Do you disclose everything to your parents?

India
August 23, 2008 12:39pm CST
I happened to realize this only when i became pretty old... 20 years. Before that, i usually tell everything that happened in a day to my parents even when i know that it would get me scoldings and bad repution. But i had this habit of being frank to my parents like i were with my friends. But now not so much. I have started hiding things from them to make such things less worser. Is this how it should be? or am i making a mistake? What do you think?
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12 responses
@949011 (99)
• Singapore
24 Aug 08
Of course I don't really disclosed everything to my parent only those things that I think is need to be say then I would say. To avoid more problem for myself
@cottonm (753)
• Malaysia
24 Aug 08
i won't tell them everything, hahhaha, coz they will start to question a lots...no way, i won't especially regarding relationship
@jhenn22 (1243)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
there's nothing wrong disclosing things to your parents. And i guess its the best thing to do. Our parents are our most geniune friends. They don't want things that are bad to us. They want the best for us. I undertstand that there were things that we need to keep by ourselves but if you think that you need to share it to your parents then go ahead. Sharing things with parents can bind you as one and have a harmonious bonding
• China
24 Aug 08
I never tell anything to my parents , cause i believe myself , i can do everything well. i neednt ask help to my parents.
@gemini_rose (16193)
24 Aug 08
I have never confided in my parents with anything, from an early age they kind of set the rules that we were parent/daughter and that a friendship bond was impossible. A few years ago I think my Mum realised that she had made a mistake in how she had viewed our relationship and tried to switch the balance, she tried to bring the friendship bond in. However it really was too late for that, I love my Mum to bits but I never feel that I can confide in her with things. It is a shame if you start to lose this bond you have with your parents, I would love to be able to talk to mine about every little thing.
@shana123 (2096)
• India
24 Aug 08
Even im a teenager and i usually dont like to tell all things to my parents at all, i tell things which is necessary to tell and if something personal i wont tell it, the only one whom i share everything is none other than Almighty , ofcourse parents are our Gaurdian Angels but now we are not kids.. We are grown and wise enough to face the problems i dont say we should take everything granted in our hands in my opinion we are grown up and within 2 to 3 years we will be running a family , we have to face everything by ourselves and we should simply dump everything to our parents..See to that we are going astray...Happy mylotting..
• India
24 Aug 08
I think, we must disclosed everything to the parents, cuase, they understand better from us to our and other world's lifestyle.
@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
I don't tell my dad anything. I only tell my mom stuff like having a boyfriend, problems with friends, etc. I only tell my mom what she's supposed to know like having a boyfriend. She respects my personal life so.. I don't think it's wrong not to tell her other things. I don't know how you can consider something as wrong though.
• United States
24 Aug 08
I think that you don't have your parents everything or anyone else for that matter. I don't really tell too much of my personal business to anyone, family or not, because a lot of people will talk about you when they run out of stuff to say. But not only that, you need to keep some things to myself. When I was growing up, I was never the type to tell my parents too much.
• India
23 Aug 08
For a young Girl there are some personal aspects which she can discuss with the mother and not the father. If the most private affairs are discussed with the mother is as good as discussed with the parents at least the parents are aware of the things in one or the other way. If you are hiding some thing from your mother too i think you are doing wrong. U know parents and most the mother is the first teacher of the child who know where the child stands. If do not reveal something, the mother can judge from your behavioral change and will suitably advise of the good and not for the bad.
@bmf1976 (45)
• United States
23 Aug 08
I have found the older I have gotten, the more frank and open I become with my parents. This does not mean I tell them everything. I don't think they even want to know everything! I have told them things from my past that I never told them as a teenager and young adult. I have been surprised at my parents' reactions to things I tell them nowadays . . . especially my mom. I tell her I got a new tattoo, and she actually is curious and non-judgmental. A bit different story with my dad. But the point is, we're at a time in our lives where we are all adults and our parents realize that there's no point is wasting time, energy, and breath on sweating the small stuff their children do as adults!! So long as you are not entirely closed off and secretive about yourself to them, they will be happy. Don't lie and don't be scared to tell them certain things--you're only asking to damage your relationship with your parents. Tell them what you think they need to know, and the rest just keep to yourself unless you have a burning desire to tell them. Ultimately your parents just want to see you happy and succeed the best you can in life, so that they know they've done a good job as well.
• United States
23 Aug 08
No way! I'm 42 years of age now...a man. Gee whiz, I don't even know if my wife would stay with me one more day if she found out I was one to do that! The last thing a woman needs is a Mama's Boy. Knowing my wife as I do...it would probably be a dealbreaker. You know, the Bible has said over in Genesis that we are to leave father and mother...and "cleave to our wives." That means Mom and Dad do not need to know about every problem, every disagreement, etc. You need to practise separating from them so much starting now. So that when you get married, it won't be so hard. That is the perfect example of something that will cause you not to stay married very long. Yes, we are to honour our parents. But does that mean telling them everything??