What Is Your Stand on Public Display of Affection?

United States
August 26, 2008 11:27pm CST
i once rode a public transport bus in the city. i was enjoying looking around at places were passing by when all of a sudden a group of youngsters who was seated in front of me were giggling so loud. with their behavior, i was quite intrigued to find out what kept them noisy. as i looked at the back seat, i saw a couple who was kissing torridly and such gesture was done with so much pride. and this happened to be the reason why these young people were so bothered and laughing unstoppable. well, personally, i don't mind seeing people doing such gestures in public. it is their life and i am not bothered in any way. but, i do not have the guts doing similar stuff. hehehe. how about you?
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28 responses
@angelia286 (2029)
• Singapore
27 Aug 08
Hmm, I don't really care if others are doing Public Display of Affections. Lol, to me usually when I see this sort of things happening around me, I will smile at the thought that this is a young couple who is so in love with each other that they don't care for the looks and stares around them. This is what I find so amazing about those who do this. I have a friend who is not comfortable with physical touch at all. But when she really fell in love with her current fiance, what happens is that she is so happy and so on the top of the world that she craves for physical touch. So, that is what leads to the physical touch aspect. And the super shy girl was suddenly transformed into someone who don't care what people think when she is french kissing her boyfriend out in the public. This is usually what happens when one is really madly in love with their partner. As for me, I had never had that sort of urge to do any forms of public affections before. Could it be that I am not madly in love with my boyfriend? Who knows? Only time can tell. But, I would sure love to have that sort of feeling at least once before I get married
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
27 Aug 08
So long as they do not get too carried away with themselves, I see nothing wrong with what they were doing. I have, in the past, done such things myself
• United States
27 Aug 08
I dont feel comfortable enough to just suck a whole lot of face out in public like that. I think holding hands and small pecks are ok, but I hate when people stare at me.
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• New Zealand
27 Aug 08
Well here little does the trick.A little show of love spices and excites our life.In public there is alweays a decency code to be followed.No need to flout it because we live in a society as humans.We arent animals living in our own habitat. We as mature people can handle it and if i was in the bus i could have just given them one glance.But ypung people are immature often not guided well.A peck on the cheek or the lips is line.There is just no need to kiss torridly or grope your love inappropriately in public.But love is blind and when ones in love one becomes completely oblivious to people around.
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@chaime (1153)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
I agree with you, it's their life to live. And I too dont' mind seeing people who show affection by kissing or hugging and holding hands the same as you. What does bother me is when people stare and as if it's the worst thing they can see in public. I mean it's a show of affection, a way of showing their love (or maybe lust) for each other, it's a positive feeling. Although there are other stuff that are much more ideal to be done in private I don't see why seeing and showing affection in public should be fussed about by the people who see them ^_^
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• United States
27 Aug 08
Would it still be ok say if you had a daughter that was molested and when she seen that just made her so upset that she couldn't stop crying or someone else just broke up or divorced and they are still trying to deal with it. I think there is a line between public affection and being too touchy. I have 3 kids and I would be very upset if they seen someone making out. Yes it is a sign of affection and love but I think too many people take it too far and if I think it is too far in front of my children I will say something.
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@mikinikih (201)
• United States
27 Aug 08
Small pecks are fine for public, but anything beyond that (groping, french kissing, etc) should be kept in private. I wouldn't let my kids watch an r-rated movie, or even pg-13 (the oldest is 6), so I don't need them getting exposure to that sort of stuff just by being out in public. It doesn't bother me, but it's completely inappropriate for my children.
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
For me it is ok as long as they don't hurt or disturb people. It's a matter of how accepting them. I admit I usually do the holding of hands in public but for me it was ok as long that we dont kiss each other in public.
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
27 Aug 08
Actually it depends on many things. the type of society, culture etc. in our culture, it is not very common. so may be if we see something like that, w ewill be surprised no way. i have no objection till i am not involved
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@Tianna2 (1274)
• United States
27 Aug 08
Well personally, I think there is a limit to how far a couple should go in public. I don't have any problem with two people holding hands or if they give each other a kiss or a hug, but if they are sitting on the bus making out for everyone to see then it gets embarrassing. That is the kind of thing that should be done in private. I might of told them to get a room or something had I seen it. Anyway, that's just my opinion! Hugs, Tianna
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@bindishah (2062)
• India
27 Aug 08
I personally dont have a problem with public display of affection-but I guess it depend son the extent of affection people are showing. Like if its a hug or a small peck or kiss I think I would be ok with it. Coz i dont see a reason to give other people reason to laugh or feel uncomfortable which some would invariably feel.
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@rbailey83 (1400)
• Canada
27 Aug 08
i have no problems with public displays of affection, i don't care what others think about it, if i love the person i am with why should it bother me to show it while in public, granted i wouldn't take it to extremes, but kissing, whether a quick kiss on the lips or a good french kiss, i see nothing wrong with it, hold hands, hugging, snuggling while your sitting next to eachother, lol like i said, i don't care what others think about it or me, frig there have been times i have gone grocery shopping in my pj's, i was comfortable, had to get a few things, and then was coming back home, im dressed, what does it matter what im wearing
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@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
27 Aug 08
i don't like people who displayed too much affections in public places... a little bit is alright as long as it is still within the limit... it is just not the proper place to do that... if they want to show their affections, they have to do it in private rather than in public places... take care and have a nice day...
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@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
It's ok with me as long as they keep it in an acceptable way. A smack is okay but kissing torridly in full view of everyone could be disturbing. I am bothered if children will see it and of course they would keep asking questions why. For me they could do it as long as they don't let everyone see it. Also maybe they should tone it down a little because society here is really not that open to such things.
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@nizhama2 (295)
• Malaysia
27 Aug 08
I'm from the country that will send that couple to the jail, I'm serious. About two years ago there was an accident like that happen at my country. The couple had been sued by the government and there was a long trial in this case and became very popular. I agree with my government. If we let this happen, it would be worse day after day. ( I write from my thought base of our country. I know we have a different view of this )
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@rsa101 (16718)
• Quezon City, Philippines
27 Aug 08
Yeah same as you I really don't mind seeing them but I am bothered when youngsters like the one who witnessed the kissing. I think that would influenced those teenager from doing it so. I too would not do same thing PDA is a no no for me but if others likes them then fine do as they wish.
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@tatiana07 (498)
• Philippines
31 Aug 08
im not comfortable with pda before but my husband loves doing it and now i don't care anymore..harr harr
• Philippines
28 Aug 08
It doesn't bother me at all seeing couples displaying affection with each other in public. As long as they won't get carried away. I can see couples kissing on subways, buses, bars, on the side walk and it doesn't bother me at all. It's a usual thing now a days. Some people feel that their partner is proud him/her as his/her boy/girlfriend by doing public display of affections. Kissing, holding hands, big hugs, etc.. Again as long as they won't get carried away.. And if they do, better take it somewhere else..
• United States
27 Aug 08
I think a hug and a sweet quick kiss is wonderful. You should be able to show the person you love that you love in front of anyone you want. On the other hand, when it comes to making out or any other gesture of affection that is beyond what should be public. To me.... is disgusting. Just my opinion :)
@berrys (865)
• Singapore
27 Aug 08
In the country I live in showing public display of affection is actually frown upon. If one or rather a couple is caught doing so actions are actually taken against them. People can show affection but kissing and those kind of affection is not allowed at public malls and stuff. Honestly affection doesn't bother me but some people actually do get bothered
@DarkDancer (1012)
• Dayton, Ohio
27 Aug 08
I think a torrid display of public affection (kissing and hugging, if it needs to go farther, get a room ) are a beautiful thing. There's too much violence in the world and not enough displays of love. I think children need to see people who are in love acting like they are in love (cuddling, kissing) otherwise how will they learn what love is like?
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
27 Aug 08
It's fine with me to see ple hugging, cuddling and kssing in public.. It's absolutley fine with me because i often do that with my ex gfs.. lol =D As long as our PDA are not too affectionate, to the extend of almost like in their own bedroom, most ple will only stare and go.. The worst i have heard about is a young couple kissing on a train, and the hands are busy 'swimming' inside each other's clothes.. And that's way too much for PDA.. lol