I Failed My Friend :(

Philippines
August 21, 2008 11:58am CST
I am hurt, disappointed and guilty right now. I really haven't done wrong to a friend but she was misled and I take the blame. She has done a huge mistake, something that she said will change her life forever. I feel guilty because she was in need a friend during those times. But I was not there. I was not there to counsel here. She has no one to talk and confide with. I was away. I did not do anything to help her. She is not blaming me and she was even sorry for causing me pain. But I am that should be sorry. I wish I was there to guide her. But what was done was done. I can't undo it by just feeling guilty and sorry. I failed her. I am not worthy to be called her bestfriend. I just hope now that I can help her get up and be the girl she used to be.
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@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
24 Aug 08
True friendship is all about being able to get through difficult times together and being forgiving; things will be allright again. The fact that you feel guilty and want to make things right means a lot. You can't be there 24/7 for her but you can at least try and make things right. You can't change things that are in the past, "no use crying over spilled milk". You two can work this out together and when your friendship has experienced this it will only come out much stronger, I have personal experience in that area. Keep up, you are a good friend trying to be supportive!
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Thank you for considering me as a good friend. Hearing that from a new person is very rewarding to my part.
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@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
24 Aug 08
I can only judge from what you wrote, but it sounds like you are doing everything to be a good friend. You are even putting your 'error' out in the open on internet, ready to take a typed beating from mylotters . Take care!
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• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Thank you again. And thank you for adding me up as a friend.
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@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
24 Aug 08
[i]ohhh...you're such a good friend but do not put all the blame in you! That is life, we have our own life to take care with and for sure if you are very aware of the situation, I know you will be there! There are chapter in our friend's life that they need to be alone or to be with someone else, so, maybe that time, that was happen to her! Anyway, what matter now is that, she have you to talk with and be with whenever she will be facing another trial in her life![/i]
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• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Thank you very much. I really hope I could be of help to her as long as I can and as long as she needs me.
@pkraj111 (2459)
• India
21 Aug 08
I would say you made a mistake, but worrying about that is no way going to help her. Think of any alternate methods that could help her and make sure you are there when needed in future. Cheer up and Have a nice day
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• Philippines
21 Aug 08
I really admit that somehow i am to be blamed. But right, i should do something to redeem myself and help her.
• United States
21 Aug 08
Paul write in the Bible, "Forgetting the past I press on toward the mark" You are right when you say you can not change the past. Friendship is not based on how mistakes you make or how many time you failed. Friendship is based on the realization that at times we all fail. It is not the number of time we fall, it is the number of time we get up that count. You have a great opportunity right now to be that best friend. To help restore her and be there when things get tough. Yes this event may have changed her life but you can be there to help her through the changes. That is what a true friend is. "No great love does a man have than this, that he lay down his life for a friend." Pastor G
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• Philippines
21 Aug 08
Thank u so much pastor G. I would put that in mind. I really hope I could be the friend that she needs and would help her in the changes that she may undergo as a consequence of what she have done.
• United States
21 Aug 08
Funny thing about friends - it's impossible for us to be there 100 percent of the time. We have other friends as well as our own lives to attend to, and it can get in the way, whether we want it to or not. Maybe things would have turned out differently if you had been there for her to talk to, but it's just as likely that they would not have turned out any differently. Your friend is her own person and made her own decisions, which would have been the case whether she had your opinion or not. Yes, your opinion may have swayed her, but maybe not. Don't beat yourself up. She's clearly not blaming you. You don't need to blame you. What you need to do now, as her friend, is just to help her. You weren't there before, and that's terrible for you, I'm sure, but you're there now, and you won't be much good to her if you're carrying all this guilt for something that was ultimately not really your responsibility. Be there for her now - that's all she needs. Best of luck to both of you.
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
Thank u for that wonderful piece of advice. You are right. I should compose myself and be there for her not because i am guilty but because i love her as my friend and that I care for her welfare.
@tjonys (217)
• China
22 Aug 08
This is life, there are many things are not his best decision. . . Put aside the burden of heart, to see what she needs help!
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@elmiko (6640)
• United States
21 Aug 08
It must have been really bad by what I read. I realize more the world isn't perfect. Thats why things don't get me down as much as they use to. Hopefully you and your friend will be fine.
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