what are the tips for a happy married life?
22 Aug 08
i have been married for 4 years now but we've been commited to each other for 9 long years before we got married. I am extremely happy and everyday is an adventure for us. There is no secret ingredient for this. You just have to love the person you are with, accept his/her flaws and do your part as a wife/as a husband. Communicate a lot, your feelings, your thoughts, your appreciations, your dreams, your troubles. An open communication can prevent accumalation of negative emotions. The more open you are, the easire you can work on the conflicts. Then, there should always be respect and faithfulness. You will definitely meet and see other attractive persons, but your respect and faithfulness will make you stick to the vow you made on your wedding day. Also, keep your relationship exciting, do new things together, hold hands in the rain, steal a small kiss, make surprise dinners,etc,etc. If ever you'll have kids, see to it that you still have your time together as a couple. And oh yeah, dont go to sleep angry at each other, settle conflict as soon as you can. Good luck and happy mylotting!
23 Aug 08
Happy marriage is a successful marriage and to have a successful marriage depends on two things: to find the right person and being a right person. We often say that somewhere someone made for you and the day that you come across a person you feel that he is the one you've been waiting for. But somewhere because of lack of understanding and mental compatibility they move apart. So to have a happy marriage you must know your partner to understand him fully. A happy successful marriage is must have Love, commitment, understanding, concern and togetherness. If we include all this aspects in our married life we will find happiness in our marriage.
• United States
23 Aug 08
Well, I've been married for 27 years. Yes to the same man! Even I'm amazed. Have I been happy every moment? No. Would I trade it for something else? No. The only secrets or tips I would say, is be slow to anger, or at least to lash out. You may be angry at something that doesn't really exist. (Misunderstanding)And the tongue lashing you give may be too stiff for the crime. Then who is sorry? Don't sweat the small stuff. It can all be fixed. Broken hearts are harder to repair. Have a sense of humor and don't take yourself too serious. If there is a serious issue that needs to be addressed, being the discussion while you are both calm and relaxed. Do not bring it up when you are already angry, especially if it's about something else altogether. Avoid words like always and never. If it is something the other person does or is doing on a regular basis, don't attack them. They won't be receptive to you. Say something like. "When you say or do this, I FEEL this way." (Feelings aren't right or wrong. They just are.) Finally, look them in the eyes and remember, this is the one I love! Love to you all!
• United States
31 Aug 08
Communication for sure! Never go to bed mad at each other is another thing that we've learned. Happiness is different to each and every one of us so it's hard to tell you because something that makes us happy like just being able to lay around in our bed til 9 a.m. won't be the same for another couple. For us, having a happy married life is just being at home with our kids and laughing together. We live a simple life, we're not rich, but our lives are rich because of the values that we have been taught and the dream that we will be able to make a life for our children.
• United States
31 Aug 08
I also forgot to add something that we learned from his paternal grandparents that were married for over 50 years. His paternal grandpa just passed away a couple months ago and I've been spending time with his grandma when I can. So I asked her one time how it was to be married for 54 years, how did they do it. She told me that even though it was tough and he had his faults, she had hers too. She said that there was no such thing as a perfectly happy marriage and that you compromise alot on both sides. That's how they made it through over half a century together.
25 Aug 08
Do not consider marriage to be a travel on smooth road. At times there would be potholes and bumps. Once you have selected the spouse to be, then you must consider yourself to be one until your last moment on earth. Try to understand your spouse at all times. Never criticize. Say "I feel you can do more" instead of your should be, you are always... etc. Try to create more joy in the family and think creatively to surprise your spouse. It could be a small help too. A husband can help the wife in housework. Reemember to stay in touch even when you are away. It is a way to show you care. Perhaps you may forget it 1 or 2 years after marriage, but caring for each other is the key to a happy married life. Above all, Pray for each other and seek blessings from above!