Family Woes

@laydee (12814)
Philippines
August 23, 2008 11:12am CST
These past few days our family has been through a lot of events. For one thing, my grandmother died. But the worst part of it all, is the fact that my father and his siblings are like forced to each other because of these events. Everyone is staying at our home but I am now seeing that it wasn't a very good idea. For one thing, I have an aunt who lived in the U.S. for the last 30years and haven't been here in my country for the longest time. Another is I have an uncle who lives in the province and he, together with his family are now here at my home. My uncle, aunt and dad comes from a broken family and they haven't been very close at all. Thus, conflicts arise. The main reason I opened this discussion is because tonight, they had a debate. A debate which brought a lot of stress for the household. My aunt started complaining about our country (well, she has always been like that) and says things as if she truly looks down on the country. Well, anyone who's actually being bullied would sooner or later respond negatively. So, my dad started to debate with her since he wasn't a great fan of the U.S. too. All-in-all, they both debated their hearts out and their high pride caused them to increase the pressure between them. My insights are the following: a. Anyone knows that topics like government, politics, countries etc. would never really bring any good most especially if you start pointing on each other. b. Knowing that she was just a guest at our home, my aunt should've just shut up because harsh words and all these drama are just fanning the flame. c. My dad should have just let things pass since my aunt started acting immaturely and like an uneducated person (swore a lot and acted as if she owned the U.S.). MY question: If you were in their shoes, or in mine, what would you have done in that situation? I actually just shut up and let them boil their heads off since I'm sure my words wouldn't do any good since obviously they weren't in the listening mood.
1 response
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
i'm so familiar with this kind of conflict since me and my sister have this long cold war that I think started since last four years ago.. i don't even talk or face her, i just can't. Your aunt, might be at fault since badmouthing your own native country is inexcusable not only from the eyes of your dad but even with the whole nation. I think its better if your dad just make his sister understand the meaning of patriotism and surely your aunt will just embarrassed herself.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Well, she says she's patriotic to the United States, and I don't really have anything to comment about that. It's just that she never really had the right to do that scene in front of everyone. Plus, she even blurted that Filipinos in the United States should just leave and go home. Funny because she never considered herself a Filipino (which she is, regardless of oath).
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
well you got one he$l of a hypocrite aunt.. no wonder your dad got really mad... she, who does not know how to love her family might have a bigger problem with her own country...she doesn't deserve any respect at all.