how do you comfort your child if he is already out from the team?

@pinks17 (2192)
Philippines
August 27, 2008 4:52am CST
[b][i]Both my sons are attending to an exclusive school for boys and both of them are soccer players.My 2nd child was the one who was excluded from the team bec. he fell from a skateboard and slightly had a problem with his arm.He was a goal keeper from a soccer team in school. He called me one day and told me that I can't watch his game anymore bec. he was out from the team for not being able to attend the practices for a week and at the end of this month until December they will have to play and have a match with different schools. He was terribly disappointed bec. he has gone to therapies in order for him to play as the goalie for the team.But now that he is okay and he think he can play again,that's when his coach broke the news that they got a new goal keeper. I felt sad for my son and told him that he should try a different sports like basketball or swimming and just follow the footsteps of my ex-husband for being a swimmer and representative for his school.He answere me that what he really likes is to play soccer and he is just 10 years old to feel sad for not being part of the game. If this happens to your son how would you comfort him when you know that he gives everything for the team and he is dedicated for this sport that he is good at? Response is highly appreciated. pinksBEE [/i][/b]
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
27 Aug 08
This is a tough one! Is he able to play another position within the team? Or at least be given the chance to prove himself? Maybe the soccer coach can rotate between him and the new goalkeeper if none of these other options are available? Personally I think that the coach is not really being very fair. He missed practice for a week only yes? The last resort if he does not wish to play another sport and wants to stay attched to soccer is to ask the Coach if he can play another role within the team that is not actually playing for now? By doing this he can stay involved and maybe in time prove that he is up for the task?
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@pinks17 (2192)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
[i][b]Hi James72. Well he already talked to the coach.Just imagine a 10 year old kid talked to an adult and pleaded that he can play and in good condition for the playing the position of a goal keeper but that's what I thought also when he discussed to me that he was already excluded from the team.The coach was unfair.I wanted to speak to the coach but I already texted my ex-husband to talk to the coach and ask to include my son.But my ex-husband told me that..my son deserved it bec.he didn't took care of himself from using the skateboard and he will just have to wait for the next tryouts.I don't know if I'll agree to his logic but again...my son proved to me that his arm is already okay and don't feel any pain at all.Do you see the dedication that my son showed?It's just so unfair.And I just told my son to concentrate on his subjects and just wait for the next tryouts.He had his whole season for being a goal keeper and he doesn't even want to watch his brothers game because he'll just miss playing it and he will see his team mates.See how it affects him. Your reply James72 is highly appreciated. pinksBEE [/b][/i]
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
27 Aug 08
Hmmm. Well maybe you can get your son into the mindset then that it is time to start training hard for the next season tryouts! He will probaboly throw himself into this with great enthusiasm and then come back next season bigger and better than ever! Good luck!
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• Canada
29 Aug 08
The best thing to do is to tell them that they did THEIR best, and that is all that you want from them. It doesn't matter what others think, or if they did not make the team, just as long as they did their personal best. Doing their best is all that really matters in the world,
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@pinks17 (2192)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
[i][b]Hello my friend. I am still comforting my boy and it's been few days already that he is missing the practice.They have a game this weekend and he is sad bec. he can't play for the team.But I told him that he could tryout next season. Have a nice day. pinksBEE [/b][/i]