How old were you when you left home?

@Humbug25 (12551)
August 15, 2008 2:28pm CST
I was 16 when I left the family home to make a life of my own. In England it is against the law for a minor to live on their own unless the landlord has written permission from a parent. I guess my mum thought I would be back after a couple of weeks needing my washing done, so she gave her permission. But I didn't, in fact I never went back. I don't have or never have had a bad relationship with my mother I just wanted to be totally independant and that was it. How old were you when you left home? Did you regret the desision or did you wish you had done it sooner?
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
16 Aug 08
My mother and I had a very bad altercation when I was 16. I left home and was very fortunate that a cashier in the local bank picked me up the same day and I went to stay with her for a week. I learned things there that I can't write about here! I then moved on, came back, went to college, left college, got a job, moved to Devon then Oxfordshire, moved to London, went to Germany, came back to London, married and moved here to Salisbury etc etc. Mum and I get on well now though.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
16 Aug 08
PS. Haven't you gone yet?
@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi ya p1kef1sh You sure have led a colourful life! Where abouts in Devon did you live? No, I haven't gone yet, trying to avoid the Saturday traffic by going early tomorrow morning, why did you miss me already? Thank you, as always, for your response
@p1kef1sh (45640)
16 Aug 08
Totnes. Then near Axminster (my sister and I still do have a house there in fact). I thought that you were off for the weekend? Anyway, the M5/6 ought to be fairly quiet. Don't rush and make sure that you have a couple of stops.
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
well, i am still at home. i still live with my parents and i am already 22. umm.. that's how we Filipinos are. it's part of the culture. the children leave the house once they are married. as long as they are single, they stay in their parents house! and i am very comfortable with it.. there are even some Filipinos who live with their parents even if they have their own family. it's like extended family kind of thing, but in my own family, we don't do that, we would separate from our parents home once we get married, and i think that's good compared to staying with the same house as your parents even if you already have your own family!
@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi there austere I don't have a problem with any of that but I do think that married couples do need their privacey and it wouldn't be my choice to live with my parents if I was in a marriage!! Thank you for your response
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
Same here. if i get married someday.. soon.. i dont know when exactly but my boyfriend and i are talking about settling in the future.. in the near future.. we of course should live in a separate house and start to live our lives together..on our own. Privacy as a marriage couple of course is important and decision making is sometimes influenced by the parents if married couple continue to live in the parents house. so it is always the best option to live on your oen with your life partner after marriage. that will also help you to become independent and solve whatever problems and trials as married couples together.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
16 Aug 08
since my family was very poor i left my home or family since i was 19 but for good.i went to a big city to find a job and can study during the night and no regrets coz since then i become a matured minded and has a high ambition in short i was trying hard to finished my study. sweat and pain i passed all that thanks God i am sucessful.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi there bombshell Wow you did well for yourself then. Thank you for your response
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
16 Aug 08
thanks for the complimenst and thanks to you too with your topic.
@orejin (198)
• India
16 Aug 08
i was 18 old when i first left home for education purpose....
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi orejin That does seem to be alot of people's reason for moving out of home. Thank you for your response
@orejin (198)
• India
17 Aug 08
yeah it is...people either come out home home for education purpose or for job.....
@sweet_pea (3325)
• Philippines
19 May 11
I was 21 when I left home to take on a first job at a different city. I was away from home for about 6 months until I decided to quit taking on a job just near where my mom was living. So I moved again with her. I permanently moved out from home when I was 24 when I relocated again because of work. I had ever since lived on my own up to the time I got married and raised a family of my own.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
21 May 11
Hi sweet_pea I guess at 21 you weren't quite ready yet. We are all different and it takes some of us longer than others, I know of some people that are still living at home at the age of 30+!! Thanks for your response
@lixiaos77 (1030)
• Shijiazhuang, China
16 Aug 08
I was 18 when I left my family and enter a college. It is not far away from my hometown but it is not easy to get there. It will take me 21 hours to get there if every thing is smoothly. I will change different vehicles 4 times and sometime I have to wait for the train.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi lixiaos77 Wow 21 hours that sure is a long time! Thank you for your response.
• United States
16 Aug 08
I left home at when I was 21 and with a one month old baby. It was pretty scary.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi prinzess1515 and welcome to myLot My that is pretty scarey but things have a habit of working themeselves out it you want them to. Take care and thanks for your reponse.
@gemini_rose (16194)
16 Aug 08
I was 17 when I left for good, and although I did have to go back for a while it was not for long. I wish that I had not left under the circumstances that I did and had been a bit more in control of myself. But I too was very independant and took to living on my own really well.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi gemini_rose Nothing to it is there? Thank you for your response
@CopyPaper (229)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
I don't have had a bad relationship with my parents, too. But I was also left the ancestral house when I was 16, that was when I left for school in college which was miles away from home. It was my first time that made me much more independent. I just visit them and spend my vacation once in a while. Even now.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi ya CopyPaper Long time no see!! How ya been? I too go back to my mum's for holidays, I was just there a week ago and had a great time seeing all my old friends too! Thank you for your response
@skenthal (1022)
• Turkey
16 Aug 08
i still live at home and i am 20. i like that i dont have to pay for anything and everything gets washed/cleaned, and well i dont have to deal with finding food. but i would love to move out. as soon as i graduate from university i am going to move out. i cant wait. most of my friends are in the same situation as me, so maybe i can move in with one of my buddies and we can share the burden and chores. still its going to be fun when it happens.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi skenthal I bet you can't wait and it is a really good idea to move in with a friend so then you will be able to afford a nicer place then if you were on your own. Thank you for your response.
• United States
16 Aug 08
I was 17 when I left home. I got married and had my first baby at 19. I wanted to be independent to, but after a few years I went back to my moms. I think things would of been alot better if I wasnt married.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi WiteNgtOwl Yes marriage can change of lot of things! Thank you for your response
• China
16 Aug 08
when i left i was 18 and i went to another big city to work.It was really hard at first .
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi there jackliuliu Well at least you know it does get easier!! thank you for your response
@snowy22315 (55780)
• United States
16 Aug 08
I left home when I was 19 to go to college and more or less permantely when I was 21. I came back briefly when I was out of a job when I was 23. I dont regret leaving home at that age but when my son was young and I was divorced I should have moved closer to home so he could have had a more secure upbringing.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi there snowy22315 At least you saw sense when you had no job and went home instead of struggling. Thank you for your response
• United States
16 Aug 08
I left home actually at 21 to be on my own. I don't think that my mother never wanted me to leave, but in a way I think that Ishould have stayed a little bit longer at her house. I don't think I was mature enough to be out on my own.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi there trisha_nava82 I think that for some of us it is younger and others a bit later. Thank you for your response
• China
16 Aug 08
I remeber the first time i leave my family is 7 years ago ,i am 18 years old ,that time i am to a high school i have no choise ,and at last i have to come back each month . i think it is very hard to pass for the first because in the past i had never leave my parents ,even a day. now i remebered that , i think it just nothing for me .
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hello lyy284891086 I should it would be hard leaving your family for the first time if you have never been without them before. Thank you for your response
• United States
16 Aug 08
I was 19, had a job and could pay my own bills. If you are a responsible person and can take care of yourself, find your own way in life.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi RhythmWalker1 You are absolutely right! Thank you for your response
16 Aug 08
I was 17 when I went to University. I don't remember the first year as being particularly enjoyable, but my brother didn't leave home until his mid-20's. I go crazy after 4 hours staying at their place now
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi there charnley123 Mid 20's eh? That's considered quite old here. Thank you for your response
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
16 Aug 08
i only left my house completely when i get married with my hubby... that is when i am 27... before that, i study overseas and also away from my parents... but i always go back to them during holiday... now that i am married, i have my own house and try not to bother my parents as much as i can... take care and have a nice day...
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi ya lingli_78 It is always good to go back and visit your parents! Thank you for your response
@valeria1 (2723)
• United States
16 Aug 08
Latins tends to stay at home until they marry so in my case I left home when I was 33! Both has its plus and minus sides. Living with mummy is good you do not have to pay bills and all that, but no privacy. Living by yourself lots of responsibility but lots of freedom so it depends what you need and want for your life!
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi valeria1 Absolutely, I couldn't have said it better myself!! Thank you for responding
• China
16 Aug 08
well, i left home at the same age of you but i was still dependent on my family until last year i finally finished my university education. I don't regret for this because i think i have to get at least the bachelor's degree to find a job in the society. And i studied the right thing that i am interested and now i am using it as a tool to earn a living...
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@Humbug25 (12551)
16 Aug 08
Hi Denise_Tung I was very stuborn (and still am) and I wouldn't have moved out unless I could've supported myself and never asked my mum for money. Thank you for your response.