Should I delete some one from my list of friends in MyLot

@nahidbd (731)
Bangladesh
August 24, 2008 12:00pm CST
When I first started there in mylot, each day I got a few friends request and got delighted that I am making friends. But now I have realized now that most people only send friend request only to display their discussion in mylot home page. I have PM some of my friends for help, but I didn't getting any response at the same time I see them busy creating discussion. So should I delete them. One request to all my members of my lot, don't send a friend request for making friend only for your interest or if you do not understand the meaning of friendship.
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@zeroflashx2 (2491)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Yeah, that's really true. Some would just send a friend request just to be able to see more discussions and even a few interests. Some won't reply but there are some whom you will be good friends with. For me though, I don't sift through my friends list that much and I usually leave all the ones in my list intact. Some who aren't that active might be busy just like me. I was out from mylot for a couple of days (usually weekdays) and I can't post that much. And who knows, you may be good friends still with someone in your list whom you haven't seen in a while. Take care!
@nahidbd (731)
• Bangladesh
24 Aug 08
I have little patience. How ever thanks and I will try to follow the way as you and some friends have stated in this discussion, not to delete friends.
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@mysdianait (64180)
• Italy
24 Aug 08
I feel that you list of friends is a very personal affair. My list is never ending and most are users who have requested me as their friend. 'Friend' is a BIG word and has different meanings for each individual. The users on my list over time realise what being a friend means to me. I cannot possibly respond to all of them every day as there are too many. If they can put up with this then they are halfway to enriching what I consider a real friendship. I have made some REAL friends on here over many months. I have never deleted anyone and indeed there are people who have never done anything here for many months - but then they reappear. Maybe they had health problems or lost their internet connection but until they return I never know the reason for their absence. Some return with a new user name because they lost their previous account for some reason. I don't cancel an offline friend just because we never contact each other - to me it seems so petty. These are my thoughts and as you will have guessed I cannot tell you what is best to do with your list Happy posting!
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@nahidbd (731)
• Bangladesh
24 Aug 08
Thanks for your opinion. I also don't cancel any offline friends. As people is getting more busy day by day with their own life, I fill considerable mind for them.
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• Singapore
24 Aug 08
I would delete a friend if they are offensive or has been spamming me. Should not get offended. If you need help, just post a discussion. You will get lots of help from other mylotters who want to make money from responding to discussions.
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@nahidbd (731)
• Bangladesh
24 Aug 08
It is good to get any help from starting a discussion. But some times (when I have short of time or slow internet connection) I try to PM a friend, not more than two in a week(!). But Some of them does not responds.
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@myklj999 (20750)
24 Aug 08
I go through my friend list every couple of months and delete thgose that are not actively responding to me.
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@nahidbd (731)
• Bangladesh
24 Aug 08
You are doing right.
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@subeesh (112)
• India
25 Aug 08
Hmm yeah, i too get many friend request,at least some of them are for their personal interest, like sending me private messages etc. All i could suggest you is if you find some one annoying, feel free to remove himm from your friends list.
@nahidbd (731)
• Bangladesh
25 Aug 08
Thanks for your advice.
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
When someone responds nicely and respectfully to my discussions, I immediately add them to be my friends. If they don't want to approve, then it's ok with me. I don't add those who are sarcastic and insulting posters. Good morning.
@nahidbd (731)
• Bangladesh
25 Aug 08
I don't usually add others as a friend. Other people invites me more. Have a nice day.
@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
24 Aug 08
Well, I actually don't mind having friends here in mylot, and even their purpose us just to have my response on their discussion. I saw they never answer the discussion I made, and that would be okay for me too. I just think that it's a fun place to do anything, don't take it personally, and don't be mad because of this. MyLot is fun without you taking it so hard :)
@nahidbd (731)
• Bangladesh
25 Aug 08
It is nice to take my lot as a fun, not seriously.
@Impervious (1154)
• United States
24 Aug 08
Here as with other sites I have been to people are taking the friend thing way too seriously. I currently have about a hundred or so friends on my friends list and have been away for quite awhile. The point here is, of all of theses people I had about three that I really corresponded with regularly. For the most part what I know about these people is what they post, which as you can imagine could be entirely fictitious. But none the less I know very little about the majority of my friends. If someone does not respond to a post or even a private message that I send them, I seldom if ever feel hurt or betrayed or whatever it is that you are feeling in regards to this. As far as deleting them, why bother. I think that most people make friends here in an effort to increase the overall amount of possible responses they can make. As far as you noticing them making comments and discussions of course they are just like everyone else that is how they get paid by participating. Perhaps they were not interested in the discussion or message you had sent.
@nahidbd (731)
• Bangladesh
24 Aug 08
Thank for your opinion. But if we could make all in our friends list real friends, it would be great. We can earn more money if we have more real friends, not just discussing on my lot but also from other sources.
• United States
24 Aug 08
I just responded to a discussion about this same thing,. And we feel that it is good to have as many friends as you can! It does nto hurt anything. {PLus it gives you more decussions to respond to. and that means a little extra cash to you... and that never hurts anyone either!!!!
@nahidbd (731)
• Bangladesh
24 Aug 08
Most of us in mylot come here not just for money but also for passion. Whenever one of our friend neglects us it hearts in our mind.
@shelly43 (1197)
• Australia
24 Aug 08
hi and no i wouldnt delete them im sure when they find somethig they are interested in to discuss they will show up..i love that i have the friends i do and most have come to be my riend because of a discussion we chatted about.. hugsssssssss
@nahidbd (731)
• Bangladesh
24 Aug 08
We all love making friends.
@Ldyjarhead (10157)
• United States
24 Aug 08
myLot members are friends for many reasons. I won't deny that friends are good for helping you increase your earnings, because you have a lot more discussions to pick from, and also more people that might respond to your discussions. What is the harm in that? I've actually written two articles about that very thing, and you can find them on my profile. I have a very large list of friends, and I DO take the time to help any of them that might ask me, and many have. The bottom line is, if you start deleting friends, you are hurting yourself probably as much or more than hurting them. Why would you even take the time to delete them? It serves no purpose.
@nahidbd (731)
• Bangladesh
24 Aug 08
Thanks for your response.I will see to have more patience.
@mandykaren (2040)
24 Aug 08
i have seen few discussions similar to this one.. So you not the only one that feels that way.. i dont get many pm, there is the occasional one where we have messaged that way, but most here dont have the time for pm and i dont think its very user friendly in mylot really.. i add people whom have responded to me and where i have liked what have said, or the type of discussions they have created. So basically when i am not able to think up topics, its good to just look under what friends have started, and normally there is a few i am able to reply to as have similar interests.. just makes it much easier. So the more friends, the more discussions and good ones I have also realized the more you get about, the more freinds you build up and the more responding you do, in the end your discussions get many more responses i dont delete anyone, even though many are just discussion makers, maybe if not active for months i may.. but tell you truth also, i dont have the time to go through them to want to delete any I dont see why you asking for help in private messages anyway, why not just do as a discussion, all your friends would reply then, as you both benefit from it. happy mylotting
@nahidbd (731)
• Bangladesh
24 Aug 08
Thanks. I will try to create discussion rather than PM any one fore help.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
24 Aug 08
I have deleted a couple of persons from my friends list on friday because they have disappear from MYLOT but is popping up on other social sites like MYLOT. I have also deleted them because I have not seen them contributing to my discussions even though there are here in MYLOT. I prefer to stay with a few friends and contributing to others than have over 100 friends who are not contributing to me. MYLOT works two ways and to me having neglectful friends is not good.
@nahidbd (731)
• Bangladesh
24 Aug 08
You are right. Neglecting a friend is not good policy.
@trickiwoo (2702)
• United States
24 Aug 08
If you don't feel that they're returning your friendship then delete them. Do they respond to discussions you start? Did they ever respond to your PMs? Sometimes I don't always notice that there's a message in my inbox. Or they just don't have time to respond right away. But yes, if you feel that they aren't responding to your discussions or answering your messages, then by all means remove them from your friends list!