Asking for the woman's fathers permission before proposing?

My niece's boyfriend recently went up to New York to ask her father for her hand in marriage. She wasn't aware that he planned to do this, it was a nice surprise. He proposed and gave her an engagement ring while at the movies which he rented for a short film he made of him proposing. She cried and said yes. They will have a destination wedding in two years and are saving for a home at the present time. Am going to their engagement party on the l2th of November. It's all such a happy time.

I plan to which if its the current girl it could be a long wait as I don't see him very often I met him like once in the 9 or so months we been going out! He seems like a very nice bloke though and seems like he would appreciate the gesture as most would, but thing is what would you do if he said no? Nightmare!

No i don't think it's necesarry for the man to ask the womans fathers permission to mary his daughter.

i think it is both respectful and romantic. It shows the father and the family that this man clearly is looking for their blessing and approval and that he has enough respect for the sanctity of family to ask. It also shows the woman that her husband has thought so much about it that he cared enough to ask her father and her family. My boyfriend plans on speaking to my father before he proposes. To some people it may not be "necessary" but I do think it is a good idea.

agreed. it would be out of respect for the family, but not REQUIRED. lol

well yeah, my bf did that, it was nice... felt secured and so did my family

i think thats really nice if they do, but its not nessesary.

I did and I think it gets things off on the right footing. Her father even said he respected me for doing the traditional thing.

It's probably not really essential anymore these days, but it certainly is a nice gesture. Might also be a good idea to get her family onside early too lol

As a woman, I don't think it's neccessary. But it is a nice gesture. The father will appreciate it and so will the girl. It shows respect the the family.

I don't think it's neccessary

well yeah, my bf did that, it was nice... felt secured and so did my family

I would do.

As a woman and self-proclaimed daddy's girl, it was absolutely necessary to me. Not because I have to have my father's permission, but because I wanted it to be traditional and to know that my dad was happy about it...even though I knew he would be because he loves my husband.

This seems very quaint and old-fashioned. I don't think it's necessary, but it depends on the family - some people might appreciate this sort of thing.

My father told my husband he should marry me. I think it's weird to have your father know you are getting proposed to before you are asked yourself. What if he says yes and you say no. Or maybe he will say no. I think it's an old tradition that is not necessary anymore.

I don't really think that it happens to much these days. my husband didn't ask my dad, he told my dad he was going to ask me.. LOL they already knew eachother for years and were friends on the golf course. As a mom, I would love to have the guy ask my husband and I ( it is a very respectful and nice jesture) .. many, many, many years down the road, she is 7

I don't think that it is necessary, but I think it's nice. I would feel good about it if a guy asked my father's permission. Even if my dad said no, I would still marry the guy-I just think it's nice to ask.

That's no tradition of mine. My tradition is however, that you are grown and you do what you want to do. Between the woman and the man, if it was you both want then go ahead. What happens if the father says no? Then what? People should do what makes them feel happy unless he or she is unsure about what they are doing anyway

My husband asked after he had already asked me. He just thought it was the right thing to do. I think it shows that the guy respects the parents.