unruley child

United States
August 22, 2008 2:32am CST
ok i need to know how do you think parents should handle children that dont want to listen. i have a freind that have a 16 year old girl and the child dont want to go to school. how would you handle this.
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@auntiedis (165)
• United States
22 Aug 08
This scares me. I have an 8 year old that is Oppositionally Defiant. I think I'm going to be in these shoes in another 8 years, if not worse off, but I have no idea how I'm going to handle this! YIKES! I look forward to hearing everyone's comments and suggestions!
@pythia7 (139)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Have you had your kid checked for any learning problems? My younger daughter was so so difficult, and for years we thought she had ADD. It turns out she had Anxiety disorder in a big way. She has learned to accept herself and the fact that she has to take medication, and she is happy, working, and lovely, now in her 20's. She used to argue and fight with all of us night and day, and it turned out it was the way she was trying to fight the fear she was feeling (it's a chemical imbalance)the only way she knew how as a small child. I knew something was up with her when she said to me (she was maybe, six) "My mind doesn't want to fight but my body makes me". I thought, wow, that is actually the clue right there. Good luck and God bless you! I bet undernieth it all there is a great kid in there!
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
22 Aug 08
That is a parents worse fear. Teenagers are very rebellious. I have boys that are teens...my daughter is 8, so I have that to look forward to. Luckily I haven't had any problem like this with my boys, but if I did I would be very tough about it. I would tell them that they go to school or they will be put in a detentions center where they go to school that is under lockdown. I would stick to it too. I think that tough love is the best way to handle disruling teens.
@yogeshdhusa (2237)
• India
22 Aug 08
Hi ladyleo, I think their must be a reason.. because teenage girls like to go to school and go aroung with friends.. she might be hurt or insulted or teased by someone.. i hope you understand , i think parents should become friends to their teenage children.. and tlak to them about the problem they face and guide them in the right way.. thanks and enjoy :)
@dagda24 (367)
22 Aug 08
Ooh, teenage rebellions are hard. The more they fight her on it, the more she's likely to pull away. I'd be inclined to say it was fine for her to stop going to school, but only if she gets a full time job and pays rent to stay in the house. The reality of full time work and financial responsibility may be just the thing to have her running back to school pretty quick. OF course, she may be fine with that idea so it might not work. Depends on the teenager really.