would you say mean words to a dear friend just to open up his/her eyes?
August 28, 2008 1:19pm CST
if you have a friend who is into something and you recognized the he/she is suffering emotionally because of it would you say mean words just to awaken him/her not to dwell on that situation or circumstance to much to prevent him/her from getting hurt? i know i tend to be blunt at times when i need to just to help my friends from realizing that what they are doing in not healthy for him/her. i know i may hurt them in the process but as much as possible i explain with them the purpose or reason why i am doing it, it is for their own welfare and not to humiliate them. i don't want my friends getting hurt without me helping them realized that what they might sulk to is not worth sulking for.
• United States
2 Sep 08
I would and I did. But this is only after numerous times of gently telling them what I think and what I'm trying to do. I think we go to our friends for comfort first and we tell them why we are miserable. It takes us a while to realize and understand that a good friend can only take so much of seeing their friends cry over the same thing again and again without doing anything about it. But then again, it's always easier to give advice than to take it.