Betrayal fo trust

United States
August 21, 2008 8:19am CST
I had a friend, a very close friend, or so I thought, that I trusted with my life, but he turned out to have very shady business practices. He was hired by family and turned out to be a conartist. Even though he did not do it to me, it was still to family, so I truly feel he betrayed my trust. How do you handle situations where people betray your trust?
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@bryanski (497)
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
Betrayal is one of the most common thing that could happen between friends. I believe sometimes it is unavoidable because we all make mistakes as we go on through life. Well coping up with it will be hard. First you need another person to talk to about it. Let your emotions out. Next, try to talk to your friend. Assess his wrongs if he is worth your forgiveness or not. We all should forgive. It is hard. But don't leave your friendship for one mistake. Learn to forgive. Its all in the mindset. If you can understand him, why he did his wrongs and all, you would all be okay. Try to think your friendship is one of the best treasured ones. Think of the times you were having fun with your friend. Just forgive. Maybe not forget. But at least forgive. Life should move on and so are the both of you. Good luck!
• United States
21 Aug 08
It is a very common thing which is kind of sad, but we are after all only human. I have been able to bounce back sometimes, but not every time. I will try to forgive, it's just hard, because I feel torn because of my previous trust in him, and the fact that what he did, is the complete opposite of the person I thought I knew.
@Shawchert (1040)
• United States
21 Aug 08
So far I haven't had anyone to betray my trust like this before. I suppose I wouldn't talk to them for a little while to get things straight in my head then try to talk to them. I find after I think for a little while that I can be a better listener and see what I can. It more than likely would end my friendship with that person though. If I found I couldn't trust them before, I am less likely to trust them later.
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• United States
21 Aug 08
Thank you so much. I am feeling better about it already.... I am also laughing at myself that I typed "fo" instead of "of" ROFL. I guess I was tired and more concerned over the storm we're dealing with right now.
@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
21 Aug 08
I think this kind of thing has happened to the best of us. It goes on a lot and betrayal really can hurt you. In my time I have had some betrayals. I would be mad and hold grudges. As I got more experience in life and grew a little older and wiser I started changing my attitude. Sometimes you need to look past this kind of thing and keep a good attitude toward life and think about the good in people. It could help you get on with your life and best of luck to you!
• United States
21 Aug 08
Thank you, I do often try hard to find the good in everyone, even people I still have around that have caused me trouble, but I learn how to or not to deal with certain people to prevent the trouble from happening. I guess it upset me because I never saw this coming and there was nothing I could do about it. What he did was the complete opposite of the person I really thought I knew. This guy was always asking about how my family was, then he turns around and "tells them off" on the phone for absolutely no reason what-so-ever.