healthy relationship?

Indonesia
August 20, 2008 5:02pm CST
is it healthy to have a relationship with somebody who is married? thanks for sharing
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Aug 08
Probably a very bad idea unless YOU are the person they are married to...
• Indonesia
20 Aug 08
i have been that sittuation :( with you my dear. .. don't you rememmer it :D lol just kidding. .
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Aug 08
Me and who else? And which was the worse one?
• Indonesia
20 Aug 08
upsss i wont tell you. ... if i tell you much, i'm affraid no one will make relationship with me :D because read my discussion hahaha. ..
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@brisk123 (2826)
• India
20 Aug 08
You already know the answer.Deep down inside your heart it is saying,a big no to your own question.Yes,aha..I know you cannot deny it.Well,it is definitely "NO".If you are a single, you may find it exiting but the truth is you will be ruining somebody else's marriage life directly or indirectly and if you are already married you may find it too tempting to resist and end up spoiling your own marriage.
• Indonesia
20 Aug 08
yes i got the answer inside my deep on my heart, but you wanna know about the truth? i love her very much before i stoped the relationship.
@brisk123 (2826)
• India
20 Aug 08
It must be painful, but I guess, you must have done a lot of thinking before taking any such decision.I cannot say you did the right thing, since you only know how difficult it was for you to let go your partner.
• Indonesia
20 Aug 08
hmmm you were rite.. but i was decide it, and it was stoped. thanks for sharing
20 Aug 08
I've never been in this position, so I can't really judge with any real authority, but my opinion is that this probably isn't a situation that will end well for either of you. There are a few outcomes; 1. You will conduct your affair until it fizzles out, his wife will not find out, and so will not get hurt. 2. You will get caught, his wife will be hurt, and he will be sorry and go back to her and leave you 3. You will get caught, his wife will leave him, and he will leave you in an effort to win her back. 4. He will leave his wife for you and you will both live happily ever after. Unfortunately the last one seems to happen far more frequently on TV than it does in the real world. I'm not going to condemn your relationship, but be aware that there is a very real possibility that you, as the other woman, will get hurt when he goes back to his wife.
20 Aug 08
By the way...I totally assumed that you were a female having an affair with a male there, apologies if this was incorrect. If you are a male the same applies, just switch the shes to hes and vice versa. Same if you are in a same gender couple. Basicaly, just edit the genders in what I said to suit your situation=)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 08
well its ok. afterall thanks for your advice hope i never in that situation anymore.
• United States
20 Aug 08
It might be a good relationship for you and the married person but it not a good relationship with the married guy and his wife... I wouldn't say that it is a good idea to have are relationship with a married guy.. I have went down that road without even knowing it and i was the one that ended getting hurt... So i suggest to you to break it off as soon as possible before you end up getting hurt.. I was in a relationship like that where the guy was telling me that he was separated and that thy weren't together anymore, well he went home and he stopped calling me and stuff like that so i wanted to know what was going on so i kept calling him and than i get a call back from his phone and it ended up being his wife and telling me that i need to quit calling his phone, well i ended up telling her everything and everything that he had said about her and their marriage.. She wasn't to happy at him... So i suggest to you not to be in a relationship with a married man... It not got for anyone.. I suggest to leave alone any married man even if they say that they are separated..
• Indonesia
20 Aug 08
yes im agree with you. i ever been there, but not for to day i was stoping it with a married woman about 3 month ago. thanks for sharing.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Aug 08
yes but does she still have your password? :-)
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
That relationship will end so soon it will never last cause it's not really meant for you. It's temporary and at the same time you don't have a peace of mind. Did your conscient bother you that time? I think it wasn't love but lust! How could you say it's healthy? When you know that she can't fall in love with tou totally,fully,and your destroying or ruining a family. Have a nice day!
• Indonesia
21 Aug 08
that relationship for me was already end tahnks you too have a nice day
@Anne18 (11036)
20 Aug 08
Noooo noooo, its not a good place to go. you should leave married men/women well alone. stay safe by having relationships with single people. don't get your fingers burnt
• Indonesia
20 Aug 08
i know it was not good but in that time i just deny to thinking about that but it was. .. not for to day. and hope never get that situation anymore thanks for sharing ann but by the way my finger didnt burnt, it was very sure.. lol