I don't care why you did it, I just want it to stop!

@dawnald (84147)
Shingle Springs, California
August 28, 2008 12:28pm CST
Do you ever have a situation where your partner is acting a certain way? Angry, suspicious or some other negative thing? And when you talk about it, the response is, "I'm only doing this because you did, you said, you whatever." But whatever you did or said is so long ago and they just won't drop it even though you never did it again, you did whatever they wanted to make it up to them etc. Do you ever get to the point where you don't care WHY they're doing it any more, you just want it to stop?
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@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
28 Aug 08
Absolutely! Some people just can't let go of past hurts. When my husband and I argue, he can't stick to the subject at hand, but manages to bring up every mistake I've made in the past also. It is getting harder to deal with after 20 years, and I'm getting awful tired of living with someone who never forgives.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Aug 08
Yep at some point you really just have to let go and forgive or you make yourself and everybody around you totally miserable!
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@cmofi123 (344)
• United States
28 Aug 08
I can see and relate what you ladies are going trough. But havent you notice that sometimes people act as if they forget things. For example my hubby: I tell him, You don't change the baby's pampers. He acts as if I'm lying and that it was a one time slip, then I start bringing up all the times I have found the baby with a dirty pamper. Now I know the other times are past, but he acts as if he had never missed one that's why I bring the past back to remind him and to make my point clear. I figure that's why people do that. But I know that it's annoying sometimes when it's not related to what is happening in the present.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Aug 08
In your case, with a recurring behavior, it's completely understandable. But when the behavior has stopped, and for a very long time, it gets to a point where the criticism or whatever becomes intolerable.