Do You Believe That Children Are Seen And Not Heard?

@Jenaisle (3803)
Philippines
August 18, 2008 9:10pm CST
We oftentimes hear older people say "Children are seen and not heard". Do you think this still applies today? Are children allowed to express what they feel? Are they given enough freedom to become confident when they grow older? How much freedom is allowed a child? If you're not a parent, was there a method employed by your parents that contributed positively to your character as an adult now? Sharing your experience would be most appreciated. A similar topic can be read here: http://wwwlittlechildren.blogspot.com/2008/08/what-kind-of-parent-am-i.html
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@nilzerous1 (2435)
• India
19 Aug 08
I have my 3+ something niece and I feel she is more comfortable to stick to her style and decision. Although her Mom tries to mend her but she continues to follow her own decisions. I find nothing wrong with this as most of the time she is correct. I think children are given better hearing now-a-days than few decades back.
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@cripfemme (7715)
• United States
19 Aug 08
I think that kids should included in conversations, especially ones that effect them. Of course, there are some adults only conversations. Whenever a group of parents I heard about needed to have an adult conversation and a kid came up and interrupted they told the child that unless it was an emergency this was an adult conversation. A little boy who was one of kids in this group ranging in age from 2 to 11, said to some adult who interrupt the conversation they were having, "I'm sorry, this is a kids only conversation. You need to wait." I guess turnabout is fair play.
@shrashira (438)
• United States
19 Aug 08
Well, my children can talk whenever they want. However, they have also learned that there are certain times when only adults should be speaking. It took a while for them to understand it, but now they do. The younger ones still have some slip-ups but overall it works. In my opinion, many kids have no restrictions at all.
@clickicy (571)
• Indonesia
19 Aug 08
Well I believe that children have their right to express themselve, but if their opinion is a danger for themselves, then it is our rights to take them to the right track. Children sometimes play something that endanger themselves without a single tought that they are in danger. A wise advice for them, I guess will never hurt them. :)