My Baby is going back to school!

United States
August 18, 2008 11:56pm CST
Hi, I have 3 daughters. One is going to be 19, the other is 13, and the baby is 7. The baby has a terrible time leaving me. She thinks that if her teacher quits, I can be her teacher. If I go to the mailbox, she is right beside me the whole way. I love it as much as she does but my husband says that something has got to give. He constantly says that I need more interaction outside the home but my kids are my entire life. Your baby is your baby even when they are 30, right? I know that I will never have any more children.
2 responses
@nanciem (1106)
• United States
19 Aug 08
Hi Hill! What are you saying? You babies will ALWAYS be babies to you. I have 2 ; one is 22 and one is 2. Big gap. I think your daughter the 7 year old is just not so secure, I am not offending. I see my son do this; I cannot even pee without him coming with me. it's odd; we know we take care of them even before ourselves, but I think something is lacking. Again, I mean NO OFFENSE, my son does this.. do you think you spend enough time with her? Sometimes I think I do not spend enough time with my son, and I think he shows this in his actions... ya know?
• United States
19 Aug 08
I think, (and my husband really thinks) that I spend way too much time with her. Me and her even plant flowers and weed the garden together. If she needs a friend on the trampoline, I'm it...I feel it the next day, LOL. I can't feed the goats unless I yell for her first. She will get highly offended if I go there without her. I feel as bad as her going back to school as she does. I'm gonna break down, I know it.
• United States
19 Aug 08
It is not healthy for her to be so dependant on you. She MUST go to school. That is just a fact of life. Do you want for her to be miserible and not be able to make friends because she only wants to be with you? Will she know how to socialize with kids her age after being only with adults? Kids do grow up. We love them and must sacrifice our own feelings at times to do what is best for them. I would suggest that you slowly ween her off by inviting children her age over to play or taking her to the park and encourage her to mix with the other children. It is not my intention to be mean, but I feel sorry for your daughter. It is not fair to her for you to allow her to be so dependant on you knowing what is instore for her.
@nanciem (1106)
• United States
19 Aug 08
Awwwww! Now I am gonna cry! It sounds like you have a great relationship; I would never say you spend too much time with each other, we never have enough time. WOW this is rough. She may be soooo attached to Mommy. I think you BOTH (daughter and you, not hubby LOL) just love each other so much, but, I do know that you have to OMG what am I trying to say here, she needs to let go "Just a lil", just a lil bit. She has to, so do you. I know it is soo very hard, I dread the day again; but we have to do it ya know? I think if you do not get a lil space, it's going to be harder! I bet she is beautiful! Share her smiles, her laughter, enjoy. We only have our babies once :(.... but :D, they are so special. try to wean (ween?) yourselves of each other, I know it sounds like crap but I think you need to do this. HUGS! Hug that baby for me too!
• United States
19 Aug 08
My babies are grown up now and the hubby is right! LOL! Now that your kids are tucked safely in school, time for a life out of the house! Maybe you can just find a local pool and take a dip once in a while. Make a garden? Go out to ride your bike and sightsee. Or ..maybe take a local adult class in something you like! (Want to learn more about!) Yup! The baby will always feel like the baby! But moms also deserve some fun! (And when they're home, then ahve fun and enjoy the kids. But when they are at school, then get outside a bit and get some fresh air!)