What is the appropriate time to wait after knowing someone to marry them?

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@Uroborus (910)
Canada
August 21, 2008 2:50pm CST
I know there are many opinions on this. I started thinking about this recently when someone I know decided to marry a man after knowing him for 2 weeks. This doesn't mean they became boyfriend and girlfriend for two weeks after being friends for a long time. It literally means that they met as strangers, and two weeks later she married him. Is it just me, or is she being crazy? I mean, would most people consider 2 weeks way too short?
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• United States
21 Aug 08
2 weeks does see like a really short time, but i can't say anything i only knew my husband 5 months before i married him and we have been married for 4 months now. People do what they want, 2 weeks is to soon to marry someone i think... I would have to know someone a little bit longer before i get married to them...
• United States
21 Aug 08
woah i would never marry someone after such a short time of knowing them. FOr me personally i waited 5 years. it gave me the timei needed and made me feel more secure. but probally 2years is a long enough wait too
@cortjo73 (6500)
• United States
21 Aug 08
I would consider 2 weeks way too soon to get married. There certainly are a few successful marriages out there where the couple got married after a really short time of knowing one another but, I don't think that number is very high. As for me, I was engaged to my hubby about 3 years after we met, and we got married about 2 years later on the 5 year anniversary of when we started dating. We have been together for 11 years and married now for 6 of them. We moved in together one year after we met and started dating. We actually moved together because we had a 3 hour long distance relationship and it was just getting really hard to have to travel so much to see one another. So, we moved to another state together. We had ups and downs and times where we considered breaking up but, it is because we took the time to get to know one another and learn how to live together that we are still together now. So, I think that your friend should have waited for a lot longer before they got married. But, you never know. Maybe they will be one of those few people who just knew right away and they live happily ever after for the rest of their lives.
• Canada
21 Aug 08
I think she's crazy! Even if i was friends with someone for years and started dating for only 2 weeks I still wouldn't marry them that quickly. For me, my time frame is anytime after a year. That gives fairly enough time for people to really get to know one another. people also change after time and you might not like who they are a year later. I once had a friend who I had known for 5 years. We were great friends and started getting feelings for each other. So we decided to try it. We lasted 9months together and broke up because of our differences. Just because they were your friend, doesn't mean they don't act differently in a relationship. 2 weeks is way too soon to jump into something so big. They are still in the honeymoon stage. it will be a miracal if that marriage lasts more then a few years.
• United States
21 Aug 08
I personally don't think I would ever marry someone I'd known such a short time, but that's me. I don't think there's any set appropriate time period after which marriage is acceptable - everyone thinks differently. What matters is the people entering into the marriage. I'd known my husband for four years when we got married, had been dating for two and a half...and our marriage almost failed. I've also heard of couples that married after barely knowing each other and the marriage is a long and happy one - so it really does depend on the people. To each his own, I say. I hope your friend is happy in her new marriage - but she might need to lean on you now and again as she adjusts and gets to know her husband better. Just refrain from any "I told you so's". ;)