Would You Still Trust A Spouse or Lover Who Cheated On You?

@acevivx (1566)
Philippines
August 28, 2008 9:43am CST
It is a fact that even in the best of relationships where true love exists, betrayals and cheating can happen. It may be due to so many reasons such as lack of time or attention for your spouse or lover due to work or other concerns, or you take him/her for granted, or maybe he/she is just weak and easily tempted or feels neglected and so becomes an easy prey to temptations. But cheating or betrayals do not always mean that the cheating spouse or lover no longer loves you. If you caught your husband/wife or lover cheating on you would you be able to forgive him/her and if you do, would you be able to trust him/her again?
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5 responses
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
28 Aug 08
I wouldn't be able to forgive him. I also wouldn't be able to trust him again. If I was so terrible to him that he ended up cheating he should have just left me rather than cheat. I think cheating hurts much worse. I know some people will forgive their partner and keep the relationship going but I couldn't do that. I would drive myself crazy looking for signs that he was cheating again. I could live my life like that, always worrying if he was going to do it again or suspecting him of doing it again.
• India
28 Aug 08
i agree with u ..i dnt know why people can't be straight up with honesty..
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
30 Aug 08
That's the point of the discussion. Once you caught your spouse/lover cheating, would you be able to keep it from your mid and not think of the possibility that if he did it once he could do it again. It indeed seems so difficult to again trust a cheating spouse or lover. the suspicion would always be there and in the end it might be best to go your own separate ways.
@ehlsie (730)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
Me.I've cheated many times by my ex-boyfriend..At first I forgive him because I thought he'll change and never do it again but he cheated on me not twice but many times!!!!In the end, I'm the one who broke up with him.I'm willing to forgive but I'm not that stupid to continue my relationship with him. One is enough and two is too much...We should learned that in a relationship trust is the most important and cheating is a mortal sin!!!!
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
30 Aug 08
Good for you that you have sent him on his way. But the fact that you gave him another chance to cheat on you shows that you gave him the benefit of the doubt despite his act of betrayal. You trusted him still after his first cheating. That's not being stuoid. That's being in love with the guy. But its good you decided not to tolerate any further shenanigans from him by dropping him as you did.
@chiyosan (29419)
• Philippines
28 Aug 08
hi there.. to be honest, i would probably be thinking of him as a cheater the whole time if i just let him be. i mean if a person cheats then he is a cheater. and that's it.
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
30 Aug 08
I wouldn't blame you if you would do that. I also would have that thought in my mind and i would find it very hard to ever trust him again.
• United States
28 Aug 08
Forgiving them, Yes. The bible states that unless we forgive we cannot be forgiven. Trust them. That would depend on a time of trust building. I believe it would be possible to trust them again. If they are not willing to prove they are trust worthy then it would be much more difficult.
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
30 Aug 08
Hi doubleloveyou. Forgiving is quite different from trusting. I agree that it is quite possible to forgive an act of betrayal but it might indeed be very difficult to trust again and give them a chance to betray and hurt you again. While you would give them a chance to prove trustworthy it would indeed require a lot of effort not to think that if he/she did it once that he/she can do it again.It would be a strong man or woman who would be able not only to forgive but to give another chance again to the guilty party.
• Philippines
28 Aug 08
I really dont know what to do , maybe ill cross the bridge when i get there. It so hard to say that i will trust him again but its not really fair also if i will say i will not . Maybe when time comes ( i hope not) i would make a decision.
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
30 Aug 08
I hope when you reach the brige that you will make the right decision. i know how difficult it would be if you still love the guy but cant forget the act of betrayal. there would alwyas be a doubt in your mind which could undermine the relationship in the long run,