see teen agers who are strong willed. I have no kids of my own but I have friends who have. I am just sorry to see them having a deep sigh when their teen agers strongly disagree with them, and go their way whether their parents permit them to go or not. I am just wondering of what would they become? what will their future be? It's so sad. I hope this is not happening to you as a parent. If ever, you are in this situation, what would you do? Well, for me, the best thing is train them while they are yet very young. do bot wait when they become teen agers before you execute discipline. Do you believe in this?
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• China
20 Sep 08
Different have different eyes.What's more we grow up in different times, it can never be same. While being the youths, we all have some time that we are puzzled with the world and ourselves. May some of people want to show speclities to make themselves known and noticed. We need to be loved and love the others.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
23 Sep 08
that's it. teen agers need love and attention too. and if they are neglected because parents maybe are to busy with work, they will rebel and become uncontrollable.
• Australia
20 Sep 08
Well I agree. The teenagers these days are harder to control. I think it stems from the early days as a child when they need the discipline. I hope that my kids when get older they will be good teens.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
23 Sep 08
exactly right!!! if kids are properly trained and disciplined, they they get into teenage years, they are not hard to control. it is just a matter of proper training and discipline when they are yet young.
@shana123 (2096)
• India
16 Aug 08
Well me and my bro are teen agers at home, i dont say that i completely obey my parents but i can assure i fear them and respect them so i agree with whatever they tell me.. and if im not agreeing i will explain them even if they aren't consoled i do something what they want ( finally it ends up in mess!) When it comes to my bro , he will not respect anyone at home he speaks bad of everyone, he doesnt even open his books even during his exam time when i ask he gives me a blow and keep my mouth shut but if my parents ask him he will not respond properly.. this is all because he is their pet especially pet of my mom.She love only her male child ( she do loves me but she shows more intrest on him) so she gives him all he wants and maintains poor relationship i mean she is very leneant with him thats why my bro is not respecting her.., if the parents develop discipline in every area then these problem will not occur and teens will also respect atleast they will take up their parents advice..This is the small request to all parents..
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I agree with you my dear!! when parents are lenient in disciplining their kids and much more if they have favorites, it will create a problem. I think, this is one thing why there are problem teen agers its because of the way parents deal with them in the home. Like what you said, I agree with that...Kids would have less respect to the parents who is not firmed and would always give in to the wishes of their kids.
• United States
16 Aug 08
alot of the issues with teens is that people think that getting on to your kids when they are young is wrong. so many parents now when the kids are little and throwing a fit in the store just get them what they want to get it over with and to get the kid quite or they say you are in trouble but do nothing about it. well as they grow they know they can do it and more. my kids mind and lsiten i dont have the issue but alot of there friends i see them do it to there parents. personally when my kids acted up in the store i stopped talked to them if that didnt work warned them tnen patted them on the but said no and then when we got home we talked about it and well they lost a privledge. society has made it wrong to pat your kids when they are doing wrong. i am not saying beat them or even spank them when they are young if you pat them and use a mean voice they know who is boss.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Right!! I agree!! You have the right to discipline your kids because they will also become a problem of society when you will adhere to what the society said.. that it is against the law to spank a child. Society is not the one responsible for your kid? we ourselves have the burden for them.
@salonga (27986)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
Right you are my friend. The Bible say: Train up a child in the way they should go and when they are old they will not depart from it. It is for us parents to do the training. Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child so if we will just let them do their thing then the result would be unruly, strong-willed children. The world is filled with sins and bad examples all around and if we let our children absorb all these then we will cry later when we see our children being so disobedient and disrespectful. And also I would like to remind the warning written in the Bible in 2 TIMOTHY 3:1-2 “This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their ownselves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,...” So perhaps we really have to raise our children well and keep special attention on them. Have a nice day!
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
17 Aug 08
YOu are absolutely right my friend. I agree with your Bible qoutes. So true that parents should keep eye with their children and provide proper guidance and when they are old they will remember what Mom and Dad said.
@dheal888 (283)
• Indonesia
15 Aug 08
For me, teen agers still childhood, they are still children but teenagers are in motion of thought specifically on childhood to adulthood as the abstract thinking. Parents can be avoided all of teen problem if they are trained also always give supported during difficult period. So, I believe we can help and find solutions all about teen problems. Nobody perfect, but we can try, change forward better teens life. Nothing destroys trust and respect faster than dishonesty. Is it true?
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Yes you are right!! we cam help them by training them right when they are yet young.
• Sweden
16 Aug 08
I notice that to young teenagers that they dont respect or obey there parent,Its like they are the powerful,and i felt sad for that.When i was a kids i never been like that we always trust our parent.I think if i will be mom soon i will teach my kids in the future that they must repsect there parent or other people who is older than them.I will traine them when they still small so that they can able to understand it,and i would try to explain to then why is it like that.
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Yes, teen agers of yesterday are respectful to their parents than of today. Maybe because of too much exposure to the media or some other factors in the new world.