do you have a partner like this?
August 28, 2008 12:37pm CST
I have been married for 3 years now and I have 3 kids. My husband is 4 years younger than me but age is really not the problem here. Lately, he has been very silent and rarely talks to me or not at all. I have to goad him and persuade him to at least talk to me, even when we lie down in our bed, I ask him how his day was, he would just tell me its fine…I ask him things he really won’t talk or open up to me. Its not that he does not love me because I can feel and I can see that he is in love with me and the children, it is just hard at times because most of the day I do not have no one to talk to and im waiting for him to come home so that I have a company and silence is what I get.
• United States
28 Aug 08
Yes , I do have a man like this. I feel your pain. But I think that my situation is different than yours. I just our 1st baby 6 weeks ago. Before I got pregnant I was very slender, only 110lbs. I gained a whopping 70lbs during my pregnancy. Unfortunetly our son was only 4lbs 12oz when he was born. My guy says that I gained so much weight that our baby could not gain any weight. He says that he is still attracted to me but I need to lose weight. He never shows me any attention anymore and always talks of other girls. There is no affection anymore and I am left with hurt feelings all of the time. It sounds as though you know that your man is still in love with you. Luckily for you things will more than likely get better for you. Good luck and keep us posted. Barb
3 Sep 08
I used to have a boyfriend that like that but yeah I didn't stand his attitude so I broke up with him because I mean I can really say that it's not a relationship anymore because if your partner can't talk to you or open to you about anything I mean it means he don't trust you at all because we already know that good communication is always important in two people.Well Lucky me right now because my fiancee is very talkative and expressive and I am happy with it.Well the best you can do is confront him and ask him if it there is any problem to both of ya because yeah his not talkin anymore and that is not good.GOod luck buddy and have a nice day.
• United States
28 Aug 08
My husband used to be like this at the start of our relationship, and then as the months and years went by he became more talkative. I suppose that some men are more opened up then others. Is he always like this? I can understand spending alot of time not really having someone to speak to and when he comes home you just want to unload on him and let him know how your day has gone and ask him how was his day. I am the same way and sometimes though my husband just doesn't want to talk to me at the moment. He may have had a bad day or just needs time to unload.