Is It Just Me?

@hardluck (375)
United States
August 18, 2008 2:21pm CST
Have you ever seen a really perrty girl with a very ugly guy? Ladies can you tell me what's up with this? I've asked other friend of mine and they say women don't see what on the outside but look for what's on the inside. I guess that is really sweet, and when the light are out we all look alike. But what do you do when you have to come out in the light? This is something I have alwayes wanted to know. So if you have the anwser place let me know. And by the way; I'm a perrty ugly guy, any perrty giris want to hook up. LOL
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@eve301345 (658)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
Hey hardluck, with what you say about women don't see the outside look of a man is quite true. I am pretty as my friends call me and I am young with a man 3 times older than me, but guess what I would change him to a young handsome guy out there. For me I know I am the luckiest girl in the world to have him. I'll till you something, I am only 24 and my love is 61 but he is the best person I ever meet in this world. And for the question of doing it in light or dark I prefer it in light so I can see him. Well, good luck to you, just don't forget in 1,000 pretty girls you might only find one which is true.
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• Philippines
19 Aug 08
Correction: I would not change him to a young guy out there.
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@bigtom1 (1573)
18 Aug 08
I read that thats Natures Law of Compensation. If pretty people would go out with pretty people alone then there would be a very unfair world. I know other guys are just good at getting along with pretty peole no matter their looks and thats something good actually. At first i also used to think like that, why would that tantalising girl go out with such a man but now i understand that most girls do not go for looks but personality.
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@dagda24 (367)
18 Aug 08
I try not to pick a partner based on looks. I get to know someone and if a connection develops then you see where it goes. When you develop feelings for someone I think they become more attractive to you based on their personality. Everyone has their good and bad points as far as appearance goes and it's important not to dismiss the idea of being with someone based on their appearance. When I first met my boyfriend I was not physically attracted to him, but as I developed feelings for him I found myself becoming more attractive to him physically. We've been together for a couple of years now and I think he's the most gorgeous person alive.
@hardluck (375)
• United States
18 Aug 08
Sounds like you found someone you really love that's great. I hope you have a long and happy life together. Sounds like he's a very lucky guy.
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@rmuxagirl (7561)
• United States
20 Aug 08
I am with Dagda, I don't look on what's on the outside with a person. I like to get to know them and if there is a connection awesome. Once you learn about them, and the connection grows sometimes feelings develop and grow. You cannot look at people as ugly or beautiful. We all have our faults: no one is perfect. Its the beauty within that matters the most sometimes.
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
Good day.. I think that chemistry of a couple s based on just being in the right time, with the right moment, saying the right things. Looks well, all of us would grow old and well unpleasant in the future so I think chemistry is what will keep the relationship going.
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@anawar (2406)
• United States
19 Aug 08
hardluck - don't all the girls want Brad Pitt and all the guys dream of Meg Ryan? Well, maybe not Meg. I don't pay attention to the media, so I don't know who are the current movie stars we all wish we were. There has to be kind of physical attraction between two people for a relationship to start. You don't have to be the most handsome man in the room, you never know what a woman is looking for in a man. There might be an inner beauty that only one woman sees in you. I'll tell you a secret. I'm an attractive girl and I married an obese man. If he lost two hundred or more pounds, he would have been very handsome. I did love him, but the marriage failed. When people used to see us together, they all wondered what I was doing with an unattractive man. I looked like eye candy to them. So, pretty girls love ugly guys. But, sad to say, if I ever get together with anyone ever again, I think I might be looking for someone attractive. You never know. Like I said, I am out when it comes to relationships. One last thing. If you see a pretty girl, don't be afraid to approach her. You might think she can have any guy she wants, but every other guy is thinking the same thing. And pretty girls can end up lonely if no one asks her out.
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@hardluck (375)
• United States
19 Aug 08
Don't let one bad guy spiol it for you, get back on that horse and have fun. Sounds like you have alot going for yourself.
@Essie119 (673)
• Canada
18 Aug 08
When you make a life decision as serious as marriage, you have to look beyond the surface. I know a lot of beautiful women married to homely men, and I also know a lot of handsome men married to not-so-attractive women. It has nothing to do with the lights or the lack thereof. My husband is overweight and balding (I love bald men) and he might not win a looks contest with Brad Pitt, but who cares. I, and everyone else who knows him, think he's handsome. By the way, I've very, very rarely seen a truly ugly person, so maybe you are being too hard on yourself.
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@hardluck (375)
• United States
18 Aug 08
Yeah; I guess your right, maybe there hope for me yet. LOL I glad you found someone that makes you happy. You're a lucky woman.
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• Croatia (Hrvatska)
19 Aug 08
There r 2 types of womens.1 that will be with the ugly guy only because he has a money and 2 are the ones that see other things in men(she feels safe with him,he knows how to love her,she feels good when she is with him)Beauty do not help if u r not a good person
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• Malaysia
19 Aug 08
Look can be deceiving. If a lady is going to find her partner, she's going to look for one who care for her, not just good looks. As time goes by, even a very good looking guy can be a nuisance if he's selfish and didn't care about the feeling of others. A woman wants a partner who understand her and could support her emotionally and listen to her (when she's sad, when she wants to share her happiness etc.) I think the attitude and personality of a guy is much more important than looks. "Beauty is always in the eyes of the beholder." You might think that you look ugly, but if a woman loves you, it surpasses your physical features. Everyone grows old, and after 20 or 30 years later, how your partner looks wouldn't matter anymore. It is the feeling of being cared for and loved that matters.
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@eiram25 (1077)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
Hey hardluck! Actually, I knew of a pretty girl who's currently with a not so pretty guy. In fact, they're my classmates way back in college!!!lol! The rest of my classmates and me really wondered why the girl chose the guy over her numerous suitors who are handsome and cute. I really think the looks aren't a big factor coz until now, they're still happy and going strong together after almost 3 years. Everything in this world is really unpredictable! lol!
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@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
I've seen a lot of those and I would always remember the line from the movie the Hottie and the Nottie/ It is said that the looks of a girl is inversely proportional to her best friend. Meaning that chances are if you are very beautiful your best friend might not be as gifted as yours. Probably we could apply this to couples but I'm telling you it really wouldn't matter if one looks more beautiful than the other as long as they love each other truly then everything would look beautiful.
@Ithink (10495)
• United States
19 Aug 08
I think it depends on the person, some go for looks and some for what is in the inside. My husband was not a cute guy when I meet him and all my friends were like "What are you doing with him"? In the end almost all my friends are now divorced and yet we are on 26 years and going strong. I might add he grew up and became a looker!
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
18 Aug 08
Well, it probably has nothing to do with looks. Sometimes, what someone else perceives as ugly could be a beautiful person in someone else's eyes, because they are such a nice person, and treats them nice. That's a big problem, some people are always looking for looks, instead of looking for a good, honest and sincere person. My husband is not the greatest looker, but he treats me well, and really cares about me, I will take that over any good looker.
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• Philippines
5 Sep 08
As they said u will fall to someone you're not expecting.If ur looking for a handsome guy u will end up to the opposite of what ur looking for and there's no such things as ugly it just happen that were born differently.There's lots of people out there which is good looking ans most of them the more that they know people think that they are good looking the more that they are very confident and its easy for them to break others heart or to break up with their partners becoz they know there's lots of girls/boys waiting for them.There's people that u can't explain why they look very good but u dont know which one is beautiful or attractive to them it is becoz its reflects their personality and the more u are peaceful and u know ur not hurting anyone that will came out right away in ur physical appearance which makes u look beautiful or handsome.
@hardluck (375)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Yeah; my daddy always said, date ugly women, that way it won't hurt when they leave. Thanks for the response, have a great day. Hardluck.
@flte74 (877)
• United States
19 Aug 08
Ugly Man - Ugly man with no teeth
It's true, it is not all about looks. If the person is kind, honest and just plain wonderful they actually become more physically attractive in my opinion:)
• United States
19 Aug 08
so true!
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
9 Sep 08
Alot of women, myself included, tend to look more at what a guy is like then how he looks. How he treats the woman, how he behaves, how he takes care of his life and so on is what most look at. A super good looking guy that slaps his woman, never showers, is always broke and running from the law will never end up with a good woman. At the same time a butt-ugly guy who is sweet to his lady, is compassionate, hard working and always there to lean on will usually always have a good woman by his side. At the same time, men are just the opposite...you put a knock out woman with barely enough clothes to cover her and it wouldn't matter if she was Lizzie Borden reincarnated...guys would want her. But a woman who's not all that to look at with a few extra pounds on her and guys run like she's the plague. Go figure. I look at it like this. That hot guy or hot girl is going to get old eventually...I mean physically age. Unless your gonna keep trading him/her in on newer models, you better hope you have something more than looks to keep you around. Also keep in mind that if you opt to keep trading them in, YOU'LL keep aging and eventually those young hotties won't want some old fogey unless you have boatloads of money for them to burn through. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~ [/b]
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
Whoa! There are lots of option to pick on a partner. There are those that consider good family bank-ground and good car-acteristics (lolz). If a guy is handsome and the girl is ugly, it's true love. If the guy is ugly and the girl is pretty, the guy hit the lottery. If guy is handsome and girl is ugly, that's perfect combination. If the girl looks what's on inside, uhm, well I'm curious about this, look inside where? look under the pants. Hahaha!
@aize003 (225)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
I'm not really into looks..i'm attracted to a guy who knows how to take good care of women...i doesn't matter if he's ugly as long as he loves me and i love him..
@eztuner (451)
• United States
20 Aug 08
hardluck, I have had the chance of knowing many, many, situations like this one you described. Iam 44 so I had time to see a few... There are different reasons: Some times the guys are so funny that make them laugh, some times the guy has a GREAT INCOME (sorry to report that this is the MOST of times) so the girls will have a living standard, that in other way they woldn't. And other times is PURE LOVE!!! Beautiful girls also like Ugly guys Who ARE GREAT PERSONS. Pick the one that suits you the best! Iam just been Honest...
• United States
19 Aug 08
I honestly wasn't attracted to my bf's looks but rather his personality, we had alot in common and that's what matters. I fell so totally in love with everything about him and now to me he's the most handsome guy on earth! Nice guys finish last? Not in this case.... :)
@nutanjain (898)
• India
19 Aug 08
h i how are you yeah i have senn some guys with some good lookn girls do not know whar is worng with then ahow do they pick up soem ugly boys but there is some , well life goes like that and we cannot blame any guy that he is so ugly he also has got his life to enjoy moreover love happens once and it does not sees faces oranything it sees jus souls and hreart