Will people hate me if I delete some of mylot friends in my list?
By lilycool
@lilycool (135)
United States
November 5, 2006 1:49am CST
I must confess that may be because I'm a shy person in "real" world, now I have more mylot friends than face-to-face friends. The problem is I'm so happy when someone wants to be my friend, so I keep clicking approve, approve and approve again.
Now I face my guilty conscience that I don't have time to communicate with my new found friends -I did try really hard to response to their discussions but I couldn't do it all the time. To compound the problem, I have mylot friends with their ages between 16 and 61 years old and my age is just right in the middle: what they want to discuss are out of my current frequencies -I hope you know what I mean.
After few days agonizing about what to do, I think the best way to solve this problem is to carefully select and delete some "friends" out of my list and concentrate to build good and strong friendships with the rest. But I don't want to hurt anyone's feeling. What should I do? What should I do? Help!
And how do you treat your mylot friends? Show me the way. I'm open to all ideas.
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10 responses
@DFrodeo06 (1325)
• United States
5 Nov 06
it's ok to delte the ones you never talk to
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@rosebug23 (1906)
• Australia
7 Nov 06
I agree with all but one of your responses. It is your life,your time and so your decision dint let anyone tell you different.I have many friends and i go through each of their discussions to see if there is a topic i feel i can respond to and do so if none suit i try again later or the next day. we make our money by responding so it is better to respond to one of your friends and help them and they repay in kind by replying to one of your discussions that appeal to them .i dint and I'm sure your friends dint expect you to reply to all there discussions.You dint have to feel bad about not responding to everyone all the time as i am sure you dint expect them to reply to all of yours all the time. But saying all that i am sure if you really want to delete some friends they will understand. we are all here to enjoy ourselves have a bit of fun and earn some money as a bonus.We all have friends of different ages and it just makes for many different topics my friends range from 19 to 60 I'm in my 50's so age really is irrelevant and i have learned a lot from all of them . Do what you feel most comfortable doing and dint stress.Good luck whatever you decide
@lilycool (135)
• United States
8 Nov 06
Good post. I keep my list of friends intact and as my list is growing, I make a effort to check out my friends's discussions and throw in my 2cents before responding to other people's posts. I think that is one of my ways to say that I care about my online friends.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
11 Nov 06
keeping your friends in your list is a good idea.
they won't be as hurt when you are not able to communicate with them or respond to their posts as when you delete them :)
@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
6 Nov 06
If anyone takes offence at your decision to delete them, then they are being rather petty.
It is not as though you were saying "I do not like you and do not want to be your friend", it is a practical decision for a very good reason.
Deleting surplus friends when you do not have the time to accomodate them is the responsible thing to do. You can afford to have countless friends in the real world, but you are not expected to telephone them all every day.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Its ok to delete some, but why do it. I think we all have the same problem. No one says that we have to respond to all of our friends discussions. There is no way to do everything at once. We have our own discussions to respond to. We all can use all the friends that we can get.
@shellyrios (1212)
• United States
6 Nov 06
well it's up to you and who you want to filter through and keep. It is hard to maintain constant communication, but if we just continue to help each other out with our responses then I don't think you have much to worry about. I mean you are earning while you respond and chat right? Just pick through which discussions you feel you can respond to, I don't think anyone would be offended. I try to go through everyones discussions and pick which ones I can realistically answer, but I make it a point to go through each one too, so it's up to you and how you feel....:)
@candaceb87 (1362)
• Canada
6 Nov 06
i agree with doubleb66 there are no hard feelings! if you want to keep me on your friends list i will still respond to your discussions and you don't have to respond to mine if you don't have time, whatever you do i think that everyone will understand!! do what is best for you!
@megainfobites (630)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Personally, I don't have this particular problem. However, by deleting your mylot friends, I'm not sure this would give rise to a reaction as strong as hatred in those you've unfriended. Although, this course of action might definitely be considered a slight or marginally, an insult. My suggestion to you is not to "agonize" over such questions as they are of ultimately marginal importance. Why not just maintain status quo and keep your friends list intact?
