Babies first word, babies first sentence

United States
August 21, 2008 8:41pm CST
My baby amazed nurses his first few days in NICU by being able to raise his head up on his own and look around. My doctor didn't believe me when I let him know that he was turning himself over (usually when furious at being changed - the indignity!) in his first month. He crawled around until between five and six months months and then began lifting himself up on furntiture and moving himself along. I thought he'd be walking then his first summer - eight or nine months. But I found he'd walk a few steps then get scared - perhaps remembering falling at previous attempts then just sit down. I didn't mind, I've read crawling for awhile is good for brain development - cross crawling as it uses both sides of the brain. He would dance in place though - he loves dancing! He finally started taking wobbly jaunts across the room at about a month past his first birthday. Of course past, because we visited my husband's relatives on his first birthday who were very quick to tell me that his cousins all started walking well before their first birthday. And they were all potty trained well before the first birthday too. They apparantly pretty much did it on their own too. Now its the talking race. He's 20 months now. He jabbers alot. He understands words - like if I say where is the and fill in the blank with tree, light, ball, truck etc - he goes to find it or looks at it. If I ask him to sit on his potty he walks across the room to it, or to that mommy has to go pee pee, go open the door! Etc. He has a small vocabulary - many words which he'd been saying for awhile before I figured out what he was saying - like he says door door - it took awhile to decipher it and pick it out of the sentence. I think it took him pointing to it to figure it out and realize he's been using it! He says light, hi, yes, no, no, no (the last to any dogs that are barking), dog, up (to mean pick me up, wake up) and out for outside. And of course Ama (grandma), mama, dada etc, simple words. But no sentences. His Ama has brought it up a few times saying that he needs to go to nursery school so he can talk more (we can't afford that and don't qualify for vouchers). And last time said maybe it was because his dad and I don't talk to him much. I talk to him ALL the time! I relay what we're doing - like washing dishes (he helps) or point out things to him - now I just say look at the tree, water, stream and he looks without me pointing so I know he listens! I make songs for things like animals, bathtime etc. And when he says something to me, I listen and nod or say really? And let him reply. I even play sharing, please and thank you games with him. I talk ALOT. We have first word books too. So she says, "Oh well, maybe he's slow..." Of course if he is I'll love him just the same, but every child is different. His friend Braan who is like two and a half is only just starting to string two or three words together, like if I come over with Robert he says, "Amy play! Robert play!" His mom is a SAHM too and talks and explains things. And a friend from base, her baby only just started his potty training at two and wasn't alking in sentences then. Of course, he thinks he's talking and sounds confident that what he says makes sense! I barely talked until I was five then you couldn't shut me up. And my mom said I started reading at two - probably because I've always loved books (I even vaguely remember my favourite from back then) and I wasn't read to enough for my liking - but again all kids are different, I started reading at two, I devoured my moms sci fi and other books in the fourth grade and even delved into my sister's college books, but I couldn't tie my shoelaces until like third grade and though I really concentrated I couldn't make my bat connect with the ball in school. My neice paige was singing her abc's and other songs by two and half and knew her shapes and colors but that doesn't mean if they have another child they would be the same. Or that that other child would be flawed for it. When did your child start really stringing understandable words together into sentences and did you have any annoying relatives like this? this was the same m-i-l who all day long each day of our visit was telling me how the baby must be hungry and thirsty and wouldn't grow up big and strong and healthy because I nursed him!
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• United States
22 Aug 08
Where did you deliver at? My son was talking complete sentences at 2 years old, he walked at 1 he's done everything fast, he's now 8 going on 20. My daughter took a little longer because "bubby" would carry her around. My family did that "well, so and so did this at this age" stuff too, I didn't pay any attention because its my child not theirs. Don't sweat that stuff, just focus on your child, they're not robots, they're kids. It sounds like even though he was in the NICU he's doing great. He just needed a little extra time to get used to this world.
• United States
22 Aug 08
I delivered at Presbyterian. Or do you mean home or hospital? He was in NICU because my midwife because on my first day of labor the midwife didn't believe my water had broken so by the afternoon of the second day when they stuck a knitting needle up there to break it - they found it had! They kept him in there for days hooked up to an IV and oxygen JUST IN CASE he had gotten an infection - they were waiting for a blood test. Of course I still had to pay! Insurance only covers the basics. Turns out he was great and he got high points on all of his apgars. PErhaps a bit traumatized by that though. His veins are like mine and his veins kept bursting so they had to hook the IV to his head! Still he went through milestones fast, except for the talking in sentences thing! He even learned some Mandarin from his Ama, like pine pine saw (phonetic) is clap your hands! He doesn't say it though - but if we do he claps. Or if I sing The wheels on the bus he knows all the hand movements. I guess I just can't wait, I want to hear him talking about the world and tell me what he thinks and likes and wants to do. His favourite things. And of course hear him say I love you! I figured out another of his words today, baa baa is of course bath, he says baa baa it as he was pushing the white plastic box we use to wash the dishes (we give the last dishes a bath then him). I finally really listened to his babble when he was trying to climb in and he said baa baa and then bath bath ocassionally. So your son walked about the same time as mine. I've heard girls take a bit longer. My neice was talking pretty completely early like your son and learned her numbers, colours, abc's and shapes (even one's I forget the hexagon and all those) soon after. His friend Bran is about two and a half and he links words together like go open door or amy play but he doesn't talk in full sentences. My son sounds like he is, he talks so confidently like he's actually saying something. Its sooooooooo cute.
• United States
22 Aug 08
My wife was a labor and delivery nurse at Pres for about 3 months, we just left Albuquerque, NM about a month and a half ago, I thought maybe she was your nurse, but if you had a mid wife then she was probably in charge.
• United States
23 Aug 08
I had a nurse too...she was very nice but she was an older woman like my age maybe a little older. Very nice. Very strong, a strong stout woman. She believed me when I told her my water broke! Its so funny I said between my nurse walking in on my throwing up while sitting on the toilet (from contractions) and with me in the tub and the actual deliver with my husband and friend there I lost a little modesty!