Who takes care of you kids when you go to work?...

@aseretdd (13736)
Philippines
August 27, 2008 11:46pm CST
Well if you are a working parent... who takes care of your kids when you go to work... but if you are a stay at home parent... who takes care of them when you need to go out alone?... Do you have someone you can trust 100% or do you just take them with you everywhere you go?... For some lucky parents... they have their own parents... in-laws... siblings... aunts... or a trustworthy babysitter... but the last one is so difficult to find these days... I am one of the lucky ones who have in-laws to take care of my daughter when i go to work everyday... and if they are not available... i can always leave her to my own parents... but not everyday... because they live quit far form my apartment... So... who is your trusted someone to take care of your children while you are away...
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@SViswan (12071)
• India
28 Aug 08
I don't trust anyone. Now when I go to work, my younger one comes with me. He goes to the toddler group where I teach kindergarten and he stays back at school till I finish my work and we come home together. So, besides his teacher who takes care of him during school hours, I am the one who takes care of him. My older son is 8 and I have a neighbour who is a very good friend and I leave him there if I REALLY need to go anywhere. But I can't leave my younger one who is 21 months with anyone. If I really need to go somewhere and where I can't take him, I usually ask my house help to accompany me and leave him outside with her. She takes good care of him but I can't really leave her alone at home with him....she's young and wouldn't know what to do in case of an emergency. My in-laws live in another state and my parents in another continent! And anyways, my younger one would not stay with either one.....feeding him is really tough when someone else (including my husband) does it.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
My daughter is also quite difficult tof feed becaus she is such a picky eater... and my mother-in-law is the one who is up to the task... aside for me of course... i hope i can also have the same set up when my daughter starts going to school... or she can study in a school near my office... that way i can easily pick her up... Thanks for the response...
@SViswan (12071)
• India
29 Aug 08
My son feeds on his own...but most people want to feed him to save the trouble of cleaning up after himself...lol And that's where he refuses to eat. And sometimes, he just needs to be forcefully given the first spoon to eat and then he finishes his food in 10 minutes. I'm fortunate that I never had a problem feeding both my kids.....but I also know that I'm not the kind of mother who will try to feed a fussy child. I'd let them be till they are hungry and ask for food.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
31 Aug 08
My daughter is starting to ask for her own plate and spoon when eating... and eating on her own usually creates a lot of mess... good thing i am still able to convince her that i should just feed her... you are lucky with your sons... and i am quite lucky with my daughter too...
• Russian Federation
9 Sep 08
Hi, asertedd, we usually ask girl who is our friend to take care about our 1,9 years old sun. My wife is thinking to go to work in a short while, so we are going to hire our friend for full time to take care of child. And we have a 12 years old daughter, she also takes care of her small brother when we are absent for short time.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Well, as long as you can trust your friend 100% to take care of your kids... then it is okay... these days, it is so difficult to find someone who we can fully trust... Thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy every minute of your stay here...
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
3 Sep 08
[i]HI aseretdd, My friends here have babysitter whom they trusted a lot and working with them for quite sometime, so, when they want to do something, they can just drop the kids to the babysitter's house and enjoy works or appointments with less worries and hassles! My friends and relative back home, they can always ask their parents also and in-laws to take care the kids , that is nice there![/i]
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
It is alway good to have someone who is not related to us... that we can trust to take care of our young kids... especially the toddlers... but i am just glad that i have my parents and in-laws who i can turn to... they are the second best thing... and the first is the actual parent... Thanks for the response...
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
When i was working i have to leave my baby girl to my own mom and then my baby will go to his lola(my mother n-law) i pitch him every night and bring him there every morning which is so very tiresome because he cries everytime i leave him there. He ends up very sickly and also my daughter always go to the doctor and my work was very much affected..i decided to resign from my job and stay home and take good care of my kids, now they are all 3 kids, i just had another baby (she is now 2 months old) and i look after the three of them, its hard coz sometimes im left alone with three small children...but i manage even if its very exhausting...but yeah i love them and they are very dear to me...i could never leave them again in exchange for work...that is why im trying to be a working mother homebased that is...smile.
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
I feel the same way... i would love to leave my job and take care of my daughter full time... but right now... if i do that... we will starve... so i need to make this sacrifice... it is a good thing that my in-laws are good at taking care of her... she rarely gets sick... Thanks for the response...
@Seppy1984 (2148)
• United States
29 Aug 08
When I read your post it seemed like a great discussion to respond to. When it comes to my children I'm the stay-home mom and my husband is the working one. We live appox. 1 block from his parents and appox. 4 blocks from my parents. my youngest is only going on 4 months and we have gotten rid of our boys only about 4 times since we had him. And before we did have him the last time we were able to have time alone was about a good 3 months before we had our youngest. So they are always almost with us. My mom said she would love take them more then what she does but when she still has 3 teens living at home and one of them has a child of her own and when she has almost a 2 year old that she adopted it's hard for her cause she has a busy life which I understand cause my parents hardly ever get time alone or get to leave without the kids. Today is the first time in about a good 5 months and it is to go to a funurel. And as for his parents we arent to sure why they cant take our boys over night at least once week when they take the other grandchildren over night as much as they can. The way we do it here is that when he comes home from work he takes care of the boys and gives me a couple hours to myself on the computer and if he ever wants to take a walk without the children he does.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
Seems like you have your hands full right now... and i fully understand why... i only have one daughter... and it can really be crazy at times... and i don't have any time alone since my husband is working abroad... so my daughter and i spent the weekends together... Thanks for the response...
• United States
29 Aug 08
I'm a stay at home dad but not a shackled at home dad. If I have to leave and my wife's at work I just take the little wonders with me. It gives them a chance to see how things work in the world. Sometimes when my hair falls out after turning grey in one day my wife will "send me to the store" so I can get some fresh air. We move a lot and family is usually 24 to 10 hours away so they depend on me to take them places and do stuff. Often times I'm the only stay at home dad where I'm at so I've got a nice iPOD to keep me entertained while the kids do their thing.
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
Stay at home dads are becoming very common nowadays... and that is not something to be ashamed of... i am glad you are proud of being one... we all have to give our share in taking care of the family... that IPOD seems great... i hope i can get one in the future... Thanks for the response...
• Indonesia
29 Aug 08
My daughter is 4 years old now. I usually work, just quit my job because of some things, and I'm currently not working. When I work, I used to have a live in babysitter to take care of my daughter and also do housework. Now she's gone, she said she has to do something back home and I still couldn't find a good babysitter till now. Since I'm not working anymore, I take care my daughter. But I still plan to go back to work. If there is no babysitter, I usually have my Mom take care of my daughter. My mother in law live in another city so I couldn't ask her. Happy mylotting and have a nice day!!
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
Good thing you are not working right now... but when that time comes... your daughter will be attending school... so it would be a lot easier... and at least you have your mother to help you out... it is so difficult to find a good babysitter... Thanks for the response...
@SHAMRACK (8533)
• India
29 Aug 08
Dear friend, My sister's son is 2 year old and most of days my sister leave her child at my parents before she is going to her office. Luckily my sister and her husband house is just near to our home. It is my parents who looks after my sister's son.
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
That is a good thing... i live only one street away form my in-laws... so i take my daughter there every morning and fetch her in the afternoon... but since my in-laws are sick right now... i take my daugther to my parents' house... which is a 20 minutes away by jeep... quite tiring for me and my daughter... but that would do for now... Thanks for the response...
@GemmaR (8526)
28 Aug 08
I have a younger brother, and I have always had to look after him when my Mum and Dad were working. Before I was old enough to look after him though my Grandparents would come up during the day, but it's getting to be too much bother for them now, so I have offered to step in (I am adult after all.) and take time out from my social life whenever they need me to. They did offer to pay me the same rate that a babysitter would get, but I turned them down as they have done so much for me in the past and I would not be the person I am today without them.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
That is so good of you... seems like your parents brought you really well... i also remember taking care of my younger siblings... even fetching my younger sister from school... i sometimes hated it... but looking back... i am glad i was given the task... Thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy your stay here...
@angelface23 (2498)
• United States
28 Aug 08
My daughter just started daycare last week. She is two years old. Before that my grandma was watching her while I was working but she is getting up in age and it was hard for her to keep up with a very active toddler. Plus my baby never gets to be around other children so I thought daycare would be a good experience for her.
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
That is a good thing... it is often difficult to find a good day care center... but at least your child is around children her age who she can play with... the day care center here in my area would only take children age 4 - 6... so it will be a few years before i can enroll my daughter... Thanks for the response...
@anngab (9)
• Philippines
28 Aug 08
well, whenever im at work, i leave my son to our yaya, good thing that all the maids that we got lately is trustworthy and really taking good care of my son 1year old
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
That is a good thing... i remember we has maids who would spank us without any reason at all... but that is all in the past... and right now... it is a good thing that my in-laws are take care of my daughter when i go to work... Thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy every minute of your stay here...
• United States
28 Aug 08
I am a stay at home mother of a 4 & 1 1/2 year old. I use to have family that kept my 4 yr old when she was a baby where me and my husband could go out, but not anymore. I stay at home because its too expensive to put them in a good daycare and only get a babysitter which is a friend of mine and thats only on occasions. My dad will watch the oldest sometimes, but he gets stressed real easy when it comes to kids. The fact is no one can care for your kids the way you do!!
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
That is true... only parents can give the love and care their kids deserve... but sad to say... with the way thing are in the world economy... both parents need to work in order to make ends meet... good thing you are able to stay at home... i wish i can do that... Thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy your stay here...
@youless (94301)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Aug 08
You are so lucky to have them to take good care of your child. My child goes to the kindergarten everyday except for Saturday and Sunday. When I go to work, then my aunt will send him to kindergarten in the morning and also take him home in the afternoon. After that, my mom will look after him until I am home. I love China
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
Well, at least you have it all set up... it is good that you can rely on your aunt and mother to take care of your child while you are at the office... and since he is already attending school... life is a lot easier than before... Thanks for the response...
• United States
28 Aug 08
when my kids were small hubby and i worked different hours and swtiched them between us. it was hard but i tried daycare once for a few months and well they hated it, i hated it, they got sick, it was a nightmare. when they got older we moved to the country so that the price of living was cheaper and well i went to work and hubby stayed home and does odd jobs, etc. we home school the kids too so therefore he has a full time job with that lol. i have let family members watch the kids a few times and well it was not a good idea. i have a sister n law that i would let the kids stay with and shoot i will let them go to her house for a week during summer. she is great but she lives 4 hours away so that doesnt happen often. now that the kids are 11 and 13 they stay home alone when we go to the store soemtimes cause we are gone like 30 mins and the neighbor watches the house lol.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
Living in the country with kids is much easier than living in the city... since neighbors usually watch over each others houses... and i agree when it comes to day care centers... children get infected with virus all the time... good thing you were able to work thing out with your husband... and homeschooling the kids is a good idea... Thanks for the response...
• United States
28 Aug 08
I have a 10 year old son and my mother or my sister takes him when I have to work. If they are not available my grandparents do it. I have it good though, I only work 9-3 so he is in school while I work most of the time. Other than shool breaks or my Saturday job when my sister takes him.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
You certainly have it good... that would be my situation when my daughter starts going to school... but that would be in 3 - 4 years time... but good thing we both have family members to turn to when we need someone to take care of our kids... Thanks for the response...
@Anne18 (11036)
28 Aug 08
Well I am lucky that I always work from home so can work around the children. When they are at school I work all day, when they are on holidays then I only work a couple of hours in the afternoon. My hubsand works night shifts so he looks after the children. I try to fit my outings in when the children are at school or husband again looks after them. We don't seem to go out as a couple, costs too much
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
Going out as a couple or even as a family is really costly nowadays... so i know what you mean... good thing you work from home... so you can always look after your children... i would love to have that kind of job... but what i have right now is the next best thing... Thanks for the response...
@Sreekala (23749)
• India
28 Aug 08
I am sending my kids to the baby sitter. We are living away from our native place so my parents and in-laws are not available. Earlier my mother-in-law was with us to look after the elder one. She left us because of her aged problems (She is 74), the climate is also not suitable to her at this age. My mother is no more so I have no otherway. In the initial stage I have some problems but now the kids are also adjusted with the new atmosphere.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
As long as you can trust the babysitter 100% then there will be no problem... i can understand why your mother-in-law cannot take care of your kids anymore... at that age... she should always be resting... Thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy every minute of your stay here...
• Philippines
28 Aug 08
I'm a single mother and I really need to go to work for me and my daughter's needs. When I go to work, my father takes care of her. Sometimes my mother when she's at home. Most of the time my daughter is left with my father. There is a disadvantage because my daughter become a spoiled brat. My father always give what my daughter wants. Because my father really don't know how to take care of toddlers sometimes when I go home, I can see my daughter very untidy and not yet eating dinner. When I see this I just want to quit working to take care of her but it's impossible. We will starve if I will not work. But infairness to my father even he didn't took care of us when we were young he is doing his best for my daughter.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
I know what you mean... our fathers did not even lift a finger to take care of us... but now that they are assigned the task to take care of our kids... they tend to spoil them rotten... that is one of my concern with my father-in-law and even my own father... good thing my mother and mother-in-law are there to balance thing... Thanks for the response...
• India
28 Aug 08
Well I am so very lucky to have had in-laws who took care of my son since he was born. I rejoined my office leaving my 45 days old baby to my MIL who has since cared for him. Recently I have moved out of my in-laws house and stay near my parents, so now I keep my son with them.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
We are both lucky in that aspect... my mother cannot take care of my baby because she already had her hands full with my 3 year old niece... but i am glad my in-laws are available... and they even volunteered to take care of my daughter when i go to work... It is a blessing to have such great in-laws... thanks for the response...
@nishdan01 (3055)
• Singapore
28 Aug 08
I look after my son as I am not working. I am a parent looking for job, but was never fortunate. I am happy that my son has grown well under mu guidance and for that reason I am happy. At times, I take help of my friend to take care at times,not always. Else, I ask my husband to adjust at his office to take care for few hours when I go out. My husband can work from home if required.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
I think the main reason why your son grew well... is because you were always there for him... so it is a good thing you were not able to get a job... since you were able to concentrate on taking care of him... if given the chance... i would choose just to stay at home... but that is not possible for us right not... Thanks for the response...