Just because you love animals doesnt mean your house should smell like it!

@dloveli (4369)
United States
August 25, 2008 6:22am CST
I am sorry but I have a friend who is beginning to bug me! She keeps rescuing these animals, mostly cats. Yet she doesnt see that she must take extra care when you have a pet. Walking into her house is like walking into a cat box. I have several pets and I wash my floors and clean up after them on a daily basis. You have to. They cant do it for themselves. WHen you take on the responsibility of a pet, you are saying that you will help them with their basic needs, give them love, and respect them. I see so many people who get a pet and once the newness wears off it becomes a problem. Just because you have pets, doesnt mean your house should smell like it. It doesnt make you look good if you have pets and your house stinks of urine or feces. It's not healthy for your pet either. Am I wrong?
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
25 Aug 08
no you are right a house shouldnt smell from pets! We train ours to go outside when they are little so they dont go in the house. no smell here from that .
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
25 Aug 08
A very good idea. If people do use cat boxes, try to scoop the poop. lol. It helps with the odor. I also use the cheap kind and change it frequently. That works for me. dl
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
25 Aug 08
yup if ya have cats need to have a clean box!
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@sedel1027 (17868)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I think an odor filled home would drive most cats insane. They have a very sensitive sense of smell which is how they find their litter box even when we can't smell it.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I agree! I think that is a form of abuse. Not to mention just plain nasty. I dont think that anyone has any reason to live that way. There are so many organizations that help with animals. People need to think realistically as to whether or not they can afford a pet in long term. Its unfair to take on an animal because you think they're cute. If a person cant afford to feed themselves, 9 out of 10 they will have a problem feeding an animal. I am going thru some tough times right now. I am doing all I can to keep it together. So I do know both sides of the fence. That's why I always stock up when I have extra cash on hand and coupons. There are also sites that offer free coupons for bags of food. If only people would THINK....... Thanks friend for listening. dl
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@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I know what you mean. Once we went to stay with my brother in law and they have 2 cats. I took a bath and we didn't bring our own bath towels so we used theirs and I was full of cat hair. I felt so gross and wanted to leave. How could they want to be full of cat hair all the time?
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
25 Aug 08
You poor thing! I dont know what I would have done. I guess I would have prayed that our stay wouldnt be forever. lol Its things like that, that give people bad impressions. I dont blame you for feeling the way you did. I am glad its over an you survived. dl
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@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
25 Aug 08
[i]Hi dloveli, not healthy for the pet as well as the owner! LOL! That is right and in my real life, I have not seen or meet anyone who don't know how to clean their area even if they have pet! People are very particular about cleaning! It is sad for those who don't take time to clean and don't train their pets where to poo or pee! LOL![/i]
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
25 Aug 08
It really is sad. Imagine how it would feel if we had to go to the bathroom on top of the waste we did the day before. Gross!!! We should treat animals as we would like to be treated. Its only fair to give a pet the best life possible. thanks dl
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• United States
25 Aug 08
No, you are definitely not wrong! I too know someone with this similiar problem as your friend.This person I know has only 3 cats but does not take care of them at all besides feeding them! I believe that cats as all animals need more than just refills on their food and water. He doesnt do anything else for them.It takes him forever to do the litter box, which is so disgusting and unhealthy for himself and the cats.Plus, he doesnt take care of them in any other way either.Pets need love, attention, medical care, etc.People need to realize that there is alot more to having a pet then just feeding him once in wa while. Some say I go overboard with my cats.I have two and they are part of the family.I talk to them(dont worry, they arent talking back), and play with them daily. I could never neglect them. I never understood why people that mistreat their pets even have them to begin with.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
25 Aug 08
You are sooo right! People make me so mad when they get a kitten or puppy or whatever then as it grows up and the newness wears off, they dont do anything but feed it. I wish someone could do the same to them and then they'd see. I hope lol thanks dl
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• Philippines
25 Aug 08
NO. Your absolutely right, I am not a pet person not because I hated them, its because I know that when they are around it would give me an extra load of cleaning their mess and doing the routine of washing them, feeding and all that. I would like to congratulate you for bringing this up because I hate it too when people are not being responsible over the responsibilities they know they would do in the first place. Pets are good but too much might not be good at all, maybe later its not just the house that will smell like one, what about the owner eh? lol.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I respect your honesty. I also admire your decision not to own a pet. Your reasons are commendable. So may people dont realize the responsibility that comes with a pet. Its another living thing that you have to be responsible for. Its better now adays people have become more aware of the problems or responsibilities that come with owning pets. Its all about awareness. If people cant afford to take care of themselves properly or in a manner that they would like, they shouldnt own a pet until they have their own lives in tact. Thanks for sharing dl
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• Malaysia
26 Aug 08
Hey there, i'm not sure about your pets being unhealthy with all the urines and stuff because I think they are animals and animals are used to living in a not-so-clean environment. However, I definitely think that it will effect the owner. I imagine that your friend must have a dozen of cats in her house and I had problem maintaining my house when I had only ONE cat so I think it's understandable in your friend's case.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I am very sure its unhealthy for animals to live in a controlled environment and it isnt clean. If an animal is in the wild, they tend to clean their own areas. They dont live in unclean conditions. when a wild animal is ready to give birth, they even create a brand new den from all new items. In a domesticated animal it is the responsibility of the owner to maintain that area. All animals clean themselves to a point. People get their animals groomed by professionals everyday. Why would they want their animal to come home to a urine filled home. The point is that I have several pets and my landlord has complemented me several times. My neighbor has two cats and cant even change the litter box. She shouldnt have taken on the responsibility of having a pet if she wasnt going to give him/her the best home possible. Cleaning up after them doesnt cost alot of money. Dl
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@walijo2008 (4649)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I can't stand that either, I have a few friends that have animals and they keep them in the house and when you step into their house it smells, you can tell they have animals in the house. I think its fine if a person wants to keep animals in the house, its none of my business, but you do need to clean up after them. Its hard for me to eat in a house that smells like that too.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I tell my friends. I love my friends dearly. I would want them to tell me if my house stunk. I have told them in the past. Its unhealthy and plain nasty if you ask me. I dont blame you for not eating their. You should wait till after you visit you may toss your cookies if you eat before. You may lose your apetite if you wait. Its better you dont go over at all. lol dl
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@metalhalo (601)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I think you're absolutely right! I had a friend who was obsessed with rescuing animals from shelters. While her heart was in the right place her actions were a little overboard and not consistant. At one point she and her husband had 5 cats and 1 HUGE dog. When you'd walk into their house it's literally all you could smell. They would go to the bathroom where ever they chose. They'd let the cats lick their plates clean after they were done eating...this was a little disturbing. The cats and dog would get into the trash and it'd be strewn about in the kitchen. It was awful. I can't imagine people living like that. If you feel mature enough to take on a pet..you should be able to handle the responsibilites that come along with caring for one. Feeding, watering and cleaning up after them. Train them to not use your floor as a bathroom. Taking care of animals takes strong dedication and patience.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
26 Aug 08
Grant it if you have an indoor cat there's a chance that every once and a while you'll get a bad smell. Then you clean it and its gone. The people that dont clean will never be able to get the smell out all the way. It sinks in the rug and in your clothes. Its plain nasty! Thanks for sharing .Dont go over that friends house wearing anything special. It will be ruined. Urine is definitely not the scent of choice.lol dl
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@jillhill (37357)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I have a friend the same way. When I had my dog he didn't do things in the house unless he was sick.....and my house never smelled. Her's however did.....and when my kids would go over I would tell them that no matter how hungry they were they couldn't eat until we got home.....it was very unsanitary!
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I wouldnt let my children eat there either. Ammonia is a very powerful chemical. It can harm your lungs, bother your breathing as well as make you sick. Nothing is sacred if your house is overcome with cat urine. dl
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@allurejan (197)
• United States
25 Aug 08
A person who loves animals and pets are admirable. But they should also be responsible in cleanliness as well as they are responsible in taking care of their pets.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
26 Aug 08
Well said friend! That's all of it in a nutshell. If you want to have a pet you have to take care of it. If they dont care about others, then at least do it for themselves. It doesnt say anything positive if your living in stink. dl
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@3cardmonte (5099)
25 Aug 08
youre not wrong not at all.having unclean animals is dangerous for you and them,plus no one wants to stand next to someone who smells like tha back end of a dog! one of my sisters has a dog and whilst the dog is clean my sister constantly smells like a wet dog,i thought that was bad but not as bad as urine or feaces
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
26 Aug 08
So true! And well put. I would be so embarassed if that was me. People can be so cruel. Imagine If someone, not so nice, was standing next to someone and they smelled like urine or pet? That could be terrible. As I said some people will tell you "Hey you stink, like piss" That would be sooo embarassing. I wouldnt blame them either. I take public transportation sometimes. You dont know how many time I have sat next to someone who stinks for whatever reason. I feel like telling them. You know when you smell good and you know when you smell bad. I believe its laziness and being nasty. Some people just dont give a ****! dl
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• United States
25 Aug 08
No, you're not wrong. If its unsanitary its unhealthy for people to live there. You're right, animals are nasty and they don't clean up after themselves so somebody has to. I'm not an animal person so reading your discussion topic made me cringe. I would say something to her in a way that wouldn't hurt her feelings because she thinks she doing the feline population some good, but still she needs to consider others. Good luck.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
26 Aug 08
As I always say, Dont take something if you cant take care of it properly. Its not rocket science. Youre either clean or your not. we know what we are about. If I didnt like to clean, I wouldnt get animals.dl
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@cottonm (753)
• Malaysia
25 Aug 08
yes, i agree...sometimes i just so get used to my doggie smell and forget abt how 'smelly' it could b for others, especially for those non-dog lover ^_^ but ever since i hav this air purify machine (Atmosphere), it helps me a lot, and my room smell great now, and also good for me & my doggie's health ^_^ and, i'd like 2 hav this opportunity to thankz my indo's maid who help me a lots in cleaning, and she loves my doggie also ^_^ thankz for her ^_^
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@metschica25 (5409)
• United States
25 Aug 08
Hey hey !! I know what you are saying . My parents house smells like dog , but they dont care , and most times you get used to it . I have pets , cats and dogs , and do everything i can to have the best smelling house . I am always cleaning floors, the litter box , spraying febreeze on everything , and trust me it does help . Many people even love the way my house smells and are shocked to know that I have many pets . Their is a differnce between a hint of a smell , to some houses i have smelled that make me sick . I even have pet clean up mess that is like 20 a bottle just in case they have an accident . You know some animals are very clean like my jackie/ chi !! Anway, I am curious what others have to say . Peace
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@mentalward (14716)
• United States
26 Aug 08
The next time you visit your friend, why don't you take her some cat litter deodorizer? Just say, "I saw this and thought you might want to try it." It could maybe wake her up to the fact that, if you double your pet cat population, you're also doubling the cat odor problem. Maybe she just doesn't smell it, being in it all the time. Odors tend to fade the longer we are around them. If you bring her some deodorizer, she just may notice that she has a problem. I doubt she'd be offended by your gift; embarrassed maybe, but not offended. I agree, it is definitely unhealthy for you and your pet. If you smell it, the cause of the odor is in the air and you're breathing it in. Actually, I've seen animal rescue shows on TV where the pets were removed from the home because the owner refused to clean up after them, or didn't clean well enough. Good intentions don't always bring about good results. Your friend needs to know that she isn't doing those animals any favors by "rescuing" them if she's not providing a clean, healthy environment for them.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
26 Aug 08
You know what I did today? After I submitted this discussion, I received so much feed back. I decided to do something about my feelings on the subject. I went over and asked if I could speak to her about something I was concerned about. Mind you she's my neighbor I wouldnt call her a friend but she's not a stranger. Kind of in the middle. I told her that I was concerned for her health and the health of the cats. I used the fact that she has asthma as a way to glide into the reason I was there. I explained that I was wondering if she wasnt feeling well because Its not like her to have a smell of cat like that. (That's a total lie she's been this way since she moved in but I didnt want to hurt her feelings).. I said that the Ammonia smell is not good for her health and that she if she needed help I wouldnt mind helping her( Please say No thanks). lol Anyways I went on to say that she is not a dirty person so I know this smell is bothering her. I made it seem like she was usually very clean. Because of this I was concerned about why she was overlooking the smell and dirtiness. In the end she thanked me and said that she was sorry for the inconvenience. She ended up cleaning the catboxes. It didnt help too much because the smell has sunk into the material on her furniture, and mattress. Its a start. At least I made her aware without huting her.dl
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@mentalward (14716)
• United States
26 Aug 08
Wow! You handled that like a pro! You should be a diplomat or at least a mediator! You have a gift, for sure! If it's just the odor that has seeped into her furniture and not urine itself, maybe she should be made aware of Febreeze fabric deodorizer and odor eliminator, or one of the others that have recently come onto the market. I always have some here because I have two Maltese cuties who use 'training pads' (I call them pee pee pads), since they have no undercoat and are severely affected by cold, hot and wet weather. The last thing I want to see is someone entering my home and making that "face". You know the one... it's probably the same face you made when you went into your neighbor's home. If she really does clean up after these pets better because of what you've told her, I'm sure she's going to be and feel much healthier. Pet odors and asthma don't work well together, that's for sure! And the dander from the cats' skin is most likely worsening her asthma, even if she's not allergic to cats. (Febreeze makes an allergen eliminator as well.) I'm glad you didn't have to help her clean! LOL I've been in situations like that myself and always prayed that they didn't ask for my help because it would be quite involved. Actually, I have a friend whose home is filthy! I will not visit her because of that. I've offered to help her clean (using the guise of 'redecorating') when she's ready but, so far (and luckily!) she hasn't been ready. It's so filthy in her house that I don't want to spend even one minute in it! I can't understand anyone who can live in filth when they keep themselves so clean. Doesn't make sense to me. It makes my brain hurt.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
26 Aug 08
Thank you very much for your compliment. I was feeling so bad today. I really needed your kind words. dl
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@jdyrj777 (6559)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I have three cats. I have 2 little boxes and i keep mine clean. I figure if i can smell it so can everyone else. I dont want my house smelling like a litter box. I scoop poop out with a poop scooper and wet litter with a little sand shovel. I change the complete box if it gets stinky. Scrub it with floor cleaner and toilet brush. Then clean the tools as well as the toilet bowl. My mother always had little dogs. Can you believe she actually put down throw rugs for them to go potty on??? Gross! It smelled like what you say your friends house does.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I know people that have several cats and a dog. There house shows no signs of any pets. I cant believe how clean it is! I am glad you agree with me. I felt that I should offer to help clean the house. If I do that she'll never see how bad it is. She will think that help should always be given. dl
@jdyrj777 (6559)
• United States
27 Aug 08
You would probably just be wasting your time to help her clean her house. She doesnt see the need to do it. I wasnt rasied my mother so on the outside looking in you can see it very well. I was rasied by my grandparents. We always had pets growing up and no smell. These people that their houses smell would probably have smelly houses even if they didnt have pets.
@applefreak (3133)
• Singapore
26 Aug 08
it's really interesting that your friend's home smells like a cat box. i have several cats at home but there is no smell. i only make sure their litter pans are cleaned regularly and that's good enough. i used to think that i don't smell anything because i am so used to it. thankfully this thinking was negated by many visitors who didn't know i have cats until they sighted my furry babies. it's important to provide a clean environment for our pets. they fall sick just like we do if exposed to a dirty environment. they get it worse because veterinary medical science is way behind human medical science. cheers ;p
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I had a talk with her today. I broke it all down to her. I also told her I wasnt attacking the way she chooses to live. I am worried about the animals only. dl
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• Singapore
27 Aug 08
great to hear that you've spoken to her. Read about how you actually broached the topic. It's some pretty amazing manoeuvring. I wouldn't have known how to bring this up. So happy that the animals are living in a clean environment finally. Great job, way to go. :)
• India
26 Aug 08
No you are very correct. We have this dog and though we all care for it by turns, its really a nuisance at times specially when it starts loosing its hair. Its such a big health hazard specially with my son around and you cant really keep track of every fine strand flying around. I don’t hate it actually, but I feel there are certain additional responsibilities of having a pet and I am not ready to shoulder it. And then it gets up on the bed and sofa and everywhere…I mean that dog is a part of our family and we don’t keep it chained but with a child around, its not easy to maintain hygiene either.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
26 Aug 08
Boy can I relate to that one! My dog is a pomeranian. He is ALL hair. lol. I think that half of his weight is due to his hair. Its everywhere! I am constantly vacuuming or sweeping. My mother did my laundry for me the other day. She called an said she couldnt believe the amount of hair that was in the lint catch. I felt so dirty.... Its not my fault. I have tried everything. Brushing, Combing, Special Pet Hair Products etc. and there is still hair on everything. I wish I could shave him bald. But I also realize that Pomeranians are known for their thick shiny coats. Its my responsibility. No matter how aggrivated I get its up to me to make sure the hair is picked up and the dog is brushed daily. dl
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• India
27 Aug 08
Pomeranians look soooooooooooooo cute with their shaggy coat…I would love to cuddle them but till that only
@ashar123 (2360)
• India
26 Aug 08
Its just a matter of fact that if you are keeping a pet, then you also must know how to keep it and what conditions are the best for you and your pet all together. You are not wrong at all. Your friend must be knowing that it is not hygenically and scientifically good to keep pets like she is. She must keep her home clean and tidy as germs are both harmful for her, the pet and anyone who visits her. I used to have a male siamese cat and I all the time took care of his and home's cleanliness. Was very much curious what to feed him.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
26 Aug 08
You are correct my friend! If you take on a pet, you take on the good and the bad. I find it awful when I hear that a pet was punished for something it has no control over. For example, you cant become angry because your house is dirty, smelly, or hairy. A pet isnt able to pick up or sweep. Pets are domesticated. Meaning that they're intended to be kept around people. Its up to us as pet lovers to know when we have enough pets or to be able to make healthy choices for our animals. Thanks for sharing dl
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