Do you think expressing what you feel inside your heart and mind is important?

@brisk123 (2826)
India
August 26, 2008 9:12am CST
I am more talkative and I often express myself about what I feel and want from my partner.Whereas he is not so talkative kind of fellow.It is sometimes difficult for me to understand him.I know,I know men talk less and we women,I mean most of us talk more.Comment.
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4 responses
• United States
26 Aug 08
everyone expresses thereself and thoughts in different ways. like my husband tells me he loves me all the time. when things are bothering him he doesnt just come out and say it. he doesnt get all gushy etc either. when he wants to do something nice to show he loves me he will take the kids somewhere so i can have alone time. he will pick me up a candy bar at the store, etc. that is his way. some poeple can go right to it and say things while others just cant. actions speak louder then words anytime. he cant look at me and tell me how he feels i guess cause of the way he was raised but he will write me a letter sometimes and leave it for me in the mornings. i love getting those. you just have to find the way that is comfartable for you both. it use to drive me nuts that he didnt say nice things like you look good or house looks nice etc. after time though i relized he does say it just not with words.
@brisk123 (2826)
• India
26 Aug 08
I guess, I have to agree with you.I mean, you are right some people don't say things often."Action speaks louder than words" is so true.I know he loves me lot and does everything to keep me happy.The only problem is he speaks less and doesn't express.I love him and I am happy to be with him.Thank you my friend for sharing me your experience to get me to the point and make me understand more of relationship.God bless!
• United States
26 Aug 08
if he isnt comfartable in saying it and has a hard time showing sit him down and tell him how much you love him and that you want to be more expressive and you understand that he is not like that. let him know though that it is something you want him to work on and that doesnt mean that he has to walk around saying you are everything and praise you but once in awhile it is noce to hear how he feels even if he shows it or writes it. i have been married almost 13 years and well we had that talk amny years ago and it helped alot. he doesnt do it all the time but when he does it makes it specail.
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
Indeed men talk lesser than women, but I find it that I'm more talkative than the majority of my gender. I agree that relationships are hard because majority of the time men and women don't understand what the other is saying. Well that good thing about relationships is that there are many moments that nothing needs to be said and yet you'll understand each other. In response to the discussion you started, I think expressing what is inside your heart and mind is important, but its not always necessary.
@sweetie1026 (1723)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
Yes, we must let our partner know what goes on in our mind. Whether it is what we want from our partner or what we feel about him. Mine is not that silent but when he doesn't like the discussion he keeps his responses short . Sometimes I wish that he tells me what he feels and want than me asking him. An open communication is important in a relationship.I wish that they be a little more talkative.
@iyah10 (4116)
• Kuwait
26 Aug 08
I absolutely agree with you we as a women talk and often more than our behalf but there will be a lot of possibilities to talk and open with your partner in anyway but not in direct manner. Anyway, Men would open what they have when they would like to talked too......