How to deal with this love situation

India
August 25, 2008 4:18am CST
I am in love with a boy, he says he likes me too but he doesn't want to date serious now I want to be serious. He says that he does not want to mess it up for the future. what should I do?
9 responses
26 Aug 08
You are in love with boy, but he says he likes you. Do you date someone who only likes you, not loves you? If he loves you, he will come to you natrually. Don't push him. Wait for him to date you!
• India
27 Aug 08
Thanks, i will follow your suggession
29 Aug 08
Good luck, friend! Look forward to hearing your good news!
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
well, am not really sure about that. you have to know the guy's intention i have been through that kind of relationship before and i was really head over heels in love with the guy, but he doesn't want it to commit with me, and he is free to see other women, it just pain me, but there is nothing i can do because i am not his girlfriend and i don't have any right to confront him or anything! well, after sometime, i told him i should stop seeing him because we are going no where! and it was painful letting go, because i was thinking he might still commit it with me, but i was being hopeless and stupid. and after freeing him, i met my current boyfriend and we have been steady for almost three years and we are so happy and inlove with each other. well, guess what i am trying to say is that you should know the guy more and know his intentions and if he really loves you because you might just end up crying if you keep your hopes up and they guy doesnt care that much. if he really loves you, then he should commit it with you.
• India
27 Aug 08
you are right, i should wait and watch and then decide what to do
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
that's absolutely right or you might only hurt yourself more in the process if you keep on seeing him and he is not serious about your relationship. when the guy is serious about you and the relationship, there is no reason for him not to make it official with you, so smile and think that there are a lot of guys who might appreciate you more. happy mylotting!
@subha12 (18453)
• India
25 Aug 08
i think he is just wanting to have fun. he has no intension of being committed. i have seen many guys like this only. they just want to enjoy and then leve.
• India
27 Aug 08
Yeh, This may be true. I will try to ask him clearly what does he want
@ReenaDKL (206)
• Mauritius
25 Aug 08
I think you simply have to sit down and think about it seriously. Why is it that the guy doesn't want to date you seriously? Is he a womaniser? Are you not his type? Why did he date you but was not serious? Sometimes you just have to give time to theo ther to think about it...maybe a little space will make him realise that you are important to him too... At least ask him why?
• India
27 Aug 08
You are right, I should clearly ask him, Thanks
@bryanski (497)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Simple, my friend. WAIT. Don't rush things for him and for you too. If not both agree on an issue, then don't push it. Have patience. You know, he must have his reasons why he does not want to go on serious at this stage. He may have other plans for the both of you. Or he may be still unsure about his feelings. See, he is being reasonable when he said he doesn't want to mess it up for the future. He must have good reasons I say and better ask him. And have patience. Nothing is wrong if you take your time in issues like this. If you rush, you might never know what would happen.
• India
27 Aug 08
Yes, I think you are very much right. I should wait and watch the situation and then decide my future course of action
@rocker21 (2717)
• India
30 Aug 08
bhav kha raha hai sala!
@roanne05 (1292)
• Oman
25 Aug 08
just let it flow....let him be...wait for him if he really loves you he will come to you in time.
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
25 Aug 08
Hum ... it hard to say ... you could not force people to do what you want, just let him to choose, i don't get it what future his mean ? if he means he will wait for you until he has good career and strong personality, you should be glad for him ...
@Reyah23 (641)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
There are guys who have priorities in life. Maybe that boy set-up a priority or goal that he have to finish first before entering into a relationship. If you like him and he like you too, one must sacrifice. If you are willing to wait for him on the right time then tell him so.