is it right to tell your daughter not to visit his dad because his living with..

@zeny_zion (1284)
Philippines
August 18, 2008 3:44pm CST
her dad is living with another woman already. do you think it is right to tell her not to go and visit her dad. do you think that im teaching the right one for her. i hate his dad and i dont want her to see him anymore. but of course i cant do that cause my daughter missed her dad too.
3 responses
@rbailey83 (1401)
• Canada
18 Aug 08
is there a reason you don't want her to go see her dad other than hating him and the other woman? if that is the only reason than it is not right, that has nothing to do with the situation and your daughter has every right to see her dad and her dad has every right to see her. The only reason she shouldn't is if he is not willing to see her or if he is a danger to your daughter.
• United States
18 Aug 08
Well, first, why do you hate her dad so much? Was he abusive in some way? If that's the case, then I can't blame you for not wanting her to see him. If not, then it's really not right for you to tell her she can't visit him just because the two of you are no longer together. That said, you have every right to be concerned about the woman her father is living with, and to talk to her father about it. You should be allowed to meet the woman and talk with her before allowing your daughter to be around her if she's living with your ex. That's my opinion. You shouldn't have to allow your child to be exposed to a stranger. But unless he's been physically/emotionally abusive to you or your daughter, it is not right to tell her she can't see her father.
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I would think that if Dad wants to see her,and she is older than twelve, it should be okay for her to visit. It would be better if she visited Dad away from the new woman though, like spending a day together going to a movie or lunch or whatever . Telling her not to visit will just want her to visit him all the more.