Don't Ask For Permission. Ask For Forgiveness.

United States
August 26, 2008 5:57pm CST
My teacher told me that you never ask a person for permission to do something, but you always ask for forgiveness. For example dont ask to use someones phone but ask for forgiveness afterwards. My teacher always does this because she "steals" other teachers supplies and return it to them and say sorry. Do you believe this is true?
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@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
26 Aug 08
Some people might not be very pleased about this. I do not see why the teacher would have to go and say sorry for something she does not regret or regard as a mistake, when she is going to do it again anyway. For example, if there was a slice of cake in the refrigerator that was clearly mine and you ate it and then said you were sorry, only to do it again, I would not be able to trust you. If you just asked, maybe I would have let you have it, and if I said no, you would have to cope with your lack of cake. Her technique is a good way to get what you want, but it disregards the other person.
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• United States
26 Aug 08
I understand where you are coming from. I do consider it disrespectful and rude. Thats just how she feels.
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• United States
26 Aug 08
But she always return the stuff. Its not like she takes perishable items like food.
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• United States
26 Aug 08
This is not right. It is common manners to ask permission before using anything that doesn't belong to you. That is called respect. Using anything not yours without asking is akin to stealing at worst, and rude at its best.
• United States
26 Aug 08
I believe stealing is taking anything that is not yours but she uses it and returns it. I still see what you mean and it is disrespect. It doesnt just mean taking things it also goes under doing things. Like in school not asking to go to the restroom but asking the teacher to forgive you for leaving the classroom.
@bubblyapple (2655)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
There are certain things that you have to ask permission for. I believe that if it is a person's personal property, such as phones, to be able to use it, you have to ask for permission. Remember that it is a personal thing and not asking permission to use it is just like your taking the person for granted. Even if you ask for forgiveness afterwards, it doesn't matter coz you are done using their things and therefore had taken advantage of them already. What's the use of your "sorry". I still believe in respecting people and everything about them.
@Shavkat (62792)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
Some young generations don't ask permission to their parents or teachers. It is a brat-like attitude, as if they don't respect the elders. When I was at their age, mys siblings and I need to ask permission before doing something.
• United States
12 Dec 12
Yes. I agree. I always ask permission when it is a higher authority or someone I don't know. But if it is VERY close friend or my roommate I hardly ever ask for anything unless it is something personal. But if they do have a problem then I apologize and I know my boundaries. But I only do that with really close friends or my roommate because we have that type of relationship. They're the same way. (Sorry for the late response I've hardly been on here in a while.)
• India
29 Aug 08
A lot of people must be considering her to be an nuisance, and she must have earned a really bad reputation for herself. I wouldn't be surprised of people hide their things from her so that she doesn't get to use them and then ask for forgiveness later. I do not understand the logic of this. I don't think people will be in forgiving mood when they realize that somebody has taken what belongs to them without their permission. When I want to use something that belongs to another, I prefer to ask that person. Cheers and happy mylotting
• United States
29 Aug 08
Well its the total opposite, she doesnt do it like all the time to the same people. She's very nice and a great teacher. I dont think anyone wouldnt like her. She has a great personality. She told us not to listen to her philosophy of not asking for permission but forgiveness.