Which is better forgive then forget or forget then forgive?

@peach25 (188)
Philippines
August 23, 2008 10:26am CST
For me, it is better to forgive then forget, because it is easy for you to accept the apology or forgive the person who had done something wrong to you if you to forget the bad things that he had done to you.
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I don't think that we can ever forget...But to forgive helps us to move on...We need to forgive..It would be hard to forgive someone who has done an awful thing to someone else...but we can't sit around and try to reason why it happened...we must forgive and go forward.....If we could forget than that would make things alot easier, but it doesn't work like that...
@peach25 (188)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Indeed that forgetting the sins that they have done to you is not that easy to do, and I understand that. Because forgiveness is very easy to give if you are ready but you can never forget everything at one. Thank you for sharing your opinion.
@alpram96 (95)
• United States
23 Aug 08
You are right. Forgiveness is not necessarily about the other person. Many times we need to forgive someone for own sake. Holding on to anger, bitterness, or resentment is unhealthy and only ends up hurting us in the long run.
@peach25 (188)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Thank you for sharing your opinion. And forgiveness gives us peace and freedom. And I understand that most of the people cannot forget.
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
23 Aug 08
I think it is better to forgive then forget because no one should ever hold a grudge because if God can forgive the things we do that are bad,then we should be able to forgive our fellow man for what they do to us,and then forget them and go on with our lives the way we should,I can understand that some people forget and then forgive but I do not think I could ever do that.
@peach25 (188)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Well you have a point there, we cannot find real peace until we let go the anger and we moved on, just like what God did. He always forgive and forget our sins as we ask forgiveness. Thank you very much for sharing your opinion.
@4my1nonly (352)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
for me i think i should go to forget then forgive...you know,its hard to forget the things that we've done wrong, but maybe it depends on other situation ...just an opinion, for me cause i fully trust a person but if that trust lose, it can't never back...damage is done already.."what if someone cheated you, do you forget it easily?you can say you'll forgiven but in the same way you'll never forget what he/she have done to you.. but if the situation,just a simple thing that you can easily forget its also easy to forgive.
@peach25 (188)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Thank you for sharing your opinion, and you are right that if you really trust one person so much and he or she betrayed you, it is really hard to forgive.
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
Hi peach! I don't think both can be possible. Just an opinion. Forgetting is the hardest thing one can do. When someone hurt you, it's hard to forget because that someone has caused you pains. It may be true that time heals and someday you'd learn to forgive the person who hurt you but I don't think you'd be able to forget the thing that he did especially when it took you some time to move on from that experience. You'd always be reminded of the experience everytime you see the person, so I would really say that I don't think both can go together. To forgive is to forgive and to forget is to forget. Just an opinion.
@peach25 (188)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
You have a point there. Forgetting is one of the hardest lesson to learn. Thank you very much for sharing your opinion.
@James72 (26832)
• Australia
23 Aug 08
Well for starters you can't forgive someone for something that has been forgotten! lol. Forgiveness should be exercised by all of us; but this does not necessarily mean that we should ever forget either. For example if you had a partner that cheated on you and beat on you and you ended up having the strength to finally leave him, you may at some time in the future find forgiveness in your heart but you will never forget what he did or what you went through.
@peach25 (188)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
Well you have a point there, maybe your right, maybe not all people can exercise the rule in the bible that you should forgive and forget.
@chayapathys (2113)
• India
29 Sep 10
"Forgive and forget" is like a phrase.Religious texts also preach forgiveness only."Unless you forgive you will never grow" is a popular dictum.But forgetting or remembering is a mental faculty bestowed on human beings by the Almighty. If we start forgetting we will forget good things also and ultimately we end up being animated brainless humans like robots.By forgiving we get peace of mind and also inculcate a feeling of gratitude in the other person and gradually he gets transformed to be a good person.Even law recognizes the concept of forgiveness.That why there is provision for pardon petition to the Head of the state...
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 Aug 10
Forgiveness project one as a god..he is equal to god!
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
It's better to forgive than to forget because you'll just remember it again and again even if you try to forget. It really takes time but its really better if to forgive.