What do you do when love goes sour?
August 16, 2008 2:44am CST
What do you do when relationships fall apart, what do you do with all your memories of them? How do you interact with them now, whether they are your partner or ex, or friend etc? It's so hard, sometimes I just really hate my ex for what he did, but sometimes, i'll have nice memories of him and miss him. It's so hard getting along. And what if you had an abusive relationship or were mistreated by someone whos sometimes nice to you, sometimes cruel to you? How would you deal with that? Thanks
• Shijiazhuang, China
17 Aug 08
Human is society animal and human is condition animal as well. They are variable. Don't expect much from others and just do what you should. There always things happen beyond I can imagine, but I don't be too surprised because I have experienced enough. I will accept every thing and check if I do things right or not.
16 Aug 08
love goes sour even for married couple or long term lovers, me i do not believe in just spliting up when it happens .. what i have planned is to rejuvenate our lives.. one of the best things to do for a couple is to always plan an outing away only one weekend for every six months .. (it is better every month if you are financially stabil) otherwise six months or a year is fine.. just both of you together. and during that time please do not quarrel for simple things, if you have to be the loser, go ahead remember the fun part that is going to follow up ...If you already have children, drop them at your parents house ... go and have fun.. dont forget, you love your partner.. do not let the sour part to spoil the flavour add the sugar as someone said earlier. have you eaten strawberry by itself then strawberry with chocolate coting .. well what was the difference ya ?
18 Aug 08
Yeah, i wish i had that advice earlier. I think quarrelling over small things is one reason it doesnt work out, or arguing over anything really. Thanks for the advice, i recommend people do that, like take really good care of their relationship and don't take it for granted, and spend alot of time together with your loved one, and do nice things for them etc. Even if they were bad to you. Maybe that's why i feel bad, when he was bad to me, i would avoid him because i felt hurt. But things just escalated ot the point where we didn't talk much to each other anymore. Actually i think strawberry is sweet by itself, thats how i usually eat them:o. I guess my expectations arent really that high, i didn't expect a dream relationship, i just loved him and all i wanted him to do was care about me and treat me kindly and with respect and that didn't come through most of the time, and our relationship dissolved.
16 Aug 08
I had experience, good and bad, there is no way to forget those special memories, you have to cope with them and learn from them. It is difficult I know. THe best thing to do is to live your present life to the full and create different and better relationships , yeah sometimes you will fall again in memories but never let them to make you feel down, or that the present realtionship is not better than that of your past. Keep going on.
18 Aug 08
Thanks for the kind words. It's good to know there are people who understand this feeling, its very hard! When u love someone and they let you down or do something really bad, its really really hard. its not like a stranger doing something bad to you, someone you love and trush.
16 Aug 08
It all depends. If the reason for our breakup is so bad that it transcends everything we ever shared, like I suddenly find out that he has another girlfriend and he has been lying to me all this time, then those pleasant memories would become tainted with that lie. Everything would become a big lie, and I cannot cherish such memories. But sometimes the heart chooses to retain its own memories, and there's nothing we can do about it. The best we can do is let those memories make us stronger and wiser next time around.
16 Aug 08
yes its really hard when that happened but we dont have any choice, we have to accept the fact, it really hurts when you loved too much, but if you knoiw how to handle your emotions and feeling, its not that hard, still life will go on, with or without him...=)