taking control freakiness to a new level?
Shingle Springs, California
August 19, 2008 1:27pm CST
Got a former friend and co-worker who comes from another culture. We're not talking any more and it's pretty much related to his control freakiness. He hates some people in the company. So and so stole ideas from him and took credit. Another so and so damaged his career by not promoting him. etc. etc. Thing is, he expects his friends to hate the people he hates in the company, and, by extension, the company itself. Everything's so black and white to him. If a person has one bad quality and many good ones, doesn't matter, the person is evil. And if I say one good thing about a person who has been labelled evil, I am condoning evil myself. Well this friendship certainly went by the wayside as I just do not tolerate people telling me what to think and what I can and cannot talk about. The person is from Indonesia. Cultural thing? Or just taking control freakiness to a new level?
• United States
19 Aug 08
Sounds like he does not take responiblility for his self. Come blaming others for not getting promoted.. I think he made be a bit of a control freak also. You do not have to rally up all your friends everytime some upsets you! Once in a while is understandable, but not everytime! No one like to be lead around by the nose. I can understand this friendship not lasting.
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Aug 08
I do remember the time he was talking about our former manager being responsible for destroying his career. Well former manager had once made a comment about him being a very stubborn individual. So I very politely suggested that he might want to take some constructive criticism under advisement. I'm 5'8". Used to be 6'2" before he bit my head off. Just kidding. But yes he does blame people for his own actions. One time he got mad at me and blocked me on e-mail. He was getting married and I was trying to get him to either tell me what they needed or go register somewhere. Guess I was pushing too hard. Sent him a funny story a few days later and never got a response. Asked him if he liked my story and that's when I found out he had blocked me. When I asked him why, he told me that he had no choice. Well of course he had a choice. He could have said 'stop pushing or I will block you.' He had many choices. Oh well. Life is less stressful without dealing with him!