what would you do

August 18, 2008 4:25pm CST
if your boyfriend wanted to have a three some with his ex? i am trying to tell him its not a good idea but his thing is that he would rather have one with a person he knows what would you do????
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• United States
18 Aug 08
I couldn't have a threesome at all with my husband i know that my opionion with change after a couple of years but still i couldn't do it with my husband.. My husband wouldn't do it with me because he knows how i am and he know that i would get mad if he even touched snother girl and he is right i would get mad at hi for touching another girl espeacilly if it was one of his exs i wouldn't end up killing her.... Now if it was with a girl that wouldn't ever see again than maybe.. But back on the reasons why i wouldn't do it is becuase i could deal with the simple fact that my husband was touching another women and that he would be sticking is thing in someone else and than sticking it in me.. EWWWW that is gross that why i couldn't do it and plus i am a very jealouse person and i would end up getting mad at my husband for somethng that i told him to do and i hate getting mad at my husband... I wouldn't d it for the simple fact that its his ex and he has had that before that would make me feel as though he still had feeling for her and this is his way of gettng some from her without you gettimg mad at him... I couldn't do it.... I wonder why he wants his ex girlfriend and not anyone else???? Maybe thats a question that you need to ask your self... I couldn't believer you are even willing to do that with someone that is just your boyfriend.... I really couldn't do it i would end up getting mad at my husband...
19 Aug 08
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@shell1986 (405)
• United States
20 Aug 08
If it were me I would not be happy at all. You shouldn't let him force you to do that. Plus, it is weird anyway that he would want it with his ex girlfriend. It sounds to me like he may still have feelings for her. I would ask him before I agreed to anything like that.
• India
19 Aug 08
see, if the sole problem lies that she is your friend's ex, then it can be solved by a simple denial. but if you are averse to having a threesome, then slowly explain it to him. if you like threesome but not with ex, then go ahead and have fun with another new girl...
@rbailey83 (1401)
• Canada
19 Aug 08
if your wanting to do it as well that's ok but i would say definately not with his ex, i would imagine that afterwards, at the very least, it would bother you in the back of your mind, and eventually it will come forward and complicate things, plus you don't want it driving you mad, it's just a bad idea to involve an ex in things like that and plus i would be wondering why an ex, are there alternative reasons?
• United States
18 Aug 08
First I have to ask, are you all right with having a threesome to begin with? If you aren't, you shouldn't have one, regardless of who the girl is. If you are comfortable with it, just not with the third being his ex, you really need to open up to him. Make it perfectly clear how you feel about it without sounding angry or upset - you need to be calm and rational about it. Let him know that the idea of doing that with his ex makes you very uncomfortable and isn't very respectful to you - or whatever it is you're feeling. Let him know that a threesome will only happen if the third party is not an ex-girlfriend of his. It can be someone you both know or someone only one of you knows or even a stranger, whatever you two are comfortable with, but do not be afraid to lay down the law about this.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Aug 08
If he is trying to push you into something you're not comfortable with, tell him no. Saying yes when you don't want to will just cause resentment and problems in the relationship.