Who is the Boss in your home?

@Bebs08 (10690)
United States
August 22, 2008 2:05pm CST
This is funny!! I have a lady friend who was well known to be the boss in their home. Everything she wishes to happen, the husband will just give in so that there would be no argument and the wife will not be angry all the time. There was one time that the husband said, Honey, will you please give me one chance to be a HORSE? Because oftentimes the husband is always the chicken. My lady friend just laugh when she shared that to me. I just can't imagine a husband chicken in the household? Not in mine.. My husband would nevr become a chicken. what can you say about this?
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@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
29 Sep 08
Glad that you opened that up. When i read your discussion, I remember about my husband. When he teases me, he always told me that "your the boss". I always reacted about it. I don't want to be called the boss because for me, there's no boss in the house there's always an equal rights. I told him not to say it again, but everytime I suggested something he alsways said yes and always say the line "your the boss". That's why when I read your topic, i can remember him and misses him. Happy mylotting;)
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 Sep 08
yea, hubby sometimes joking like that. But in reality? some hubby really would want to be the boss. But I go with you. It is always good to have an equal rights in the home.. but in my case, I will honor also the decision of my hubby specially in big things that I don't even have an idea of how to do it. Which means he knows better than me when it come to such thing, so he is the boss for that mater. By the way, why you miss your hubby? Is he not home with you? oh!! said to hear that... He is working away from you? Happy mylotting.
• United States
30 Sep 08
My husband is from Florida and i'm from the Philippines. We just got married last July28 and he went back to Florida August 13. He is working for the papers right now but still it's hard to be away to the one you love especially when you just recently got married.
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Wow, reminds me of Jon&Kate plus 8. He also always gives in in order to avoid trouble, lol. All I can say, if you give in all the time and bite your lips in order to avoid arguments you are bound to explode eventually and then it will get really ugly. Your friend should be worried. He gave the first indication of being frustrated and upset. Lol, my husband would never let me treat him like that nor do I always bite my lips just to avoid an argument. It's called a relationship not servitute, lol.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
22 Aug 08
That's right!! I think my friend is just spoiled by her husband, because the husband is not so cute.. I mean not really handsome but the wife is really beautiful. The husband has brain but no beauty. But the wive has it all. She is vry talented and beautiful. I think that is also one factor.
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
22 Aug 08
If she counts on that she is definitely in trouble. Beauty fades and I have seen some really beatiful women turn ugly. I guess he'll be willing to pay for the plastic surgery needed to maintain the beauty, lol. Oh well;)
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Hi Bebs, [i]My husband will always tell me he is the king and I am the queen..lol! There is no boss really here, when I don't like what he is planning and thinking, i will always object and we will try to discuss and meet halfway! I always love to have the same relationship and marriage life with my Parents! I always look up to them! [/i]
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Wow!! very sweet!! King and Queen? that is nice. Maybe the wife is jut spoiled that is why it happened to them.
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• United States
22 Aug 08
yea..sometimes, it wonderful to make fun and jokes because of everyday's trials in life! It's challenging though!
• Australia
29 Sep 08
In my home we try to make it equal on both sides of the discussion. Sometimes She is the boss and othertimes I am. But for the most part we share equally in the process.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
29 Sep 08
oh!! I like that.. sharing equal responsibilities. That is good!!!!
@Verity (851)
2 Sep 08
I do not appreciate such kind of behavior because I do not want to be the ruler or to be the boss of my home. I do not want to deprive the rights of my husband as I respect him. The home shall be ruled by the Ruler that is the husband in an appropriate, just and impartial manner for the benefits and the welfare of the marriage and the entire family as well while the wife is his comforter, adviser and supporter in every legitimate and appropriate decision that the husband may proposed. A healthy and happy home shall not be dominated by an outrageous behavior by any of the spouses but it shall be dominated by love and respect which are among of the essential elements of marriage.
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
2 Sep 08
wow!! very good input. a home will not be dominated by outrageous behavior but by LOVE. Oh!! that's cute!! and you are truly right!!! if one is dominant in the home, there is no peace, unity, harmony and love. Great ideas.
@walijo2008 (4648)
• United States
25 Aug 08
No my husband would never be a chicken either, he's the boss around here in most things..lol. If I say something about being the boss, he'll say Okay, I'll stay home and you can go to work...lol. I have an aunt thats the boss in her house, what she says goes, I think my uncle just goes along with it, because he don't want to start an argument, he's the one that does all the working anyway, she doesn't do anything, but I couldn't be like that myself.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Oh!! that's bad.. I don't like that situation. I hope your uncle will not get fed up with that situation. You are funny!! I could imagine that would say the same as what your hubby said.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
i am not married, and at home, the boss is my mom. hehe
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
1 Sep 08
that's cute!!!
@salonga (28016)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
Ha!ha!ha! It will make most wives laugh because they can identify themselves with your lady friend. You know dear many wives have the tendency to be dominating and their husbands out of love would just let their wives do that way. Well, once the husband gets to the limit and has gets fed up then that is the time the dominating wife will wake up. You know dear, I also sometimes have the tendency to be dominating because sometimes I'd forget that I am no longer in the office. But you know it's a good thing that I could easily sense once my husband is offended already and it is so easy for me to say, "Sorry dear, I forgot I have to submit to the King of my heart." So the situation will get to lighten again. The husband is the leader and he should be respected as such. On the other hand while he is the King, I am his queen and I get all his love and care. Would it not be a wonderful home to live if all men and women would know the right postions they have in the family?
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Very well said my friend. Wive sometimes abused the love that the husband have for them. what I mean is.. they will get what they want because the husband tolerate them not that they are really chicken but they just don;t want to have argument. You know the ladies, would talk too much and have all the reasons in the world to get their wants. But you are exactly right bye saying... men and women must know their positions in the family. I agree with you.
@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
22 Aug 08
Generally speaking we have an equal relationship! But I respect him a lot and there are times that I will accept his opinion and decision over my own. I have a voice and I have my own opinions, which he of course respects also. But in the end I do consider him to be the boss!
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
22 Aug 08
wow!! you are a wonderful wife. Many wives have a hard time to submit to their husbands and consider them as boss. They want a 50/50 relationship. No boss all the same. But yours, is cute!! at least you respect him as the head of the family and you are the heart..cool.