Friend Requests on MyLot
By WebMann
@WebMann (4731)
Canada
August 25, 2008 8:04am CST
I have often wondered why people bother asking to be a friend here on Mylot. It would be one thing if I made the request but when anyone makes a request to be a friend and then they never respond to any discussion I've started, well it just makes me wonder how stupid people tend to think other people are.
If I make a request to be a friend I usually take the time to look at their posts, that's the reason I am interested in having them as a friend.
I still accept them as a friend because I am curious to see just how many useless friends I can gain without ever asking for a friend myself.
See for me it's like this. If you ask me to be your friend I expect you to comment on at least one of my discussions. Otherwise I am assuming you have been drinking and clicked by accident or perhaps you're just a spammer seeing how many members you can spam before getting kicked off Mylot.
What are your experiences with friend requests?
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17 responses
@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
25 Aug 08
Hi WebMann!
I understand where you're coming from.
I've made many friend request, and accepted many.
My reason for this is; i dont post many discussions, but i love to answer my friends discussions they have so many interesting things to discuss.
But i do find it strange when people request friends, but dont participate in any of their friends post, i can understand how that can lead one to be a little skeptical as to their motive.
Your rquirements of your friends are very reasonable in my opinion, it's a win, win situation for all those involved.
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@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
26 Aug 08
Hi DragonFly, long time no see.
I have so many things on the go now I don't post discussion often either these days.
I just find it strange that people will request to become a friend and then that's the last you ever hear from them.
I could see if they spammed me with messages but when they become a friend and then do absolutely nothing then I figure they were hoping I would start leaving comments for them and they would earn more. I really can't see any other reason.
It should be more of a you scratch my back and I will likely scratch your back.
@SydneyHazelton (4586)
• Singapore
26 Aug 08
I believe we all have different motives when it comes to adding someone as a friend. For me, if I come across an interesting topic started by a mylotter, I may be interested to be their friend, with the hope that he/she would start interesting discussion I can answer to. I don't expect my friends to comment on my discussions. If they find my topic interesting, I think they would do so without being asked or forced. So I leave it entirely up to them. I have no heartaches that way. For me, not all my friends answer to all my discussions, it's just not possible. But I do get good responses for some of discussions I started, thanks to my friends. They have helped me a lot and I do appreciate their honest advice. That's all I need at the moment.
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@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
26 Aug 08
Hi there SydneyHazelton
You may be right about many motives but for me it comes down to just a couple. I either want to be your friend so I will request and then start to send messages and learn more about you. Or I make a friend request because we have similar ways of thinking and I like your discussions and will respond to them in the future. Other than that I don't see why I would make a friend request on Mylot.
I would not however make a request to be your friend and then never respond to a discussion or send you a message. At least from some they spam me and I can take them out of my friend area.
It's just those that become a friend and then never do anything. It just makes me scratch my head. :)
@p3halliwel2005 (3156)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
I rarely ask for someone to be my friend in here because I can't actually commit to be there for them always since I am a very busy person... I only ask someone to be my friend if I need to send them something they are requesting from me. I try my best though to answer some of my friends discussions. I can't go through all of them though because there's loads of friends out there but I do try my best to do so. I'm sorry to the friends who asked to be my friend but don't worry I am still here and I will try my best to answer some of your discussions you just need to be patient with me at times.. Thanks though to everyone! Love you all...from the bottom of my heart.
@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
26 Aug 08
I do the same thing. I am pretty busy so I don't make friend requests because I don't have the time to commit to them. I would not ask for a friend and then ignore them hoping they would respond to my discussions. Just seems very selfish to me.
I do enjoy Mylot, when I can get here.
@maclanis (2357)
• Belgium
25 Aug 08
I guess sometimes certain people are just selfish. They think if they add someone as a friend that that person will come to all of their discussions and respond while they don't even look at their new friend's discussions. Most people however won't respond to their friend's discussions if they don't respond back!
I've had friends that don't reply to my discussions, but I think maybe that's because I haven't started that many and because some people aren't that interested in the discussions I start. :)
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@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
26 Aug 08
You hit it right on Maclanis. They go through Mylot and ask everyone to be a friend in hopes they can sit back and earn money but if anyone requests a friendship with me and then there is no hearing back from them, well they aren't going to get any responses from me that way. :)
@MementoMori (237)
• Canada
25 Aug 08
Hey...I'm still yet to recieve any friend requests here on mylot, but I've also only been a member for a few days now...Maybe earnings go up with the amount of friends on your list??? I really don't know, but that would be my guess anyway...
-Mike
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@sreekumarn86 (777)
• India
25 Aug 08
Hey there, i don't think you can generalize it that way. The point is, once you add as a friend, you get more of a chance to get a reply. That's it. Its not an obligation that he will reply to all the posts you do or something like that.
Say you have 400 friends, and only 30 might be interested in the particular post you do. 30 others might respond to some other discussion you started. Also, you cant expect everyone to be really very active here. So whenever some of them log in, you might not make a post. So there are many reasons right?
I don't see a point in blaming them.
This is not intended to offend you.
My experience with friend requests is that the number of responses have definitely gone up, though not proportional to the number of friends i have. But I am happy.
happy mylotting friend..
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Well from my experience in here is that the more you have friends in here the more exposure of your post and the more information you can get from in here. If you would look into your home tab. If you have lots of friends the more discussion you see in your home website. Same if you post then you are exposed to your friends as well.
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@jaded22 (828)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
With friend requests here on mylot, I approve each one of them. Lol. Regardless of their activity on this site. 
But I have been contemplating lately, that I should have at least screened each user's accounts. xD Lmao.
*Will find a way to do that.*
But I have been contemplating lately, that I should have at least screened each user's accounts. xD Lmao.
*Will find a way to do that.*
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@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
25 Aug 08
I have to plead guilty on this one.
I respond favourably to these requests and like to have friends but basically, and because I don't have my own PC, just respond to the discussions I see on the site.
I know how you feel and so I plead guilty.
If I had more time I'd do better.
@MZKUMA (705)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I have to agree that I have had a few request, which I honored. The few I asked were of a comment or post I read. I'm not on mylot daily, and sometimes when I'm on my time is short. I would not consider either useless, as they may very well contribute the best remark to a post that might be considered very important to me. (I have yet posted a topic of that magnitude). My computer was out a couple of days and, today after getting it fixed, I was checking my email and was replying to my responses. One in particular wasn't on my post,even though I received a notification they responded. In any event, I'm not bothered by the request. And if by chance I make a request to anyone who doesn't want to accept. I won't feel bad about it. Just decline me.
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I think because I have some physical ailments that keep me from doing what I want or being where I want sometimes, I have learned not to judge others for their absenses. I've also learned that everyone is different. They're here for different reasons and they "socialize" here in different ways. That's what makes this place - and the real world - so awesome. Understanding that we're different helps us understand that not everyone does things the way we do. I also know that somr of my friends are like me - they don't have notifications sent to their email inboxes. And while you look for discussions your friends started once you log on here, you don't always find the newest ones, but the ones that someone commented on last.
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
26 Aug 08
For me, it's ok if they're not give their comments on my post thread, friend is just be friend, i don't think they must response any of my post, if my thread post tickling them, i believe they will response my post ^_^
So i will accept them but with my selection of course, making so much of friends will give you positive mind and strong personality
@iakulchen (615)
• Singapore
25 Aug 08
The only friend on my friends list that I have doubts about is kalex28, but then I only have 10 friends on my list :P
With the rest, I have either talked to them in a discussion before or they happen to be from the same country as me, so I assume they looked at my profile and went "Ooh, fellow countryman" and added me.
No interaction of whatever sort with kalex28 so far. He also happens to be the one with the most "kalex28 and (name of friend) are now friends popping up" when I visit MyLot, so i think he's just collecting friends.
I'll wait and see if my comment here can prompt a a reply from him :P
@Anchopy (1453)
• Paraguay
25 Aug 08
I really haven't receive any friends request that were make by any members that I haven't reply to 1 or more discussions from they. but, until now all the friends that i have in mylot are just people in my list of friends..
@falassion (419)
• Brazil
25 Aug 08
Well, I have been accepting each and every friend request that people do to me, but I've been a little disapointed about some of them, 'cause they don't comment in my topics and so.
If you take a watch at mine topics, you'll see that they are not "the famous and full of reply" ones, which kind of makes me feel a little.. hmm.. how can I say.. i feel like asking myself "Ok, in which meaning of the word "friend" this people meant to be?".
Anyway, I still got very good friends (I'll quote here cottonm, Munckin547 and hellcowboy, 'cause they really deserve it), and it's with hope that the other people one day turn into something like these good friends o' mine that I keep on adding everybody. =)
