Spoiled & Misbehaved Children.

@Chevee (5915)
United States
August 22, 2008 4:55pm CST
My daughter has a set of twin boys, and she made this statement to me once. Why do you let them get away with things like that? When we were children we would have gotten a paddling if we did that. I admit my grand children get away with a lot more than I let my children get away with. Paddling is putting it mildly. When I was bringing my children up you whip the stew out of them if they did something wrong, even when we were in school we got paddling, you didn't hear anything about child abuse,,, and children had respect for adults. How do you feel about this, do you let your grand children get away with things that you didn't let your own children get away with? Those that don't have grandchildren, how far do you let your children go before you discipline them?
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
22 Aug 08
It depends how long it is before I have grandchildren. It might be soon lol. I have certain rules and guidelines which include no climbing and jumping on or off furniture, asking about snacks and not just barging into the fridge or panty and making a mess, please and thank you, not 'gimme this', respect for your things as well as other peoples' things. I don't spank and I never have, but I have certain expectations that are consistent. If they are not followed, there are always natural consequences and I allow those to happen, they make for good learning opportunities even if they are not fun to experience.
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22 Aug 08
Hi Chevee, I don't have any children, but know that my friend who I have know since we were kids was very strict with her children and yet she is too soft with her granddaughter, the little girl could wreck her house for all she cares and yet her house so neat and tidy, I don't really know why the grandparents are too soft with grandchildren. Tamara
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@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
22 Aug 08
What your daughter tells you, my brother and I tell my parents ALL the time. My son can jump on their bed, ride their ottoman around the house, play a game called broom ball (he plays with my mom and it is quite like hockey) in the house and the list goes on and on. My son doesn't do any of that in our house. We rarely have to punish or correct him, he is a really good child (thank goddess). I am sure he will be hell as a teenager though.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
23 Aug 08
No Grandchildren yet, just children. I was very strict with my eldest when he was little, but he only ever got a smack if he was really naughty and those occasions included stealing and lying etc, so the discipline was for really bad behaviour. I was strict with him though as he was growing up, I was on my own with him though until he was 8 so it was quite hard. I have three other children now as well and I am firm with them but I do not have to smack them now, they react to me well being firm. My daughter does especially, she hates to think that I am cross with her and if I raise my voice to her she hates it.
@sunita64 (6473)
• India
23 Aug 08
Regarding this I would like to say that my parents never tried paddling etc but still we are obedient. The punishment we used to get for wrong action was a silent mom. She used to stop talking for a while with us and for us that was a very big punishment. But that really make us remain on the right track. Even my nephew and neice do obey my mother more than their own mother who at times hits them. So silence is golden and I feel it is the powerful way to bring children on track.
@bunnybon7 (37902)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Aug 08
yes i did whip the stuff out of 'em. and i do let the grand kids get away with a little more but only when i can send them back home. sometimes tho, i give them a swat on the behind and even tho i know it didnt hurt them physically, it works. hurts their feelings.