Cheating

Philippines
August 26, 2008 8:14am CST
i am really annoyed with someone i know... i think she is having an extra marital affair.... should i confront her or let her family figure it out....which is best...
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@SangsTurks (1447)
• India
26 Aug 08
You think your friend is having an extra marital affair you are not sure,then why do you want to interfere. one should neve give advise unless asked to. And perhaps that is her life, you dont know what kind of relation she has with her husband the why do want to poke your nose in others matter. let her do what she wants to and you do what you want to.
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
i understand your point. but i know one thing... her husband went to work abroad to give her and their children a better life. i have known them for 7 years now. Her husband tolerates her moods and laziness. She is working too... and her mother who is almost 50 now, (has a heart problem and diabetic) is the one taking care of her two children (age: 3 and 2). her family don't deserve this......her parents ....
• United States
26 Aug 08
I would not get involved either. I hate cheaters, but what if you're wrong? What if it's something completely different? I wouldn't want to get involved with any of it. I have a neighbor that her husband works offshore and she has another man spending the night with her. I personally saw her kiss this other man like they were loves and even with me strongly believing it's wrong and I hate to be her husband I would never get involved with something like that.
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
this is just so irresponsible of them.... having to compromise their own family and and their parents.....i don't think that any sane man will take a married woman seriously or really love her.... it is wrong whichever way you look at it..... i am trying hard not to meddle.... but it is getting difficult because she is neglecting her children too...
• United States
27 Aug 08
I would probably suggest distancing yourself from this person. Maybe tell her that if she continues tearing up her family this way you don't want any part of her or her actions and stick by that too. Maybe that will open her eyes and she can realize what exactly she's doing. Good luck on whatever you decide to do.
• United States
26 Aug 08
I would say that unless it directly affects you, then do not get involved. Affairs effect a marriage and children, but anyoone outside of that need to keep quiet. They will figure it out and deal with it in due time, and an outsider getting involved isnt going to fix teh situation or make it easier to handle.
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
thanks... i hope she realize its wrong ....soon.... and i hope i am wrong too
@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
26 Aug 08
Depends. If this is someone you are acquainted with but don't know well, I'd just stay out of it and let her deal with her own life. And you say you only think she's having an affair, if you don't know for sure then you should definitely stay out of it. On the other hand, if this is someone you are quite close to, I think it would be good to confront her with your suspicions; if she admits it is true then you can tell her you disapprove of her behavior. Refuse if she wants you to "cover" for her. But don't be the one to tell her family.
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
i am keeping quiet about this.... because i am not yet legally part of the family yet. i don't want to her my fiance and mother.... but if it's true .... they will get hurt.... i don't think they deserve the hurt and shame....