I dont like having people around all the time.

@saundyl (9698)
Canada
August 15, 2008 8:25pm CST
I'm someone who likes to live alone, likes peace and quiet and i tend to get rather grumpy when people are around me too much. usually around 3-4 days i start needing alone time or i get snappy with people. I go to hide however and people FOLLOW ME and dont leave me be. They should know after 26 years of me being around how i am and to leave me be for a while. Its not so bad when its one or two people around but..11 other people start getting on my nerves. How well do you deal with people around? Do you need your alone time.
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26 responses
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
16 Aug 08
I like alone time, I live on my own and I know I prefer to go visit people these days rather than they come to me as then i can leave when i have had enough, I guess I have set my little house to be my world and I prefer to be in it just by myself or with that special person not heeps of people...
@GardenGerty (89943)
• Marion, Kansas
16 Aug 08
Is that why I would rather go to them? I never sorted that part out. I am like you.
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
16 Aug 08
We are cool people
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
16 Aug 08
I think that very reason is why i rarely offer my house up for people to stay at...I'd rather go see them and leave when i have enough.
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@GardenGerty (89943)
• Marion, Kansas
16 Aug 08
Yes, definitely. I chalk it up to old age, in my case. Mostly, I want hubby to be gone part of the time I am home, as well, but not too long. I can handle three to four days, just like you said, of other people, then I am done. Even if I go visiting elsewhere, that is how it is. Luckily most of my family understands this. We are all alike. We want to go to our rooms, go for a walk, take a nap. I do not want hubby to be gone too long, though, just a little while, so I can do stuff that he gets nervous about when he sees me do it.
@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
16 Aug 08
I dont have an issue with my boyfriend being around but some of my family just doesnt get it.
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• Canada
16 Aug 08
Oh, I know the feeling. I really know that feeling. My huband and I are boh exactly the same way, and people still don't get it. They still push us around, and bug us o be more social. I'm in the middle of a bit of a stand-off with my mother tonight because my iste is being a spoiled brat about something. Mom's trying to pin it all back on me and.... The reason why it's so great to be alone is beause when my husband I are alone, no one's around to pi$$ us off! ;)
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
16 Aug 08
Oh no! If your sisters the one doing something it should be pinned on her not you. I hate it when people push me to be more social. I'm HAPPY to be alone read a book cook and stuff for myself. I'm glad my boyfriend is similar to me in that mind as well...and he lets me be me.
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@philjas (1134)
• United States
16 Aug 08
Here here! Now that I'm older people pretty much accept me the way I am but all my life my biggest pet peeve was people insisting I should "get out more" and be more sociable. It unfortunately took me a long time to realize for myself that I'm HAPPY the way I am and there's nothing wrong with it! For me "alone time" is necessary like 85% of the time. I was posting about this in another discussion but this is why I love the internet, because you can be "with" people and alone at the same time, you know what I mean?
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
24 Aug 08
I totally understand what you mean and agree!
@CharRay7 (1549)
• United States
18 Aug 08
being alone - photo of woman alone
Hi, I personally would rather be alone than with other people. I don't know if I'm weird or what, but I'm much happier when I'm here in the house by myself. I dont' like groups of people either. They drive me nuts. I even have problems going to the mall or Walmart because there are so many people around. [i]Happy MyLotting, Char[/i]
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
25 Aug 08
I have issues with walmart but mostly because i find people to be so pushy and inconsiderate of others there.
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• United States
17 Aug 08
I guess that's just the breaks of being a Gemini, I like having my alone time, but sometimes I get lonely as well. During the week I have the house basically to myself. With the kids at school and daycare, my grandmother at work, and my grandfather staying holed up in his room, I have free run of the house. Its great sometimes, but others I am just so bored and lonely!!! Then on the weekends I can't wait till Sunday sometimes. My mom and my brother come over for the weekend, sometimes one of two of my grandmother's friends come to kick it on Friday (never both, they don't like each other), my sister and her husband come over on Saturday, and even my little male friend has come on the weekend. Although I enjoy all of these people, having them all in at once is crazy!!! When this happens I wish that some would just go home and leave me in peace lol.
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
25 Aug 08
It sounds like you keep pretty busy but get the time you need!
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@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
I'm the same as you. I don't like seeing the same people everyday it makes me irritable. I find that I can appreciate people more if they're not always around. So when I spend too much time with my mom we always get into a big fight. Same goes with my friends. And I hate clingy boyfriends. i don't even mind if they won't call me for a few days. I'm actually worried about my attitude. I know that we all need some alone time, but sometimes I think of myself as a loner. :(
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
24 Aug 08
I know i'm a loner! every one needs a bit of time to themselves
@fearie (153)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
u still have a choice if u really want to be alone u can rent a room or anapartment and start living alone.. or try to find a job that is more sedantary and can offer u more space
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
24 Aug 08
I have my own place. Its just at holidays and times when people are around alot i get kinda grumpy
• Singapore
16 Aug 08
We need to be alone sometimes. We are just human. But some people may be offended by that. They think that you did not like their company. If I were you, I'd go out and take a walk or lock myself in my room for awhile.
@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
24 Aug 08
When i get peopled out I just go home. For now that works. Thank you for the walk suggestion.
@shana123 (2096)
• India
16 Aug 08
I can be with people if they are really intresting but if they are too boring then i just hate to be with them , and i just answer them by giving blunt replies or i just tell them im not well i need to alone to take rest somethinglike that and get escape from them, this also happens if im too sad or if i fight with someone.Im always silent talkative to person who are intresting .. and i definitely need sometime a day to be spent alone or otherwise i will go mad...
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
24 Aug 08
I would never do well in customer service...I'd be too likely to tell someone to shove it. I like the alone time it relaxes me and people like me better when im not a grump!
@ronreyes (4726)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
We are on the same team. I prefer to be alone most of the time. I'm a self-confessed introvert and I'm happy with it. I must admit that I'm much more comfortable being alone than being with a group of people. Like whenever I hear an excessive noise, I'll walk away and just do my thing afterwards.
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
24 Aug 08
I'm a total introvert...and its funny because all three of my sisters are extroverts. A large group tends to make me grumpy...2 or 3 people is best for me.
• China
16 Aug 08
The same feeling here! But I like it only when I am doing something important or something that needs to be focused on highly. Also When I was in bad mood or suffer deep pressure, I choose to be alone. As for home, I don't mind sharing a house with my friends as long as the house has enough space to set a seperated room for me.
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
24 Aug 08
The one and only roommate i had was my sister...and her boyfriend kinda moved in without paying rent....and I'll never live with a sibling again if i can help it
@Magene (103)
• United States
16 Aug 08
I hate being around people. I love being by myself and if I don't get at least an hour or three by myself every day I become miserable.
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
24 Aug 08
Sounds about how i get. The exception to that rule is when my boyfriends around so far he doesnt get o my nerves.
@neilchua (888)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
well first, i am not one of those party people who likes to socialize with so many people. 6 people is already a crowd for me. i love staying at home and being alone sometimes. i think any person would want a time of their own. even just for a minute or so when they can do soul searching or just having the sound of silence. have a good day saundyl:)
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
24 Aug 08
Six? That pushing it for me. I do really well with 2 or 3 people any more than that and i just tend to get grumpy. The exception to that tends to my parents, 3 sisters and grandparents.Even then i can only take all of us together for so long. Thanks for responding!
@snowy22315 (32648)
• United States
16 Aug 08
I like my peace and quiet but I am alone too much of the time and it makes me unhappy. Alittle peace and quiet is good but too much is bad I think. I will tr to get around more people becasue I think it will make me happier. I ust have to do what is right for me.
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
24 Aug 08
I think its all a matter of personal preference. I know people who HATE to be alone ever and others like me who need tons of alone time (i'm craving alone time right now after 10 days on trip with my parents sisters 1 brother inlaw aunt and 3 cousins)
• United States
16 Aug 08
I love being alone. I've been through two marriages, raised three children, have had boyfriends come and go, and now, finally, I get to be by myself. It's hard sometimes, because I have to work alot just to pay my bills and so on, but it's so much better than being with some man who's always demanding my attention constantly. I live in a city, but I'm determined to move out to the country as soon as the opportunity shows up. I'm very reclusive, I don't go to parties, or go to bars or anything like that. I think there's just too many people in the world as it is. Like you, I don't do well when there are lots of others around. I get confused and clausterphobic.
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
16 Aug 08
I love living in the country. People have to make extra effort to find you and generally theyre too lazy!
• United States
16 Aug 08
I am the same way. While I like being around people, I have hobbies and interests that require me to be by myself. I like to read and work on crafts for example. and sometimes I just like being left alone whether I'm working on them or I am just watching a movie. I feel that while it is important to have some human contact, it is also important to find yourself and do the things that you enjoy.
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
i agree. i really need time to be alone. i hate it when other people get to clingy and ask me to join them in their lunch, their break, their breakfast, their dinner. come on. gimme a break! i really prefer to be alone. i guess that is because i don't need to border my emotions, i don't feel the pressure of getting along and i give myself time to really think.
• Nigeria
16 Aug 08
I like people to be around me when am least bizzy. But during work period i don't like people to be around me they may distract my attention from what am doing.
@jarves (815)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
Me too! I don't like having people around all the time. I always wanted a time alone with myself. It is peaceful when I am along with myself. I even stay away from crowds.
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• India
16 Aug 08
after sometime it happens with everybody. All of us do need me time. its natural.
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