Give me my Best Response back

United States
August 20, 2008 10:14am CST
The scenerio: You have just given a best response to a worthy responder. You are feeling satified that you have brought some closure to a great discussion. The Delima: You then get a response that blows ALL other responses away. It may be the best response ever written on Mylot. Have you ever given out a best response only to have this happen? I know that you can't change the best response but has that happened? If you could change the best response what would you tell the person you took the BR from?
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@RDugas (247)
• United States
21 Aug 08
I usually wait to give a best response until it's been at least three to four days since someone has responded to that disussion that way it gives everyone a chance to get their say in. I would just tell the person who should have gotten the best response sorry, but most people who can tell who made the best response anyway.
• United States
21 Aug 08
So discussions are kinda like microwave popcorn? It starts poppin and you know its done when there is only a pop every 5 seconds. That is when you need to stop the microwave and take the bag out so you can enjoy. What? It sound good to me. Or maybe I'm just hungry.
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@dagda24 (367)
21 Aug 08
I've not had this happen yet... I think even if I could I would not take away the best response from the initial person, as that would feel really horrible for them. I think the best thing to do would be to respond the the new comment within the discussion thanking them for their input and letting them know that you really appreciate them taking part. OR, you could always request friend and private message them to let them know how you felt about their response.
• United States
21 Aug 08
Yes, why not a make a new friend in the process. i like that. thanks for the response.
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@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
21 Aug 08
I'd usually wait a few weeks (sometimes a month) before I would decide on a BR. It does happen that a better response comes along after the decision; however, I don't think I would take back the BR and change it; not when it was already given out. I have already decided, and moreover, it won't be fair to the person I've already given the BR to.
• United States
21 Aug 08
True, that would be very unfair. The fact is, they had the best response at the time you chose to award the BR. The others that come after are privy to the fact that a BR has already been awarded.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
21 Aug 08
I have had it happen to me. I want to give a best response when I have enough responses that they almost sound the same. and then I think all right, I have six to ten very good answers and then I do the eenie meenie miny mo thing and then I am left with two or three, of which I chose one as the best. Then what happens? A day or a week later, the grand daddy of all responses comes in. I do not want to wait a week or a month, unless there is only two or three responses. Because then I will have a whole lot of responses to check out and will not be able to start or answer any discussions. If I could change it, I would not tell the person I took the best response from because it would not be necessary since when she checked, she would already know.
• United States
21 Aug 08
I like the elimination process for you BR. It does seem that sometimes...Ok I'm sorry. I am on some meds today and I completly lost my train of thought......Oh well, I thought that if I kept talking it would come back, but alas it did not. LOL!!! Oh yeah...It does seem that sometimes the answers all all the same. Their good answers but they just start to all run together. A coin flip is always good when you are looking at 2 for BR. :)
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@SViswan (12071)
• India
20 Aug 08
I've had it happen quite a few times and seen it happen to others too. I've also seen an instance when the person who got the BR wrote a comment to the one who gave a better response and mentioned that it was really that person who deserved to get it......he/she also focussed on certain points that were really good in the response. I don't think many people would come back (besides the original poster) and read the rest of the responses that came AFTER they have responded....unless they have a special interest in the discussion and want to know all the responses. I don't know if I'd be able to tell anything to the person I took the BR from...except...'Your response was really good and I appreciate it....but the next one is really something and I hope you agree'. I don't think everyone might like it....or maybe I'll just let things be and not do anything about it. What's done is done.
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• United States
20 Aug 08
Very good. It would be very awkward to tell some romve that you removed them fro the BR. :-) Not a good thing to do if you want them to keep responding.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
21 Aug 08
Yes, it would be very awkward....but since you asked if there was an option and I had to do it...what would I say.....I thought about it. I usually wait a long time before giving a BR.....but still I sometimes find a better response coming in after I've given the BR. And lol....yes, I would like people to come back and respond to my discussions and wouldn't want to upset anyone.
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• United States
25 Aug 08
i have had that happen a few times.. i would wait even a few weeks just to give it time to get a lot of responses and think i chose a good one or a good enough one since i want to close it out and then get a response so much better and it makes me sad since its not like i can give the new person reconigition on it either by giving then br
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• United States
25 Aug 08
Some people had suggested making a comment to that person who gave a better response and tell them how much you like what they wrote. Then watch for other responses that they put on your discussions to see if they earn a BR on those. Thanks for the response.
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
20 Aug 08
it happens to me before as well... i just have to let it stay like that as i can't take it back and i won't do it as well even if i can as it will upset the person... it is too bad that the good response come after i awarded the best response... so i'm not doing the wrong thing... at that particular time, that is the best response that i can find... so i awarded it to that person... after that, i can't do anything unfortunately... that's why i always make sure that i wait long enough before i awarded best response to anybody... take care and have a nice day...
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• United States
21 Aug 08
I used to try to resolve discussions the same day I created it. (Mainly because I hate unresolved issues) lol But now I wait sometimes a month before I do. Unless someone just gave an unbelievable response.
@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
20 Aug 08
I try to wait a couple of weeks or so before I decide on a best response. Sometimes I have found a 7 out of 10 response that I really thought was the best then a few days later I have got a 10 out of 10 response. It is not possible to take a best response back. I would find it rather uncomfortable to take back a best response if this was possible. I would give a comment to the worthy responder, saying thank you to them for the excellent response.
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• United States
20 Aug 08
Yes, it would be unfair to do that. They understand that you gave a BR and that was the BR for the time you gave it. I will remember the name of the person and look for them to respond well in future. Thanks for your excellent repsonse. :)
@winzpc (2356)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 08
According to me I think if we change the best respond it will hurt the people because we have give them the rate then we take it and give it to another responder. Although the respond is more good, but if we have rate it we mustn't take back. For soluttion maybe we can make the other mark best respond. So it will give the benefit to all and have a good relationship in mylot. but in mylot we can't do it.
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• United States
20 Aug 08
I'm not saying the system here is flawed. All I am saying is that it is a good idea to wait a while for more responses to come in. You are right we don't want to take it away from someone. Thanks for the response
@paid2write (5202)
20 Aug 08
I usually wait a week, or sometimes several weeks, before selecting a best response in a discussion. Even then, I may still get some good responses after marking it. All you can do is add a comment to the later response saying how good you think it is. I don't think there is any point in contacting the person who received the best response. If it was the best response you had at the time you awarded it, then it should stand. It would have made that person happy to get the best response, and it may hurt their feelings if you tell them you think you have had a better one.
• United States
20 Aug 08
Yes I agree, I too wait usually a week or 2 to make a BR unless I had a specific questions that someone was able to answer quickly. If they were clear and explained it well I will give them BR.