Miscarried this past Tuesday: blighted ovum

@guss2000 (2234)
United States
August 26, 2008 3:31am CST
I've been MIA for a while, just taking some time out to heal and cope with life. I started bleeding on Thursday the 14th, and miscarried on the 19th. I'm pretty much at the end of it now, but it has taken a toll on my body and taking longer to recover than I thought it would. I had a blighted ovum, which means a sac formed, but nothing grew in the sac. I thought that it would make it easier for me to pass it all, but it has not been. Emotionally, it's obviously hard, but physically even harder. I've been in quite a bit of pain, moreso on Tuesday but off and on since then. I had gone to the ER on Tuesday night because I honestly thought I was bleeding to death during it all. On this past Sunday, I went back to the ER because I thought by then things should have been more complete, and to me it wasn't. So I went to get checked out. They said that I was okay, but unfortunately it was going to take longer for me to pass everything. It's exhausting to go through all of this, especially with having to deal with everyday life, and take care of my toddler. I've not been sleeping that well either. I've been waking up with cramps, or bad headaches, and recently now having night mares. Sunday at the hospital they did give me a lose prescription for xanax which is supposed to help with my nerves. I've take it since then, and I am starting to feel better, but I know it's only because of the medicines. Another thing that came up at the ER on Sunday was my blood pressure. It was 201/80 which is pretty high. THey said it was probably becuse I was upset and in pain. However, yesterday I took my blood pressure at one of the stands at the store and it was 137/81, which I think is not normal either. I'm hoping that I'm now not going to start having blood pressure issues, I think I'm going through enough already. Hoping that since I've been away for a bit that all of my Mylot friends are doing well.
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@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I am so sorry to hear that. I am glad to see that you are back with us now though. I hope you get to feeling better. I just had to take my 16 year old daughter to the emergency room also and they did surgery on her because she had a huge cyst one one of her ovaried and removed one ovary also due to the cyst on both of them. she has almost fully recovered now and I hope you do to. I sure hope they get you regulated and you get back to normal soon. I sure feel sorry for you.
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@guss2000 (2234)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Thank you. After a month of emotions, I'm starting to feel better. I'm actually on my first cycle after the miscarriage right now, and let me tell you this is awful! They said it would be different, but I didn't know how different. UGH! Oh well, atleast my body is trying to regulate. Thanks for your post and for thinking about me.
• United States
26 Aug 08
I'm sorry for your loss. I have never gone thru such a thing, but it breaks my heart to hear of such losses. It'll take time to heal physically and emotionally.
@guss2000 (2234)
• United States
24 Sep 08
You sure are right. It really did take me a while to heal both physically and emotionally. Physically was really hard and emotionally I thought I would be okay, but that took a while too. I guess I didn't know how bad I wanted this baby until after I was pregnant. A baby was no where in my present future--- we hadn't planned for one, but then again we weren't really taking the precautions to NOT have one. When I found out I was pregnant... it was like a whole new world, new hopes, new dreams... it felt right.. it felt good. Then shortly after...it all went down the drain. i felt so crushed. Like I said, I didn't think it would crush me so hard since we weren't "trying' to have one, but boy was I wrong. That was a life, and it hurt not only physcially but emotionally and it was very sad. I'm hoping we can try again soon, and I hope it works out for us next time. I don't think I can take another loss like that, it was just too sad.
• United States
1 Oct 08
The loss of a child planned or unplanned can be difficult to cope. I"m glad you are healing. Though sometimes people can appear to be healed on the outside and still hurt on the inside yrs later. Takes time & someone to confide your feelings about it to help you get thru it.
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
Get well soon! but i know that would be difficult, I also have toddlers and when I am in pain it is hard to get well when you are tending on the kids. but go indulge your self with medicines, it's the most help that you can count on.
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@guss2000 (2234)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Thank you! It was so hard to take care of a running around toddler and go thru that mess. Thank goodness my boyfriend was able to be with me and take care of my son as well. It surely took alot out of me and I felt emotionally and physically drained. I'm glad i'm starting to feel better now. I didn't think it would take that long to recover, but it really did.
• United States
26 Aug 08
oh im sorry to hear that you miscarried! i hope you are back on your feet and thru it all very soon! ive looked up what a "normal" blood pressure range should be...and according to what i found. Normal readings should be around 120/80..though from site to site this varies slightly. PreHypertension is listed as around 130 to 140/80-89 so according to that site..you dont have high blood pressure but your pretty stressed out, which is certainly understandable. not even taking into account the physical duress your body has been under (which will elevate your blood pressure) but just having a discussion that gets you a bit riled can raise your blood pressure too. from what it sounds like, your blood pressure is perfectly reasonable for how things have been going for you. just check it once in a while when you go shopping and they have that machine there..if you notice it starting to steadily creep up, give your doctor a visit.
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@guss2000 (2234)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Thank you for your help. My BP has been up and down so I think it's up when I'm stressed or in pain, but maybe more on the normal end when everything is going okay. It's been a month now and I'm still sad at times, but I'm getting over it. For a while I couldn't come into this thread because it kept making me want to cry, but today I'm here and although it's sad to post about it, I'm not crying and I feel okay to talk.