What could make her happy?

Something that she always wanted to do and you never wanted to do before when you were married.

I think communication is the answer and spend more quality time with her. I mean, not just communication thru text or email but seeing each other in person more often is much better :) Ask her if it's a good idea before jumping into anything. It's good if you ask her idea too.

hmmm...Maybe you could take her to a romantic place like if she was your ex you probably have this special place you have been together before.. Maybe you can take her there and plan a romantic dinner or a romantic picnic...maybe bring her things that will remind you of your being together before like pictures or some stuffs you both share together... I would love that kind of gesture...I guess she will too... Maybe there then you can start asking her things about what she wants in life or get to know her better..well, good luck with you on that...

Just show her that you still like her a lot and am still interested. I doubt she expects anything more than that and women are basically just interested in being with someone who really cares. Know what I mean ?

life and interest changes permanentely, so you can decide on the things what you propose to do and leave to her likeness for the execution. say take her to a restruant and let her do the orders as she likes....or go to the movie complex let her decide on the movie.... or the best thing is ask her, Where and want she want to do today and let the things be on her interest and you join her in execution... enjoy man select the evenghrs to be pleasant

Any chance you could surprise her and show up unexpectedly for like a weekend or a day and just give her a really fun, day with just the two of you, maybe a movie, picnic, theme park something that is layed back but still romantic/fun. She is probably wanting time with you.

it is to know her better. try to communicate more with her. also try to understand those finer points of her thoughts. in this case you have to be really aware about what she wants to interpret. go ahead best of luck

What I will do I think I will take her out where we first dated, just to remind her that I still remember everything even it did not work out,and know her more now with out telling her. I think that will be starting again everything and would make it sensible this time. Have a nice day!

What I will do is where i brought her the first that time we dated out,why just to remind her that I still remember everything even that time it did not work out and try to know her more I think this time. Have a nice day!

I can understand your feeling. After graduation,I have been communicating with my best friends constantly. But when we come together,for example in Alumni Association,we always don't know what to do and what to say. It's really embarrassing...... I think sincerity is important between friends. If you don't know whether she would like your plan,you can make your plan as a suggestion. Ask about her idea. Take it easy. Don't to be too serious.

so your point is you are going to impress your ex and hoping she would like what you have planned for her, eyt? this thing, i am not an expert, trying to impress someone is good and not bad at all but being yourself when time comes is always better than anything else. just be yourself when you meet her, act natural as you have acted with the rest, women easily could recognize if the guy became so awkward and uneasy on things he's going to do. being natural and be who you are works wonder all the time coz you are just showing who and what you are and i believe that's what they are looking forward for another meeting in the future. but cultural background and beliefs might matter in this aspects as well. just be yourself..!!

hi drsparkle! If I were your ex and its been three years that we haven't seen each other but have constantly communicated, I see no reason for us not to be open and relaxed with each other now that we're back again together. We can practically talk about anything and maybe start really getting to know each other through our ideas we can share. If we have started off as friends then the easier for you because there are things that we may have in common. If we have started off as lovers, then the feelings would just have to be rekindled and nurtured. How? by being yourself, by accepting me (your ex, I mean) for who I am, by not fearing to be criticized, by being open and honest, by being sincere, and most especially by being sweet and loving. So there you are! I hope you can share my response with your ex. But it would really be nice if you call her your girlfriend. Good luck!