my meaning of love... what is yours?

@jairgirl (2877)
United States
August 20, 2008 8:59pm CST
love is... [i]" love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.' The perfect love would be one that gives all and expects nothing. It would, of course, be willing and delighted to take anything it was offered; the more the better. But it would ask for nothing. For if one expects nothing and ask nothing, he can never be deceived and disappointed. It is only when love demands that it brings on pain." ----- leo buscaglia[/i] i have read this long time ago and i still keep this alive inside me, i think the passage he gave is the best i can use to describe what really love is all about - nothing fancy but just pure act of love. too often when we love we always ask or expect love in return, it is very rare that you find someone that will say "this is all i have to give and i wont ask for nothing but you to accept it" i always wish i can be like this - someone who can just give BUT just like you, though i give and say i dont want anything back i still hope in my heart that i can get something coz that's the only way (part of me says) that i am accepted in some ways (it's harder to do than say it is ok and all is fine) whenever im hurting i have to think about this passage and realized the root of my pain and often it leads to EXPECTATION,,, that is all i can say BUT then again a part of me will ask if it's worth it... dont i deserve a better one?.... am i too selfish to expect? sure we do expect and it is very hard not to but ONCE you follow the path of the passage above i can assure you that you're on your way of TRUE LOVE and HAPPINESS... im still struggling but each day i am learning and it is fun, i just take it one at a time and i am hoping that maybe one day i'll wake up that i dont have to struggle no more and it is all real and i have it... i wonder how many out there struggles and how many finally have it? let me know and maybe i can learn from you...
4 responses
checapricorn
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
21 Aug 08
Hi jair, This is quite deep..Anyway, love means to sacrifice, it is unfair to think and imagine but that's the reality..Sacrifice in the sense that, we are willing to accept everything about the person, his weaknesses as well as his strength, his positive side as well as his negative side, his success and his failures and being a human being, we cannot pretend that everything is fine, that everything is perfect since nothing is perfect, we will just let the genuine love overpower with our own flaws in life and to give us more motivation all the time and since we love the person, we are always there to show that love and to embrace everything in life!
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checapricorn
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
22 Aug 08
[i]wow! that is very painful! that's what the common saying "love is blind and lovers cannot see", I wish your SIL will recover from that pain and recover soon..It is very sad! I guess it is true that we need to love ourselves first before we can love others! like, how can you expect a person to love you if you don't love yourself! Any divorce or separation news will always bring sadness in me even if I don't know them! Life is always unpredictable! But, I agree with you, when we share unconditional love to each other, that will be very strong![/i]
jairgirl
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
22 Aug 08
yeah, i was depress for a week coz of that coz i feel bad for my 3 nieces and the separation is a nasty one as well so it is not something that will give good memories to the kids. anyway, it is sad that there are so many partners who is so blind and hopeful that they can change their partner when it is very clear that it is not gonna happen. I have told her that no matter what happen she have my support even if one day she decided to have a new life and love. such life! hope you guys enjoy your weekends. takecare
jairgirl
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
22 Aug 08
sounds like one heck of an in-love one haha! yes, we all need to sacrifice PROVIDED that the other is sacrificing too or at least not taking advantage of the sacrifice and the love the other is showing and giving. i just talk to my sister-in-law, she is very in love with my estrange brother and that turd knows that he can always fool her around. she keeps forgiving and sacrificing only to find out in the end it is not gonna work coz now her husband left them and living with another woman who happens to be pregnant - go figure. anyway, love is one strange feeling. sometimes it is one sweet feeling in the world and sometimes it is the worst pain we could ever have. i wish a lot of couple could have a relationship like us, even though it is not perfect at least we know we have a love that is worth sacrificing. have a good one!
zeny_zion
@zeny_zion (1283)
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
love is something special. its a big sacrifice and hard to control. but if we are inlove we still have to have limit. theres no such thing as unconditional love.
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jairgirl
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
21 Aug 08
hello zeny_zion, i used to believe that there is no such thing as unconditional love till i met my husband, it is something wonderful and i am very grateful that i have found someone who complete me and i complete him. yes, love indeed is a big sacrifice to most and very hard to control. i wish a lot of people knows how to limit what they are feeling coz most of the time that is not the case. i am happy with my love life and relationship but it makes me sad knowing that some of my love ones are hurting and taken for granted by their partners. anyway, i hope you find what unconditional love is (not that i am saying you are not happy just that you will be much happier once you experience it as well) takecare
n30wing
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
What I think is love is sharing everything,you don't have to ask anything in return cause it's you who wants to give your heart completely. No one is perfect so with relationship also.It is better to feel love then not having love at all. We learn from love even though it hurts and pains and still we grow with this we became a better person. Nothing in this world is permanent except you yourself!Love yourself before you love someone else.Have a nice day!
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jairgirl
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
21 Aug 08
hello n30wing, thanks for sharing your definition of love. I guess we all have our own ways of describing it, the only flaw that i can see of giving everything to someone you love is being taken for granted as well as there is a possibility that the other will take advantage of the other. i have seen this happen in the past both to my friends and to those that i happen to chat on my trips. I agree that it is best to love our self first but in reality it is rarely the case coz there are so many abused partner in the world. anyway, i dont want to sound too negative about it. i just wish that there are more people who knows how to value one's feelings and appreciate the love they get from them. have a good one!
metal_monkee
@metal_monkee (930)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
hi jairgirl... " The happiest person is whose heart is filled with love" - Still Thoughts SMILE ALWAYS...^_^
jairgirl
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
22 Aug 08
hello metal_monkee! great to see you again, still busy ei? cant blame you, i am the same way - yikes! true indeed, having a heart that is filled with love will make your world happy and peaceful as well. i just wish that it is common nowadays! oh well! wish you all the best! takecare