What do you think or your reaction when you see a family of over 10 children?

@sharie16 (2213)
Philippines
August 21, 2008 6:50am CST
Here in our country there are a lot of family having children from 10 above and sad to tell that most of families who have a large volume are those that belong to the poor...I wonder how on the earth they can afford it to raise there children to have a better living and I feel so sorry for the children. For such a large family, i think they don't even get the attention they need or neither they are eating healthy foods or maybe they even skip meals every other day... How about you guys, what are your thoughts to these?
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@gemini_rose (16194)
21 Aug 08
My reaction to large families is always one of amazement and "how on earth do they cope?" I have four and they are a handful and there are a few years age gap between a couple of them! How on earth anyone could cope with ten or more I have not the faintest idea, they must be saints and they must be really able to make their money stretch!
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• United States
22 Aug 08
I always wondered too how they can do that . I know sometimes my family had a hard time and it was just me and my brother . I went to school with a girl who had over 18 brothers and 3 sisters . I have no idea how they could afford it . I think they got a lot of help from the church .
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@Nemirae (54)
• Romania
21 Aug 08
It is very expensive to even sustain 1 child, let alone 10.. While I am a single-child my grandmother from my mother's side has 8 brothers and sisters and my grandmother on my father's side has 12 brothers and sisters..so it is a little overwhelming. The reason for their very large number is that they generally lived and worked as farmers or farm-related and whatever child they received they considered it a blessing ( well, they also did not have at their disposal contraceptive methods back then). And, all of the children survived, it wasn't an easy life, but they were able to sustain each other and i have only admiration for my relatives having lived a hard life.
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
oh i bet, your mom realize how hard it is, since you were only alone...yeah, from the past generation i bet that's was usual...but from this modern age, i think it's very hard to raise a child and feed them everyday, nor they will not be all sent to school and let them work at an early age... Anyway, thanks for sharing! Have a nice day!
• United States
21 Aug 08
Well, I myself have 5 children therefore my family is 7. Pretty large, not ten though. Yes, I agree. I myself see families with alot of children that dont have alot. But, I also have seen families with only one child that are struggling to buy food each month or are homeless. I think every family situation is different. For some of those families maybe it wasn't always like that. There might have been an unfortunate situation that caused them to be poor. Like all the families from hurrican katrina. Or even something more common as the families that get broken up because a parent takes off and dosent resume the responsibilities of being a parent and supporting their children. As for spending time with them, Yes, at times it can be difficult for myself when I have all five of my kids wanting something at the same time. But, it always works out. I plan many family activities with my children that they have plenty of quality time with me,and if they are not interacting with me or their father, they are interacting with each other which I find also to be a positive thing! I can see what you are saying though. I know of a particular family that they keep having children that have by no means enough money to support the ones that they already have. I feel very sad for the children in those families that have to suffer, it makes me feel very sad for the children!
@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
I bet your family wasn't big enough...And yes, it's not wrong having a children of 10 or above but as long as they can afford to raise their children and as long as they have all the time with their children and give fairly attention to them...But most of it I guess they belong to the poor society and it is very sad for the children... Thanks for sharing some thoughts! Have a nice day! God bless!
@laglen (19783)
• United States
21 Aug 08
I agree, I wonder how they care for all of these children. I have one, realized how expensive they are (as she gets older, it gets worse!) so I stopped. I can't imagine having more children and not the ability to care for them. So, in answer to your question, I agree it is sad. Kids are stressful enough, but to have to worry about how to feed them.......
@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
yes, its really sad...and its harder to raise them all, and even how to feed them....not unless they are rich enough... Thanks for the post! Have a nice day! God bless!
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• India
22 Aug 08
Because the poor people have no media of entertainment they have no means to go to the beaches and country side, they keep themself busy in producing childern may they be able to feed them or not. There are systems to educate the public. Here the writ of the order can not work. But they are required to be uplifted socially. I think it is confined to some selected communities. To me it should be one or two. These are more than enough to bring them up nincely and caring for their future. How other my lotters fee. Let us discuss this is very interesting subject.
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@riyasam (16582)
• India
22 Aug 08
whenever i see a family above 10children,i usually feel pity for the parents as they might not be educated and for those children for no fault of theirs,they have to live in poverty.ofcourse i do love children and i think its ok to have as nany number of children if you can afford.
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@subha12 (18463)
• India
22 Aug 08
i feel bad, really abd. people should think of the ever growing world population. also there should be ability to feed so many mouths. its not a mttter of fun. you are right. its more so among poor and illeterate
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
for me those who have a large volume of children,dont mind the feature of their family.as long as they are happy doing that.
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@getnbuy (1315)
• United States
22 Aug 08
If the poor in your country are having large families, the question to ask is why? Can they afford birth control? Are they compelled by their religion not to use birth control? In my country there are large families, but most of them have children because they want them and can afford them. Those of us who don't have the money to support them ,limit them. Unless, ofcourse, they come into this world unplanned. Perhaps the thing to do would be to figure out why they are having large families and look into helping them solve the problem, whatever it is.
@marcialoyd (1174)
• United States
22 Aug 08
I don't see anything wrong with having a large family as long as you can afford it and can take care of all those children. I am amazed by the duggars.They have several specials about their family on discovery health. She is now pregnant with her 19th child! But they are a very loving family and take care of each and every one of those children theirselves.
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@metschica25 (5409)
• United States
22 Aug 08
I know back in the day of my granparents that was a very commom number . I went to school with a girl who had a huge family . Their were 18 boys and 3 girls , and for the longest time she was the only girl . When their is a family that big it takes team work and the brothers and sisters do most of the work .
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• United States
21 Aug 08
I often wonder how they can afford to provide food, clothing, and shelter for such a large brood. Then, I think, well, God would not have given all those kids to those people without a reason. It is not for me to judge. I just smile to myself and say thank you, that it wasn't me he chose to bless with so many kids.
@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
well i bet they have to do some family planning...if they can't control making love then they have to do something like using contraceptives to lessen population...LL
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• Philippines
29 Sep 08
As I can see it, I don't think their parents are able to support them. Their children are seen in the streets working to earn to buy food. Some don't have clean clothes to wear and some don't even have a decent house to live. I see families living in the streets or carts begging to people for their food. This is the real situation.
• United States
21 Aug 08
I think a large family is fine if you can afford it. In these day and times it is hard to raise a family. Everything is so expensive now. I come from a family of ten and my Aunt had twenty but that was years ago when things weren't quite as expensive as they are now. If you can't afford a large family than you shouldn't have one. To be able to give your kids just what they need it is better to only have a couple of kids.
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
yes...if they can afford it, why not...i agree with you my friend... thanks for the post! Have a nice day! God bless!
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• Philippines
29 Sep 08
If you have the money and you can manage to support many children, a large family is not a problem. Parents should be responsible and think of their children first before they decide to have many children. My father has 10 siblings and I saw the difficulty of their life. Some of my aunts and uncles were not able to study because of financial difficulties. I'm happy that my parents just decided to have 3 children and the the good decision that they made.
• United States
21 Aug 08
Im not gonna try to understand the families coming out of a totally different culture and economy but I came from a family of two sisters and two brothers and that felt big to me but my dad had an alfalfa field that we regularly worked on and yes, we were like extra hands to run the farm, thats normal in farm life as my dads parents did it the same way with their farm, he has 1 brother and 4 sisters, can you believe that. Even though it felt like we were Alllways working around the house, cutting wood on weekends, bailing hay in summer, digging, I mean it was always something--my dad always made it a point to have family nights where we would go skating for four hours, we had pool memberships in the summer, every weekend we did the flea markets and got like 7 bucks for toys, hey thats alot when your young. I think it happens here in the US where lower income families will have children and just keep having them while living on welfare the whole time and I think that reliance on state checks doesn't teach them independence and when I lived around that at point of my life in most cases these young adults were not capable of living independently. They either found one girl after another to shack up with in public housing or lived with their mothers. I think its important to have the attention, one-on-one, attention of your parents but I have noticed with some large families that they function like more as a team and are very connected but these are well structured families who stick to schedules, do everything together and are there for one another.
• United States
21 Aug 08
Im sorry, my point was that I do believe its possible for children to be satisfied in large families that live very modestly because I have a friend of the family who has barely nothing and they only shop at goodwill and shop for food at salvage markets, they never go to the mall and their kids are content with that. I too, only remember two occasions where my family ever went to the mall and that was special occasions where we had visitors but we never bought anything. I think we lived modestly because we didn't have all the extras and me and my siblings had to work with what we had. We only got new school clothes once a year and not throughout the whole year. I think if you don't know all that your 'missing out on' than it doesn't affect you the same way and thats why I think large families in other economies could be satisfied living on practically nothing, I see it as a lot harder for a kid with no siblings.
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• Bangladesh
21 Aug 08
I don't like large family. But its all rught if someone can afford it. But it also true that every people in a large family is not treated properly. Though it is really miserable that poor family caonsists more that 10 members.
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
yeah...exactly true, it is miserable with family that can't afford to raise their children...
@magna86 (1787)
• India
21 Aug 08
ya thats really true!! all i would say!! "" how could they"""
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
yeah...you said so... Have a nice day! God bless!
@Wizzywig (7860)
21 Aug 08
I feel that people should have as many (or as few)children as they are prepared to support - financially, emotionally and physically - themselves. Unless faced with unforseen circumstances, I dont think people should expect the state to pay for their children's living costs and upbringing. (Tho' obviously, I would never want a child to have their basic needs unfilled) I think how well the children are fed etc probably depends, to some extent,on where in the world the family lives because, in some countries, welfare provision is widely available for large families. With regard to attention, I think the older children often take on some of the responsibility.
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@sharie16 (2213)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
yeah..but i am very sad to those children that belong to a large family wherein they seldom eat, neither experience to be sent in school...and yes if they can afford it, why not, but for some countries i think the government should have program like family planning...And as you've mentioned, yes I saw families that those older one's are taking some of the responsibility, which is not fair enough because they were force to find job at their young age and that is so burdensome... Thanks for the post! Have a nice day!
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
I'm also a Filipino and that's the real situation in our country. Most of the families especially from the less fortunate ones are those who have big families as in many children. I couldn't accept the fact that why do manage to have many children when they don't have the money to finance the needs of their children. They are even aware how it is hard to live in a day when it comes to food and other expenses. They don't do the responsible parenting and continue to add more children where their children will suffer in the end. It's sad that they are aware of their situation already but they are not having family planning. For me, it's okay to have many children as you want as long as you can finance all their needs.
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@BYOLA2871 (4376)
• South Africa
22 Aug 08
my father had seven kids but he will always say if he had his chance to do it again he will have only 3 or 4 well we all have a good life but it can be a little hectic raising so many kids,whenever i see such population i think of a football team its funny but if the family can afford to live well its ok i guess,but i believe its gonna be really hectic to feed and live fine what about education?
@rocker21 (2718)
• India
22 Aug 08
ooo Happy Family , Especially a Happy hubby for sure!
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