What's the worst way someone has ever broken up with you?

@cripfemme (7719)
United States
August 20, 2008 8:53am CST
People end relationships in odd and often unnecessary hurtful ways. Often because they are hurt themselves because their relationship failed. My ex once broke up with me by letter that she sent to my job. Ouch! Another friend of mine who edits a disability rights magazine broke up with her boyfriend, who's also my friend, in her monthly editorial column. She didn't call him first. She just published it in the magazine. Everyone he knew knew he was getting dumped before he did. They never spoke again after that. What's the worst way someone's ever broken up with you? I'm awaiting your terrible stories here.
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@moneyandgc (3438)
• United States
20 Aug 08
I have only been broken up with once and it wasn't in any unusual or terrible way. I haven't broken up with anyone that way either. I am usually straightforward about it. My husband did tell me about a guy at work that was broken up with a few months back. He and his girlfriend had been arguing a lot and one day she walks into work and hands him a card. It was an invitation; a wedding invitation. To her wedding to another man. He just stood there in shock. Another one of our friends told us a story of their friend. It was their anniversary and he opened up his gift which was in a sizable box. There sitting on the top was divorce papers.
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@cripfemme (7719)
• United States
21 Aug 08
Ouch!! Those are two harsh break up stories! I'd cry publicly if either happened to me!
• United States
20 Aug 08
When I was in the eighth grade, I was dating my best friend's brother (the same best friend whose ex boyfriend I eventually married - we like to keep things close where I'm from ;) ). God, how I loved that boy, in the way that only 13 year old girls can love. We kind of had the on-again, off-again thing down pat - we broke up frequently. At some point, for reasons I can't remember, we had a class-wide project that took us to a local cemetary. I was upset to begin with, being a cemetary, because I had just lost a close relative. Anyway, about halfway through the project, he wandered over to my group and just DUMPED me, right there, amidst the tombstones. Then he walked over to another friend of mine to talk to her. Is that sick or what? We're actually still good friends, though - I'm friendly with most of my exes.
@rmuxagirl (7570)
• United States
20 Aug 08
oh my gosh! That is horrible. Couldn't he have waited til after the cemetary.
• Indonesia
20 Aug 08
i met girl on multiply and thought we had a great relationship. we talked on the phone and everything. than one day she change the phone number and blocked me on multiply. i never find it why... should i find another one in here? lol
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@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
20 Aug 08
Hi crip, I have not tried any of that..I had few relationship in the past and it's always me who will end up the relationship and I always try to make it very subtle..I am lucky to be friends with my exs until now!
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@metschica25 (5409)
• United States
20 Aug 08
This is a long time ago , but at the time it hurt so much . Now i look back and see he was just a little boy . Later on in life he tried to get back in my life and said he was sorry it was a mistake , and it still haunts him what could of been . I met this boy and everything was so sweet and we were seeing eachother when we were free . we even did night visits when he was done with work . we talked on the phone for hrs and cuddled too . we were getting real close fast. All the sudden he got scared stopped calling , but still kept me on a string for a month. making and breaking plans . Then one day he said he wasnt ready to date . I stayed around until he pused me away and made me feel real bad . that boy made me feel that i was not good enough and too much of everything he wasnt looking for . That was it until he tried to get back in my life , but i moved on , and now am happy . sometimes it is better to not think about what could of been .
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• United States
20 Aug 08
One day he up and moved back to his country without a word to me or the kids. It hurt, I didn't know it then but it really turned out to be the best thing for me.
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@rmuxagirl (7570)
• United States
20 Aug 08
Hmm the worst way I have ever been broken up with happened recently, last year actually. My ex MOVED ACROSS THE COUNTRY. He was supposed to go for a short time, then he stopped calling. He still called once in a blue moon to say hi and make me think he still wanted to be with me, but when someone spends over a year in a different state across the country the message is clear.
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@alpram96 (95)
• United States
20 Aug 08
I once had a guy leave a note on my door because he said "it hurt him to do it in person." Needless to say I am better off without him. Breaking up is always difficult, but if you want to move on have the courtesy to do it in a respectful manner.
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@shell1986 (405)
• United States
20 Aug 08
Well to start this off, my boyfriend and I have been together off and on for almost four years. The first time we ever broke up was because he and this girl were a little too friendly. We had a major blowout about it and we broke up. Little did I know that they had made out one night that same week. His excuse was that he didn't think he ever loved me and that he wasn't sure he knew what love was at all. I was highly ticked off but he has since apologized and we are much better now!
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@cbreeze (1209)
• United States
20 Aug 08
I can't really remember being dumped in a particularly harsh way. When you want a relationship or don't realize that the other party is unhappy, I think it is always hurtful being dumped no matter how it is done. I think the worst way I broke up with someone was thru email. I am very non-confrontational and in this particular case, I still loved the man very much, but was unhappy. I just couldn't bring myself to tell him in person, so I emailed him. I think I hurt him a lot. However, because he knows me so well, he knew why I couldn't do it in person. We are still very close today and that was about 4 years ago.
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
21 Aug 08
When I was 17 I was engaged and we had been planning the wedding for months. Invitations were sent out, wedding gifts received during a shower, and my dress had been hand made. One night, two weeks before the wedding my fiance called to tell me he wanted to end the engagement and would come by the next day to pick up my ring! What a shock. It seems he had decided to "see the world" and joined the army. I was never so happy to hear he had broken both legs during training. LOL I spent the next several weeks returning wedding gifts door to door and listening to everyone's "I'm sorry" remarks. It was awful. And stupid me, I gave him the ring back. I should have pawned it!
@cripfemme (7719)
• United States
21 Aug 08
I would have, but then I'm a vindictive witch with B at times! Your obviously morally superior. What were you doing getting married at 17 anyway?
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
21 Aug 08
LOL I grew up in a small Missouri town. Back then half the graduating class was pregnant it seemed. I luckily was not, but did plan to get married right out of high school. Its just as well it didn't work out - or I'd still be stuck in that backwards town!
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Aug 08
Get serious with me by such and such date or I'll start dating my friend so and so. I'm happy to report that he and so and so are happily married. lol
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Aug 08
Well perhaps. There are many possible pluses. You've got a bit of a temper though and I deal very, very badly with temper... Besides you've got Yvonne and you're happy, so this is just theory anyway.
@cripfemme (7719)
• United States
21 Aug 08
You don't threaten someone into having a relationship with you! Even if I wanted that person I would reject them on principle, as that's how you behave if you love someone.
@sudalunts (5527)
• United States
20 Aug 08
It was in February 1996, there was a terrible snow storm, and he had gone to NY, for the week end. I knew that because of the storm he would not have been able to get back to NJ, but I did expect a phone call. I called him and got no answer. After everything got back in order, I was still tring to reach him. He had a cell phone in my name, so I had the service suspended. Still no word from him, I decided to go to his apartment, and the super told me he had moved out and she did not know where he went.
@cripfemme (7719)
• United States
21 Aug 08
How wicked! Did he ever talk to you again, not that you would want him to?
@amvinay (122)
• India
20 Aug 08
i had fought very badly in my office,before i break up,she was avoiding me saying some other issues and was giving different reason to break up,but i came to know the fact she had one more person in her life,i was just time pass for her,but i was very serious about the relationship,i could control my emotions and anger messes up in office and faught so she left the job that day ,since then we never met or spoke ..i did it because i was true and its my first relationship still i am hurted about what she did to me ......
@cripfemme (7719)
• United States
21 Aug 08
New get involved in a relationship with a being you work with or for!
@skenthal (1022)
• Turkey
21 Aug 08
one of my x girlfriends broke up with me on msn. we had gone out for about 4 months when she had to go back to college in the states. i was determined to make it work because she was my first love and i was head over heels. anyway, we were talking on msn one day and she said it wasnt going to work out that she had a thing for someone else but hadnt done anything cuz she didnt want to cheat. i was crushed, it was one of the hardest times in the my life.
@subha12 (18463)
• India
21 Aug 08
I am not into any relationship. nor that i was also in relationship. i wont say it was a love relationship. but a friendship broken away from cheating by one. Its related to me. the person i thought my best friend cheated with me big time and we are no more in touch. it hurt me so much.
@auntiedis (165)
• United States
21 Aug 08
The worst for me was the last breakup I had before I met my current husband. My ex and I were together for 3 years. He had been spending time with someone else, a friend, and he wanted to pursue it. Ok, so two weeks later he realized that I was the one, we worked things out and he asked me to move in together. I gave notice at my job and apartment complex, packed my stuff. Three or four days before I had to be out of my apartment he calls me and tells me that he wasn't ready for this, and he'd changed his mind. What was a girl to do? I moved cross country to be near my family, and that was that.
@wachit14 (3601)
• United States
21 Aug 08
I lived with my ex-fiance right before we had plans to get married. In fact we had already booked the hall and had our honeymoon all planned out. One night he came home from work and sat down at his desk and proceeded to call a good friend. I could clearly hear the conversation and I heard him say to his friend, "you want to get together on New Year's Eve?". He hadn't even asked me about New Year's and here he was asking a guy friend. Sure enough, that night we broke up. We ended up trying to get back together, but it was no use and frankly he did me a huge favor.
@Zelmarq (11509)
• Cebu City, Philippines
21 Aug 08
I dont remember being dumped and i dont plan to dump anyone also, I know it would feel hard and very truamatic coz its about matters of the heart.
@pjones83 (59)
• United States
20 Aug 08
Well one boyfriend i had took me to a new years eve party where i knew noone (they were all his friends) and while there he did not say one word to me. He didn't even come near me when the ball dropped and then when we left he said he didn't want to see me again, which after that embarrassment i was more then happy to leave. Of course there was several other guys at the get together that were hanging out with me and saying that they thought he was very stupid for treating me like that because i was super hot. of course i looked a lot different back then (over 100 pounds thinner). and afterwards i found out that everyone else at the party knew he was breaking up with me and that was what he had been laughing and joking about all night.