People who are always complaining

@Virgie60 (556)
United States
August 22, 2008 8:57pm CST
What do you do about this? A friend and I were talking about a mutual acquaintance and we both said at the same time "All she does is complain about people". Why do these people complain so much? Are they unhappy? It is hard to talk to them because of how they complain about other people you know. Makes you wonder what she says about me to someone else. I am not the type of person to put other people down so I can not understand this. Do you know people like this? Can anything be done to make them talk differently?
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@koolkate (242)
• Bahrain
23 Aug 08
I really really get annoyed by these people and I donot think that there is any solution for them instead of just telling them that "Stop Complaining".
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@currykai (427)
• Malaysia
23 Aug 08
Yes i have lot of such friends. they like to complain almost everyone and gossip about it and looks like as if she is the most perfect human being. Yes, it is scary such friends will eventually talk about you too at your back. I feel he/she who keeps complaining probably lack of being grateful of what they have, not all friends are perfect and we have to accept their good and bad characters when we are friends. He/she probably doesn't have a mirror to reflect on own self, how about them self? are they so perfect when they keep complaining about others. Sometimes such friends when i meet, when they try to say something bad about one person, I try to just smile and say sorry i find no issue with that and tell them everyone is perfect.Try to accept each person unique character.
@Virgie60 (556)
• United States
23 Aug 08
I like what you said about smiling and saying sorry that I find no issue with that & that everyone is perfect. I will have to remember that and try it sometime. It would probably make her stop in her tracks and wonder "what the heck?"
@currykai (427)
• Malaysia
24 Aug 08
I am glad your find it useful. Thanks a lot for the BR. have a nice day!
• United States
23 Aug 08
i think people who constintly complain are unhappy with them selves and deflect there unhappiness by complainging about other people. or even sometimes are just plain jelous of other people, and need something to make themselves feel better then that person so they pick on there slight character flaws.
@Virgie60 (556)
• United States
23 Aug 08
I think this person is unhappy with herself. We had another such lady that lived in town who was the same way. I felt sorry for her that she felt so bad all the time.
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
I know a lot of people who are like that. Complain and complain without obeying. Obey first before you complain, right? Good morning.
@Virgie60 (556)
• United States
23 Aug 08
Yes you are so right. I like the hearts :).
@walkthetalk (1307)
• United States
23 Aug 08
My husband complains all the time. He has a sister like that. His dad was like that, and so was his grandmother. Maybe it just runs in his family. I think you just can't satisfy some people. Can't do enough for them, or give them enough. Some people will always find something wrong. You can't fix this, so don't try, except your friend the way she is. Or let her be. Or tell her that how she acts bothers you. GOOD LUCK...........;-)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
Good day... I chose my friends very carefully, observed their character, attitude before considering them as friends. If you have friends like that who needs enemies. I mean friends should support each other and watch each others' back. Thank God I don't but if ever I'll have one I'll stay away from them as far as possible.
@shorty08322 (1270)
• United States
23 Aug 08
iknow i do sometimes the only time i do that is when someone do something to me i dnt like and say things i dnt like that is when i start but out of that i dnt dont do it that much
@coffeebreak (17820)
• United States
23 Aug 08
I dont are how much anyone says a person they know complains...my husband puts them all to shame! I'm telling you if it is black, he'll complain it's not white. IF it is good, he'll complain why it can't be good. If it is I drive slow, he'll complain why I don't drive faster, when I drive faster, he'll complain Idrive to fast. If someone in front of him has a bumper sticker he thinks is stupid, he'll complain about how stupid they are for having it. you name, it, he'll complain about it! I talk, he complains I say stupid things, if I don't talk, he complains we don't "talk". Lord have mercy, no matter what you think of your person that complains...count your blessings!! It most certainly could be worse!!!
@amitam (80)
• India
23 Aug 08
Some people are always complaining.I too have encountered such people.I talk to them about something on which they feel comfortable.I always behave positively with such kinda people, and I'm sure if you are positive then the next person to you become positive eventually. Discuss on which they are good, don't give them chance to make excuses.You can ignore their accusation and tell them good qualities of accused one. It's not your problem why some people complains too much.
@palonghorn (5486)
• United States
23 Aug 08
If someone has fallen into the habit of always complaining about others it's hard if not impossible to change them or get them to stop doing it. I think some people complain about others so that they don't think about their own insecurities. Some people just have the idea that they are better than anyone else, so they are going to point out all of the short comings that others have. You can almost be sure that if she talks about others with you, she talks about you around others, that's just how those types of people are. Other than talking about things that don't inlcude discussing other people, there is no way to stop them from talking that way.
@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
23 Aug 08
Yup, Virgie, I've got a colleague like that, so I can't avoid her, even if I want to very much. She'd complain & nag!. To her, everyone's no good; no one can do anything right! It's a rare day when she praises anyone (if she does, that person must have given her something - compliment, gift?). I think she's not a happy person, and maybe insecure! So she has to constantly boost her own ego, by complaining about others! Somehow I've learned to tune her out! At least I won't be affected so badly by all that negative energy from her!
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
23 Aug 08
Some people complain about everything and everybody. When they're with you and complain about other people, you can bet that they also complain about you when you're not around. That's their nature...and it's sad. Abraham Lincoln said, "People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be." I believe that.
@jensxtn (25)
• United States
23 Aug 08
I say just tell the girl how you feel...
• India
23 Aug 08
Some peoples are of negative nature and they are seldom optimistic. They always speak negative, do negative and expect negative. This is the tendency they have to complain. If one will sit without they may complain to you of your friend and when with your friend complain about you. Such peoples are sick and can not come out from their own limited world. Pray to god for them.
• United States
23 Aug 08
I complain about people but I do know when to drop the subject and move onto something else. I only complain about someone that obviously is causing trouble or engaging in really stupid choices. Otherwise I do not complain about people. I know someone that does though. It really just goes with them not being happy or comfortable with themselves so to make up for it they complain and put out the faults of other people to make themselves feel better. Sadly I don't think there is much you can do about those people though. The only thing you can do is to avoid them.
@sk66rc (4261)
• United States
23 Aug 08
Somebody told me once that most people fit into one or combination of following types: (1) people who take care of things, (2) people who wait for their, or any in general, problems to be taken care of, (3) people who complain about everything... I'd like to believe I fit in to a combination of 1 & 3... Sure I do complain about things at times to vent but when it counts, I take care of things... My problem is those who complain all the time but not willing to do anything about it... It bothers me especially when someone complains about others but yet they're not doing anything about it to make things better... I work with one girl who constantly complains about how she hates her job & how "nobody does anything around here" but she hardly does anything about it... She always has something to complain about everybody... I just can't understand her & people like her...