putting a pet to sleep

@dawnald (84124)
Shingle Springs, California
August 26, 2008 12:35pm CST
We've had to put several pets to sleep over the years. My husband has always discouraged me from being there. I think he thought he was protecting me. The last time, when our cat, Tiger, had kidney failure, I insisted. I felt so much better for being there. Maybe it brought the cat some small comfort too to be with somebody he was comfortable with. Would you want to be there? Or would that bother you?
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• Pakistan
27 Aug 08
hmmm... i cannot se my pet die... so wont go there
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Aug 08
I can understand that too!
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• Pakistan
28 Aug 08
well i saw my cat when it was her last day, she was really sick, and she was sensable enough. i tryed to come close to her, but she hid her self from me..she knew that she will die... and she knew i can not bear her dying infront of me. she just wont some to me... it was the most difficult time of my life :(
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Aug 08
sure it was, we love our pets...
@caussara (53)
• United States
29 Aug 08
It is so sad when we have to put down a beloved pet. I have had to do it a couple times and could not stay either time. Ya just have to remember that it is better than making them suffer and be in pain when that time comes. I am one of those criers and I knew that I would ball my eyes out if I had to be there. I still cried but I think it would have been just more stressful for the pet and myself.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Aug 08
I understand that side of it too...
• United States
29 Aug 08
I feel it is definitely important to be there. Hold your pet in your arms so her passing will be peaceful and happy. Of course you are going to cry and be sad but it is all part of the grieving process. I then have my pet cremated and keep her ashes in a memorial urn....I have 3 urns now.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Aug 08
absolutely...
@kellyjeanne (1578)
• United States
28 Aug 08
If a pet (a dear friend) of mine is to be put to sleep I would definitely want to be there for her/him. If I wasn't there when it happeed I would feel: 1). Like I was being very cruel to my sweet angel who has been with me and loved me unconditionally all these years. (Mind you, I'm not judging others who choose to do differently) 2). Being with my furangel when the time came would give me a great sense of closure and allow me to give that final goodbye and kiss. I've had furangels in the past and I have a furangel now, but, I've never had to put one to sleep because, for one reason or another, I've always had to give my babies away. I feel badly for you that your husband discouraged you from saying goodbye to your furangels and am very happy to know that you were able to say goodbye to Tiger before he went to sleep! Personally, I do feel that animals know when it's their time to die and when they are being put to sleep, therefore, to have a loved one there while they are going through the procedure would ease their little hearts. I give all animals much more credit than the average person does. To me animals are not dumb. A much better word would be 'innocent'.........never dumb. God Bless You! Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija (my furangel)
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Aug 08
I think they know too...
@eztuner (451)
• United States
27 Aug 08
Hi dawnald, My avatar, is my baby cat 'Gipsy', I say my baby cat because we have a Human daughter she is 24, and Gipsy was 21, both are our daughters. When we had to let Gipsy go, Thanks God we were in Dominican Republic, things here work a bit different, her doctor came home and every thing was done at her bed, with her in my arms, The hardest thing! Now she is resting in her yard. I know in the US things are different from State to State, we also live in Miami Florida and I believe her doctor will have tried to help us in every aspect, but the State has its regulations, and I know not every thing would have been my way. The pain is the same, but over time the circumstances of the moment make things feel different, when you have been there for them, there is no room for, What if? We have another cat she is my daughter's, of course we love her very dear, she is 15, so I know in a not so distant future, we will have to go thru the process again. I can only ask for the possibility of re-doing things exactly the same!
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Aug 08
I am glad you were able to handle it in a way that you're comfortable with. You are right, the laws here are different.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
27 Aug 08
I have been with every Pet of mine that had to be put to sleep, the way I see it they have spent most of their Life's with me and they will leave the World with me being there to hold them, yes it is hard, yes it breaks your Heart but they where not alone, my last one was our Labrador Max, as much as it tore me apart I will always do it again Even our Chinchilla that we had to have put down 6 years ago, because she had Cancer, I held her to
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Aug 08
I'm going to do that from now on too.
@bunzor (303)
26 Aug 08
I honestly don't think I could be there. I remember when my dog was put to sleep a few years ago and I was devestated by it, I think I'd have felt a lot worse if I'd actually been there when it happened. I do feel guilty that I didn't go with him though :(
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Aug 08
I completely understand.
@ljean791 (66)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I've had to put a few of my pets to sleep over the years also. I always wanted to be there with them but when it came time to do it, I just couldn't do it in the end. My husband always stays with them, It's too hard on me.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Aug 08
If you're uncomfortable with it, you shouldn't do it. But decide for yourself. Don't let anybody talk you in or out of what you want to do!
• United States
26 Aug 08
I was there when my cat had to be put to sleep. He had been suffering. It was good to see the calm that came over him when he past. I am glad that I was there even though it hard for for me.. So I did not have the last memory of him, was him suffering. Yes, it bothered me. But I would do it again!
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Aug 08
me too!